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<p>It happens every time.  I keep the secret for about 12 weeks and I'm dying to tell and then I feel like I can and  I feel awkward coming out with it.  This time I'm letting the kids tell and figure it will eventually trickle up to the parents.  They don't seem to have the same issues.<span><img alt="ROTFLMAO.gif" height="15" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" width="39"></span></p>
 

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<p>Oh I SO hear you on this!  I don't have any problem telling parents, we tell them right away every time.  Everyone else I find hard - awkward, almost?  It is worse with not-close friends/acquaintances...how do you slip that into conversation casually? lol  My biggest thing is that every time I tell someone, I kind of gulp with worry that I have somehow jinxed myself.  I know that is completely irrational, but it happens every time.  I have popped and can feel baby moving, and yet I still worry...hopefully after I have an ultrasound (heck, a prenatal checkup, even!  it has been a bit of a long haul finding care, but that is a story for another thread!) I will feel like things are settled in for the long haul.   </p>
 

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<p>This is me too! It's getting especially awkward at my daughter's school where I know the teachers are suspicious, but I just have no idea how to just say "oh by the way, i'm pregnant." one of the other moms is pregnant and she had told the whole daycare center by 12 weeks. i did tell the director so that I could get #2 a spot for next summer, and I thought maybe she'd spread the news, but she actually emailed me and said "i'll let you share the great news with DD's teachers." I was so disappointed! Why do I have to be so awkward about it!</p>
 

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<p>I'm glad I'm not alone in this. This is exactly me! For some reason I just feel weird about telling people and I have no idea why. I think it's probably time to tell our kids now but I can't even bring myself to tell them for some reason! I like the idea of having them spread the news. I think I'll just send out a facebook message at some point. Most of our family knows now anyway, I think...</p>
 

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I hate telling people I'm pregnant! When we're ready, I make a point to tell my parents ( DH tells his own). Then I make a point to call or email my best friends with the news and I give everyone permission to spread the word. This works pretty well in a small town.<br><br><br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
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Oh I SO hear you on this!  I don't have any problem telling parents, we tell them right away every time.  Everyone else I find hard - awkward, almost?  It is worse with not-close friends/acquaintances...how do you slip that into conversation casually? lol  My biggest thing is that every time I tell someone, I kind of gulp with worry that I have somehow jinxed myself.  I know that is completely irrational, but it happens every time.  I have popped and can feel baby moving, and yet I still worry...hopefully after I have an ultrasound (heck, a prenatal checkup, even!  it has been a bit of a long haul finding care, but that is a story for another thread!) I will feel like things are settled in for the long haul.   </p>
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This exactly! I always feel like I'm jinxing myself.<br><br>
 

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<p>I have trouble too. I waited until our 12 wk u/s, or so I thought, my mom was over yesterday, still didn't tell. My hockey coach knows (he has to know, for scheduling purposes since I will only be playing for another week or two) and I can't tell my mom! or my MIL. I was just on the phone w/ my brother too, and couldn't say.</p>
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<p>I didn't tell anyone 'close' last time until 16 wks. Its just awkward.</p>
 

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<p>This is SO me as well.<br><br>
I don't know why I feel so awkward about it, but I just really don't enjoy it at all! I feel so strange to just add it into conversation, and then when I do, the reactions are so varied and overwhelming sometimes (I've never really liked having huge attention like that on me). And I absolutely HATE when someone else will say in front of other people, "you need to tell "so and so" your good news!!". Ugh. nothing like being put on the spot. Then I absolutely just want to disappear. <br><br>
There have been a couple times in the past few weeks where on my own I've told someone, but last week, we just told my step mom, grandma and aunt, who all already knew since the beginning that they could announce it, and that's been going well so far! It's been nice seeing people who just already know, much more relaxed! And with the holidays coming up... I'm so grateful no huge announcement will be made at get togethers and things.... <br><br>
Haha, I'm so weird about it... <img alt="shrug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/shrug.gif"></p>
 

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<div>And I absolutely HATE when someone else will say in front of other people, "you need to tell "so and so" your good news!!".</div>
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<p>that is the worst!</p>
 

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<p>well...i changed my facebook photo :p</p>
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<p>danilouwho there is no way you could walk by someone now and they wouldn't notice you are preggo. I saw your belly pic from 3 weeks ago and there's a nice and obvious bump going on. :) </p>
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<p>I don't have any trouble telling. I do it through facebook, hubby tells people at his work and I tell my family right away every time so far since they get super offended if I don't and I suck at secrets. I did have some Jehova Witness' come to the door the other day and they noticed I was preggo. They are like awww, congratulations! Is it your first and I was like nope, my third. Then they proceeded to say oh maybe we shouldn't be saying congratulations then. You might want our watchtower magazine to help you through this difficult and stressful time. I am not a fan of Jehova Witness' myself and have no interest in their magazine but that was super rude and I was decently polite with them. </p>
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<p>Also, my hubby's manager said congrats on the new baby or should I be saying congrats? I was like, um yeah. I'm happy about it. Seriously, people do not know how NOT to be rude sometimes. It's only a third kid. I'm happy about it and it surely isn't the end of the world. I don't even think that 3 kids is a lot of kids. I think of 1-3 as a smaller family, 4-5 as a medium sized family and 6+ as a large family. OK, that was totally off subject in places. Hope that's fine. <img alt="biggrinbounce.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif"></p>
 

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<p>What?!?!  What do JW think is wrong with three kids?  I don't know anything about the religion.</p>
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<p>I have had NINE friends/acquaintances announce their pregnancies in the last 2 weeks.  I still haven't told...and I'm further along than every one of them!  At times I think I'm crazy, but one of them has already ended in a very public miscarriage with everyone knowing every detail through blogging, tweeting and facebooking.  That made me feel really glad that I hadn't told yet...I'd hate to be having to update curious people through all of my social networking sites and blog while going through such a personal and painful loss.</p>
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<p>We're trying to hold off until Christmas.  If we can make it through Thanksgiving with no suspicion from family, then I think we'll make it.  DD will walk in with a sweet little holiday shirt from Etsy that says, "Big Sister To Be"  I've got a long torso and I don't tend to show early.  I'll also wear skinny jeans and a bulky tunic sweater and I think I'll even be able to wear my Bella Band so baby can stretch and move over when all the turkey and stuffing comes down!  I don't think anyone will know!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Dot-to-Dot</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1279178/having-a-hard-time-telling#post_16059087"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>What?!?!  What do JW think is wrong with three kids?  I don't know anything about the religion.</p>
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<p>Well, I know tons about their religion and it really contradicts itself and doesn't fit in with the Bible but anyway. </p>
<p>As far as their issue with 3 kids, I don't know. It probably stems from living in the US more than from being a JW. US right now as you know is really anti-children. More than 2 and they think maybe you've been taking crazy pills. <span><img alt="eyesroll.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/eyesroll.gif"></span><br>
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