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I don't really know where to start but it all goes hand in hand...<br>
DH is talking about adding to our family; I'm scared sh*tless lol!!<br>
We have a little guy who is about to be 3 on Thursday. He has been in our bed since he was about 3 weeks old and I don't forsee him leaving it anytime soon, nor do I want him to. Same with boobies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
Now boobies isn't an issue; we can learn to tandem nurse if need be. I guess it COULD be an issue, but I'm more concerned about co-sleeping.<br>
No way will I put a newborn in a crib and I don't really want them any further away from me than right next to me. I don't even think I'd consider a bassinet.<br>
So how does this work with another child in the bed??<br>
I would think it's probably not the safest thing to have a 4ish year old child in bed with a newborn but then again, do their instincts kick in as well??<br>
I know there have got to be many families here on the forums who have dealt with this very issue and I'd love to know how you handle it.<br>
I'm actually not too keen on having another baby right now but I have things that I completely believe in and am passionate about and I'd like those things somewhat in order before we go into this. I know our experience will be different from others, but as long as I know what others do, it will give me a basic roadmap.<br>
I suppose our days of sleeping in past 10 are probably numbered anyhow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> My little guy will probably start some sort of school at least one or two days a week in the next six months and that's the beginning of change. I'm SO not looking forward to it. I wish sometimes that our routines lasted forever.... It's amazing how you get into a certain groove and way of doing things. I think I'm kind of stalling till my son is at the age where he's in kindergarten or something like that. I think I better stop here before I get myself even more confused lol!<br>
Any insight appreciated <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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I have a 19mo and a 3mo and we cosleep. First, the baby and the toddler can not be next to each other, you must be in between. We have a king size bed and the way that we do it is that DH actually sleeps with his head at the foot of the bed, feet up at the head - this gives him more room, then DD is next to his feet, then me, then the baby. Our mattress is on the floor and I have her crib mattress next to my side of the bed in case she should roll. I rarely nurse my 19 mo at night but sometimes she'll wake up when I'm nursing the baby. So, I let her lean over me and nurse from the top boob while I'm laying on my side and nursing the baby from the bottom boob. It's not very comfy for my older DD so she usually gives up after a few minutes and goes back to sleep. It's definitely crowded but doable <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Good luck with your decision!
 
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