Hi all:<br><br>
So, i have read many many posts in all the different areas on this board. It seems that many of you <i>(myself included)</i> just don't see eye to eye with the MIL. It not always something specific, but many times it is. It seems that many times its our "crunchy-ish" ways vs her "offering advise" usually mainstream, and her not honoring YOUR decisions as parents.<br><br>
So my question is: Do those of you who have sons (i do)....are you worried about being that MIL? What if your son has a child with a girl who schedules her c-section, formula feeds from the begining, spoon shovels baby food at 4 months, CIO, vaccinate right on schedule ect ect ect Do you become THAT MIL? Offering your thoughts, even if that then means that the DIL probably runs to her chat boards and her mom complaining of her crazy MIL that won't butt out? And then the advise that she gets it going to be to have her DH talk to his mom (you) about it.<br>
Or do you just sit back and watch in horror while your DIL messes up your grandbaby?<br>
I know its crazy of me to be worried about this (my DS is 5 months!), but this is really one of the reasons that i wanted a DD, vs a DS. I know that in theory any sons that are raised by us are hopefully going to pick a woman who has the same beliefs that he does, BUT men just often don't care as much about this kind of stuff, and i doubt that he would grill some girl about it and break off a serious relationship over it. We all know that its the women who seem to do the research and many times make these kind of decisions.<br><br>
FYI, I am not trying to generalize, or say anything negative with my examples, or say that men are not involved, i am just trying to bottom line my worries and see if anyone else has thought about this.<br>
I know what I talk to my mom about in regards to my MIL, and i don't want to be talked about <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
thanks for listening to me be crazy.<br>
-L
So, i have read many many posts in all the different areas on this board. It seems that many of you <i>(myself included)</i> just don't see eye to eye with the MIL. It not always something specific, but many times it is. It seems that many times its our "crunchy-ish" ways vs her "offering advise" usually mainstream, and her not honoring YOUR decisions as parents.<br><br>
So my question is: Do those of you who have sons (i do)....are you worried about being that MIL? What if your son has a child with a girl who schedules her c-section, formula feeds from the begining, spoon shovels baby food at 4 months, CIO, vaccinate right on schedule ect ect ect Do you become THAT MIL? Offering your thoughts, even if that then means that the DIL probably runs to her chat boards and her mom complaining of her crazy MIL that won't butt out? And then the advise that she gets it going to be to have her DH talk to his mom (you) about it.<br>
Or do you just sit back and watch in horror while your DIL messes up your grandbaby?<br>
I know its crazy of me to be worried about this (my DS is 5 months!), but this is really one of the reasons that i wanted a DD, vs a DS. I know that in theory any sons that are raised by us are hopefully going to pick a woman who has the same beliefs that he does, BUT men just often don't care as much about this kind of stuff, and i doubt that he would grill some girl about it and break off a serious relationship over it. We all know that its the women who seem to do the research and many times make these kind of decisions.<br><br>
FYI, I am not trying to generalize, or say anything negative with my examples, or say that men are not involved, i am just trying to bottom line my worries and see if anyone else has thought about this.<br>
I know what I talk to my mom about in regards to my MIL, and i don't want to be talked about <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
thanks for listening to me be crazy.<br>
-L