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I am looking for a new apartment for DS & I, I have to cut costs and I want to be closer to work, where I hope to be going to grad school, our friends, etc. I have looked at A LOT of places in the area I want to be in and I am starting to really feel like we are being discriminated against because I am a single mom with a toddler. I have a good job, great references, all that, but we have yet to "win" an apartment that I wanted. I found a place that has three apartments available (its a 3 flat, so all of them), it is a few blocks out of the area I really want to be in but I am getting desperate (a few blocks in Philly can make a big difference). I was torn between the first floor, a very large two bedroom but $200.00 more than the 2nd floor, and the 2nd floor, a VERY large 1 bedroom, I mean huge. I had finally decided on the second floor and the guy called me and said they had decided that the 2nd floor wasn't a good use of space, being a one bedroom with two people (ds & I) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: and that I could have the 1st floor or the third floor (not interested at all in the 3rd floor).<br><br>
Anyway, I'm really peeved - I wanted the second floor, mostly because it is really beautiful, but I would feel much safer than on the first floor - I just don't know if I will be secure there, its not the greatest neighborhood. I explained to him that we co-sleep so it wasn't a big deal and that my son does have a twin bed and it would go in the room too. The place is HUGE, bigger than the three bedroom we live in now. Do I really want to have a landlord like this?<br><br>
With all of the other places I really do feel like we are being discriminated against because I have a toddler. I get all kinds of dopey questions and excuses....A few weeks ago I found another place I really loved, it was a two bedroom on a great street and the landlords had a dd the same age as ds and they co-sleep, she is still bfing, they are very AP. I really thought they were going to give it to us. They called me a couple of days later and the husband, talking to me like a father, said that even though I said the second floor would be fine (it would be) they felt I would regret it and it wasn't the right place....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Have you guys experienced this?
 

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Do you think it might hae anything to do with tenant ratios. I think, depending on the state, there are certain regulations about men/women sharing rooms together (other than spouses) and the ratio of children/parent rooms. i.e. Legally a child over the age of ___ needs to have his/her own room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I"m so sorry you're going through this
 

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OMG yes. But with the city housing, which in my opinion is totally worse.<br><br>
You know they'll allow a single Mum and her DAUGHTER to share a 1 bedroom, but if you have a son, even if they are infants/not born yet, you MUST have a 2 bedroom.<br><br>
The wait for a 2 bedroom in my town is 2 years. Where am i going to live during that 2 years? The wait for a one bedroom is a matter of months. If that.<br><br>
I was so angry. Because really, that second bedroom is GOING to be used for a playroom. DS is a toddler! He will be co-sleeping with me for at least a little while longer (dependant upon him, but he shows no signs of wanting to be in his own bed, even though i do have a toddler bed set up for him.)<br><br>
Anyway. I completely understand how you're feeling. UGH. how frustrating.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Do you think it might hae anything to do with tenant ratios. I think, depending on the state, there are certain regulations about men/women sharing rooms together (other than spouses) and the ratio of children/parent rooms. i.e. Legally a child over the age of ___ needs to have his/her own room. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I"m so sorry you're going through this</div>
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I checked, there is nothing like that in my state for just regular rental housing.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">OMG yes. But with the city housing, which in my opinion is totally worse.<br><br>
You know they'll allow a single Mum and her DAUGHTER to share a 1 bedroom, but if you have a son, even if they are infants/not born yet, you MUST have a 2 bedroom.<br><br>
The wait for a 2 bedroom in my town is 2 years. Where am i going to live during that 2 years? The wait for a one bedroom is a matter of months. If that.<br><br>
I was so angry. Because really, that second bedroom is GOING to be used for a playroom. DS is a toddler! He will be co-sleeping with me for at least a little while longer (dependant upon him, but he shows no signs of wanting to be in his own bed, even though i do have a toddler bed set up for him.)<br><br>
Anyway. I completely understand how you're feeling. UGH. how frustrating.</div>
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This stuff makes me so angry!!! These are babies....my ds is no where near wanting to sleep in his own bed, he has a room now but it is just a playroom with a single bed that we use for guests or whatever. I can't believe that there are different rules for a daughter vs. a son....there is something really wrong in our society!
 

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We've been discriminated against but based more on race than age.<br><br>
A few years ago I was looking for a house to rent to share with my friend, her daughter (baby) and her younger brother (teenager). I did the house hunting on my own because my friend had just started a new job. The first 10 houses or so I looked at I took the baby with me. We put in applications on 6 of them and didn't get a single one. I then went to 4 more by myself (without baby) and we got all 4 of them.<br><br>
All 10 landlords knew the ages of the occupants and how they were related to each other. The only piece of info the first landlords had that the second didn't was the fact the the baby (and by assumption her mom and uncle) was black. I truly believe that was the reason we were turned down.
 

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We were sort of discriminated against a few years ago. What happened was I went to a property management office to ask about some rental houses that had been advertised. DH was unemployed and we were beyond broke, it was ridiculous. So they had a couple houses on their list that were in the $400 range, very low for the area. The property manager flat out refused to show them to me. I had DS, then about 9 months old, with me and she said something like, "I couldn't let your beautiful baby live in that neighborhood." I drove through the neighborhood and looked at the houses form the curb anyway and honestly I've lived way worse places, it really didn't faze me. But she was only willing to show us properties that were more in the $700+ range. It was very frustrating, I felt her behavior was not appropriate. We ended up finding a house on our own through the newspaper.
 

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YES but it's legal since my ex ruined my credit. I have 3 children and people were so sweet to me but then didn't ever call me back and I had to track them down to find out they'd already rented to someone else.<br><br>
When I was married with one child, people took our first month or depoisit on the spot and gave it to us. EASY
 
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