Have you seen "The Business of Being Born?"
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Yes, we loved it! How could you have a hospital birth after seeing that? Unless, of course, that is what is best for you.
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Btw, I shot a model yesterday who told me that her hopital birth was $16k, and she had to pay $4k out of pocket! And I thought that the $3k I have to pay a midwife was high!
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yup...great movie!!
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I thought the message was good, but as far as documentaries go I thought the film making was pretty bad
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But again, the message was good.
If you like marsden wagner, there's a book called creating your birth plan that he wrote.
If you like marsden wagner, there's a book called creating your birth plan that he wrote.
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Unfortunately some women just don't have a choice. Either they're too "high risk" for a homebirth, or there are no birth centers around, or the midwives are scarce and already booked, or they can't afford a homebirth, etc. I'm one of them. Our birthing situation in this country is so, so screwed up. It's very sad and frustrating.
Originally Posted by Spring Sun  Yes, we loved it! How could you have a hospital birth after seeing that? Unless, of course, that is what is best for you. |
I have to agree, I'd LOVE to have a homebirth and use a really nice midwife with the option of getting 'transferred' if necessary - saw the movie and LOVED it - loved it as a MOVIE, as well....I thought it was really well done, and loved the au propos of the clips from that slapstick movie they used (can't remember the name?)
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too funny!
However - if I use my insurance and go to a hospital - my OOP cost is exactly $10. (not including the exorbant cost of my premiums, that is - we pay $600 a month for insurance! and my husband is a TEACHER!) That's right, my $10 co-pay for prenatal care and then everything else is covered. (and that's even better than my last two births for which I paid $200 total). If I chose to have a homebirth, and ended up needing to get transferred (since the nearest hospital in MY insurance is over 30 minutes away) - I would likely end up paying for my ENTIRE cost.
I can't take that risk. Even though ultimately it would be ideal for me, yk?
However - if I use my insurance and go to a hospital - my OOP cost is exactly $10. (not including the exorbant cost of my premiums, that is - we pay $600 a month for insurance! and my husband is a TEACHER!) That's right, my $10 co-pay for prenatal care and then everything else is covered. (and that's even better than my last two births for which I paid $200 total). If I chose to have a homebirth, and ended up needing to get transferred (since the nearest hospital in MY insurance is over 30 minutes away) - I would likely end up paying for my ENTIRE cost.
I can't take that risk. Even though ultimately it would be ideal for me, yk?
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DH and I watched it when we were TTC. I'm getting together with my 2 preggo IRL friends to watch it again...I can't wait! I LOVED the movie and recommend it to every pregnant woman. It helped me convince DH that we should have a HB, so that might be part of my attachment.
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It makes me really angry that women have to choose where to birth based on cost. I firmly believe that every woman should be able to choose where to give birth based on where she is most comfortable.
i watched the movie when i was pregnant and loved it very much... despite some technical drawbacks, it is indeed a great movie to see for someone who is planning or about to have a child, but here's the thing...
i wouldn't advise it to anyone with a possibility of having birth in hospital.
if you know you're gonna be at home or birthing center, or if you are still considering (in that case, its a great movie to see to make the right choice for you) it's good, but if you know you are gonna be at the hospital (like i did) i would actually strongly advise against it - watch it after you have the baby...
after i watched it, i just kept having this image of me going to the hospital and doctors and nurses poking and proding me, and medicating me and stuff like that, but
in the end my hospital experience was nothing like that at all...
it was everything me and my husband wanted and the staff was totally respectful of our wishes, we turned off the lights, everyone was very very quiet, they didnt start me on pitocin even though it took me FOREVER to get over 4 cm, they waited till the cord stopped pulsating after the baby was born, didnt insist on the eye ointment and so on...
i think it is important to surround yourself with positive images before birth, and while the movie is great, it might not be the best thing to see for someone who IS pregnant and KNOWS she'll go to the hospital...
BTW, sorry to barge in on you like that
im not in your club, just noticed this thread as i was scrolling down the forums
i wouldn't advise it to anyone with a possibility of having birth in hospital.
if you know you're gonna be at home or birthing center, or if you are still considering (in that case, its a great movie to see to make the right choice for you) it's good, but if you know you are gonna be at the hospital (like i did) i would actually strongly advise against it - watch it after you have the baby...
after i watched it, i just kept having this image of me going to the hospital and doctors and nurses poking and proding me, and medicating me and stuff like that, but
in the end my hospital experience was nothing like that at all...
it was everything me and my husband wanted and the staff was totally respectful of our wishes, we turned off the lights, everyone was very very quiet, they didnt start me on pitocin even though it took me FOREVER to get over 4 cm, they waited till the cord stopped pulsating after the baby was born, didnt insist on the eye ointment and so on...
i think it is important to surround yourself with positive images before birth, and while the movie is great, it might not be the best thing to see for someone who IS pregnant and KNOWS she'll go to the hospital...
BTW, sorry to barge in on you like that
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I use a Birth center, but it is still on a hospital campus (ie Hospital rules) I am dreading going there this time because now they have EFM (yes, Yes the hospital that owns(Su%^s, So now instead of the doppler they will to use efm and send it to the hospital to make sure they "approve" how the birthis going. LAME. At this point I think I rather give birth in my car on the side of the road (oh no wait they will admit me because I am a danger to myself and my child beacuse we did not birth in the hospital) ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH
Originally Posted by Julia24 I have to agree, I'd LOVE to have a homebirth and use a really nice midwife with the option of getting 'transferred' if necessary - saw the movie and LOVED it - loved it as a MOVIE, as well....I thought it was really well done, and loved the au propos of the clips from that slapstick movie they used (can't remember the name?)
However - if I use my insurance and go to a hospital - my OOP cost is exactly $10. (not including the exorbant cost of my premiums, that is - we pay $600 a month for insurance! and my husband is a TEACHER!) That's right, my $10 co-pay for prenatal care and then everything else is covered. (and that's even better than my last two births for which I paid $200 total). If I chose to have a homebirth, and ended up needing to get transferred (since the nearest hospital in MY insurance is over 30 minutes away) - I would likely end up paying for my ENTIRE cost. I can't take that risk. Even though ultimately it would be ideal for me, yk? |
I use a Birth center, but it is still on a hospital campus (ie Hospital rules) I am dreading going there this time because now they have EFM (yes, Yes the hospital that owns(Su%^s, So now instead of the doppler they will to use efm and send it to the hospital to make sure they "approve" how the birthis going. LAME. At this point I think I rather give birth in my car on the side of the road (oh no wait they will admit me because I am a danger to myself and my child beacuse we did not birth in the hospital) ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH
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Not in your club, but saw this in new posts. I loved the movie. I had already had a home birth and my sister was all "I think that is great for you, but really I would never consider it for me", even though she was at our house with us when our DD was born. Then she saw this movie and is all like "Yeah I will DEFINATELY have a homebirth when I have kids". And "You should see this great documentary I watched". Funny how a movie can change a persons mind more than an experiance
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Can't you just tell them you want to go home and sign yourself out?
I've only had a homebirth, so I don't know how that works.
Originally Posted by Julia24 I've already HAD two hospital births, so I have confidence in my ability to speak up for the birth I WANT, but I still hate staying there for 2 whole days - blows, imo!!!! |
I've only had a homebirth, so I don't know how that works.
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I really liked this movie too! I live in Canada, and I've been told by friends that the birthing experience is really different here from what's depicted in the film. Either way I found the film really interesting.
Btw, I can't believe how much hospital births cost in the states. I can't wrap my head around the concept of paying for health care, or having to think twice about going to the hospital because of $$$. I'm sure Norwegians look at our health system and feel the same way, but I really feel for you mamas that have to worry about those types of things.
We're having a hospital birth with a midwife. I'm too chicken to do the homebirth route, especially with my first.
Btw, I can't believe how much hospital births cost in the states. I can't wrap my head around the concept of paying for health care, or having to think twice about going to the hospital because of $$$. I'm sure Norwegians look at our health system and feel the same way, but I really feel for you mamas that have to worry about those types of things.
We're having a hospital birth with a midwife. I'm too chicken to do the homebirth route, especially with my first.
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seen it and want to see it again with dh this time so he can be even a stronger supporter for me and advocate for our baby.
he's already saying he'll bodily get in the way of anyone trying to take the baby to the nursery until we've gotten bf off to a good start
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he's already saying he'll bodily get in the way of anyone trying to take the baby to the nursery until we've gotten bf off to a good start
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Yes, that's me. I recently switched providers from a CNM to an OB, and I was never comfortable with the CNM in the first place (she was transferring my care to an OB at 14 weeks because I'm extremely high risk anyway). I switched for geographic reasons from one practice to the other.
Anyway, I am way too high risk for a homebirth, and I intentionally haven't seen BOBB for that reason. I have no problem with the fact that I will always have to give birth in a hospital with a high-risk OB, so I don't want to watch something that's going to make me feel bad about the only option I have.
I'm all for people giving birth at home if they're low risk, though. That just will never be me.
Originally Posted by BeanSprout Mama Unfortunately some women just don't have a choice. Either they're too "high risk" for a homebirth, or there are no birth centers around, or the midwives are scarce and already booked, or they can't afford a homebirth, etc. I'm one of them. Our birthing situation in this country is so, so screwed up. It's very sad and frustrating. |
Anyway, I am way too high risk for a homebirth, and I intentionally haven't seen BOBB for that reason. I have no problem with the fact that I will always have to give birth in a hospital with a high-risk OB, so I don't want to watch something that's going to make me feel bad about the only option I have.
I'm all for people giving birth at home if they're low risk, though. That just will never be me.
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