[Funny Face]

I am a nursing student and my dh and I have a 14 month old daughter. I became pregnant last December, which was a surprise, and I lost the baby recently. We have talked about, if we are ready emotionally, ttc so that I would be due to give birth next May, right at the end of my school semester so it would be less stressful than taking an entire semester off because I would be due in the middle of it.<br><br>
We plan to tttc only around the time that would make me due in May and if I do not become pregnant we would put it off for awhile, until I graduate next December. We figure if we don't become pg during that time period it will also be a sign that we should wait awhile.<br><br>
Has anyone tried something like this? What was your experience, did it work well or is it too much pressure? I figure it will give me two cycles to try. Anyone else ttc on a more strict timeline? I'd love some insight...<br><br>
TIA!

 

[smokeylo]

Hi,<br>
I'm in a similar situation as you. We have an "ideal" birthing window (summer '08) that would be great to get pregnant in. But the thought of putting that much pressure on ttc in one (or even 2 or 3) month turns both me and DH off... We basically decided that if we're ready to have a baby, we're ready to have a baby, come what may... so we're ttc now and if the baby isn't made for another 3 or 4 months, ok! If not, we'll figure something out.<br><br>
Although I have 2 friends who got pregnant their first months trying, I know that there's no guarantee that with perfect timing I'd get pregnant in our "window"... and then I'd still want to have a baby, and then we'd still be ttc anyway even if it messes with our school schedule!! However, if you guys feel like you could stop when the window closes... go for it, I guess! I just know that to me, a messed up semester isn't worth putting this off anymore (we deferred for a year last summer and I am READY!).<br><br>
Good luck making this call. It's a rough road being students and wannabe parents.

 

[laneysprout]

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This is exactly what we did...I work in academia and knew I didn't want to have to worry about giving birth in the middle of a semester, finding coverage for courses, etc. We started TTC and got pregnant the very first month. If we hadn't, we would have tried for a few more months and then taken a break until conceiving would result in a beginning/end of the semester babe. We didn't feel too much pressure either way and would have just kept trying this way ubtil it happened.

 

[kwilki8]

I'm a teacher, so it was very important to me to have my baby in the spring so that I would not have to return to school until the fall. We had two target months to conceive and were fortunate enough to be successful on the first try. The baby's due date was perfect; I had enough sick leave saved to allow me to begin my leave one week before dd was due and stay out for the rest of the school year. Then I ended up on bedrest at 33 weeks and dd arrived at 36 weeks. So much for my perfect planning!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">

 

[FtMPapa]

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hi,<br>
I'm in a similar situation as you. We have an "ideal" birthing window (summer '08) that would be great to get pregnant in. But the thought of putting that much pressure on ttc in one (or even 2 or 3) month turns both me and DH off... We basically decided that if we're ready to have a baby, we're ready to have a baby, come what may... so we're ttc now and if the baby isn't made for another 3 or 4 months, ok! If not, we'll figure something out.<br>
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Good luck making this call. It's a rough road being students and wannabe parents.</div>
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I just decided the same thing. Last cycle would have put my due date in the middle of the winter intersession break (about six weeks off) which would have been perfect. If I wait a few more months, I'll be due in the summer, which would be perfect, too - but I don't know that I have those months to wait, so I'm going to keep trying and if it doesn't happen until after the school year starts, well, that's just how it's meant to be.<br><br>
It is a rough road being students - though untenured faculty have it nearly as bad, if not quite as hard financially. Having seen friends go through it as junior faculty, it's a major part of my motivation to conceive now rather than later.

 

[sapphire_chan]

Did it last year, currently waiting for August. For me it's been easy though since I've been on the same cycle since February.<br><br>
Think of it as "there are only two cycles, we can rest later" and BD your hearts out. Not "there are only two cycles, we've got to get this done" because that's a good way to end up with *no* sex drive. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">