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My family, just wow. I got my wedding dress today - my Mom went to pick it up. I went over to her house, tried it on to show my Dad. Mom accidentally stepped on the gown with her shoes on as I was walking in it, so I yelled 'Mom!' She proceeded to throw a fit, refused to babysit for me while I work tomorrow (meaning I can't work) and also tonight, while means my fiance and I can't go on our date, which we've been looking forward to all week - it's our favorite band and some of our friends are in it.<br><br>
THEN I find out that even though my Dad lost his job, my brother is trying to 'borrow' $2000 dollars from him to go back to school (read - goof off). He's 25. My Dad is already struggling, and is barely able to help us with anything for the wedding, which means that I'm not getting a dream wedding, which is fine, because my parents are more important, but apparently not to my brother!!!<br><br>
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I know that you are just venting...but perhaps it would be kind to your family to not expect any help at all for your wedding either? I don't know your brother so I cannot comment on his character, but from my bystander's POV someone's college education would be higher on my priority list than a wedding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">.<br><br>
Hugs though. Planning a wedding is stressful no matter the financial situation.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry your mom had such an overreaction.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know that you are just venting...but perhaps it would be kind to your family to not expect any help at all for your wedding either? I don't know your brother so I cannot comment on his character, but from my bystander's POV someone's college education would be higher on my priority list than a wedding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">.<br><br>
Hugs though. Planning a wedding is stressful no matter the financial situation.</div>
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I'm talking about $500. For a once in a lifetime event. My brother is 25 and has been living off my parents for years.<br><br>
I asked my parents what they could afford. My Dad has always wanted to buy my dress, so that's what their contribution is. Just the dress. We're doing the rest ourselves.<br><br>
If he was really going to get an education and better himself it'd be different <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
But, thanks for your POV - always good to get other ones.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know that you are just venting...but perhaps it would be kind to your family to not expect any help at all for your wedding either? I don't know your brother so I cannot comment on his character, but from my bystander's POV someone's college education would be higher on my priority list than a wedding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">.\</div>
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Not a 25 year old. He doesn't have to list his parent's income on FAFSA and can get plenty of aid.
 

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My guess is that your mom is feeling stressed that they can't do more for you for your wedding. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
It will be lovely, your marriage will be far more fun than the wedding, and your father is an adult who can tell you brother to get a job and save his own money.
 

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I hope your wedding is amazing. Despite your feelings today~<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 
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