have you checked your son's penis today?

Well, being the mom of a circed and intact son, I know that I just didn't want to look at my first son's damaged penis . He did have some adhesions once and so I had to apply vaseline for forever it seemed. I just hated it.

I get no guilt looking at my youngest son's penis while changing diapers though. So while I don't go looking at it especially, I do give it the once over, just like everything else, to make sure that there's no rash or hiding poop. Guilt did not lead me to look away.

I dunno, I had the attitude from the get-go to just leave it alone which is why I didn't circ. I still have the same attitude.
The only time I've ever paid much mind was the one time my older son had pain and needed cream for a small tear he inflicted upon himself. (due to over-zealous exploration). I just figure their bodies are their own and I will only be involved when needed, or asked.

I don't really notice it one way or another. Once the tip of it got quite red and irritated-looking so we gave him some extra plain-water baths and changed him more frequently for a few days. I actually think it might have been a detergent issue, we washed diapers at a relative's house. But it was red enough that any person with two eyes would have been concerned, whether it was intact or circ'ed. It got better fast.

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Well I think you have to think about the fact that this is a board about leaving babies intact. That means a lot of people who are having problems with their son's penis might come here to ask for advice. So it may look like people here are having more problems, when in fact if this a place to talk about intact penises you are going to have a lot of questions (does that make sense?).

I have participated in several expecting club bulletin boards and I have heard many a penis questions, even with circumcised babies. Diaper rashes and other problems are *extremely* common in babies so it's not surprising that moms will have questions about genitals as well as other aspects of physical and emotional development.

I don't think moms of intact babies examine their son's penises any more than any other parent does. Small children tend to have genitals that get easily irritated and it's not unusual for a parent to ask questions about it. I have 3 daughters and I have had a lot more questions and problems with their genitals over the years. Unfortunately I haven't seen any female genital question bulletin board :LOL or else you would probably see a lot of questions there, too!

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: things like, why does my niece think it is comfortable to PULL like that????

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That paragraph hit the nail on the head. I know of several moderators at other boards who send their members here for advice and many members at many boards do the same. You can also google almost anything about circumcision and this board will show up in the results, often within the first 3 or 4 sites plus, we have a large audience of members here at MDC with intact sons to draw from.

You can see evidence of this at the bottom of the main forum page. There is almost always a significant number of "Guests" who are here viewing information without being registered. They are lurkers. Look at the number of brand new members we have had just this week where their first post is in this forum. This forum is a drawing card for all of MDC and is bringing significant numbers of members to the site. Since this board is almost exclusively about intact penises, we get a far larger number of parents of intact sons and thus a far larger number of the occasional problems. That by itself would make it appear that there are more problems than actually exist.

Frank

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: What Frank said!(then again, when is it isn't :LOL )

When you know better, you do better Momma!

Tara

Oh, I definitly don't avoid this forum for fear of being ridiculed or that I don't fit in, but it is hard for me because I still haven't come to terms with it. I don't cry everytime I change my sons diaper, I don't feel guilt everytime I look at his penis, but it hurts so deep inside that coming here brings it all to the top and I usually end up crying. Luckily it has gotten easier, but it is still hard.

I have read the sticky, and I am pretty sure I posted in that one, or in a similiar one about my 'story'. I know I am not alone and I know there are a lot of woman who come here who have circ and now regret it. But I am sure there are also woman who don't frequent here because it is so hard.

I think that everyone who posted in this thread has an intact son, or at least, not an unitact son. It doesn't mean that I don't pay more attention to my sons penis than the intatct mothers, which is sort of what I felt the OP was saying. Eventhough I am sure she didn't mean it like that, but that is how I preceived it. I definitly was not trying to throw the thread off topic I just wanted to state that my son is unitact and that I examine him just as any attentive mother would.

no worries. i was just trying to get opinions. i had absolutely no preconceived info on the question, so it wasn't a test or anything. my friends who circ, don't talk about it. possibly it is because they know my son is intact and therefore they just don't talk to me? very possibe. so, just trying to get some opinions. the questions i asked were just thoughts i had that might explain it to me.

thanks for all the opinions. if anyone else, with intact or not son has any other ideas, feel free to share!