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<p>My next appt with my MW is tomorrow, and we're scheduled to try to hear the heartbeat with the doppler, and for some reason I am completely freaking out that something is wrong, that there isn't a baby, that they won't be able to find the heartbeat, etc,etc. I have no real reason to feel freaked out, but I totally am. I've also had a headache for the last three days that is driving me absolutely bonkers.</p>
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<p>I don't know why I'm spazzing out. Normal jitters? I'm definitely hormonally and emotionally different, I can't deal with scary or negative things as stoically as I used to. Anyone else feel nerve-wracked before an appt?</p>
 

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<p>Seems from your siggy that you're about 12 weeks?  I went for my 12 week apt. and they couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler.  She said she can't always find it.  So if that's going to freak you out you may want to request an US if they can't find it to calm your nerves. </p>
 

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<p>My very first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, but still to this day I always assume everything is going fine until I see otherwise. I keep in my mind that miscarriage is a possibility.  But really, we should assume all is going well until it isn't. Would that viewpoint help you? If your nausea has continued and you haven't seen any blood, assume all is well! (With my first my nausea stopped abruptly after just two weeks; I found out later by ultrasound that there was no baby!)</p>
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<p>Do you have a history of several miscarriages? Was is hard for you to get pregnant? I don't think you have any reason to fear! </p>
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<p>I guess all that was a little jumbled. Sorry. Miscarriage is common, but there's no reason to assume the worst. Cheer up!</p>
 

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<p>I've definitely had my moments of freak-out, you're not alone. <span><img alt="hug2.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug2.gif"></span></p>
<p>For now, I'm trying to just stay open to the journey.  I believe each pregnancy/birth/child has a lesson, and I need to stay open to whatever those lessons are, however they come.  At times I consider asking to hear the hb, but I know that all it gives me is a snapshot of the moment, and is not a guarantee for the future.  I have had friends, family, & colleagues who struggled with infertility, who miscarried repeatedly, who gave birth to still babies... I know that the human race wouldn't still exist if the process of childbirth didn't work for the majority of women, the majority of the time. I know that from the beginning of time we have tried to control the unknown through talismans & charms, through potions & medicines, through tests & ultrasounds.... but there is nothing we can do <em>really</em>, except hang on tight and go for the ride - - wherever it leads. Breathe deep elonwy.  You'll make it.</p>
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<p>Oh, and I totally sympathize on the headache.  I hadn't used over-the-counter meds in months, but was so exhausted first trimester that I just didn't have internal resources to deal with headaches and resorted to tylenol to take the edge off.  If you haven't already tried them, here are a few things that might help:</p>
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<p>LOTS of water to drink (or whatever fluid you can keep down)</p>
<p>lavender essential oil on a tissue to smell</p>
<p>gently 'pulling' your hair</p>
<p>hot OR cold pack on the back of your neck</p>
<p>hot OR cold pack over your eyes</p>
<p>alternating hot/cold foot baths</p>
<p>a good brisk walk</p>
<p>Hylands Calms Forte might help if it is a tension headache.</p>
<p>Susan Weed's herbal suggests skullcap tincture, although I've never tried it.</p>
 

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<p>All the time!!! I have freak out moments a lot. I am now starting to feel better about it, but in the beginning I would freak out all the time. Don't worry :) <3</p>
 

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<p>Thanks for the calming words and the headache help suggestions. I heard the heartbeat at the MW, so I have now moved on to insanely giddy :)</p>
 
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