[Tonia80]

Okay, long story really short, DH left us (me and my three young kids ) suddenly with no warning one day about 5 weeks ago. He has a girlfriend whom he got right away. He had originally agreed to pay the rent and bills fro me and was gonna help me get a job. See, I am a sahm with no money, no car, nothing. I was very dependent on DH. Well, he did pay rent for last month but we are now facing an eviction. (rent is 9 days late) I cannot get ahold of DH at all. I am very scared I have no family, no friends, no emergency state aid available to me. NOTHING. I want desperatly to keep my kids in thier home. My nagging fear is that DH is getting hsi own apartment (he has been staying at his moms and at his girlfriends who lives with her mother (she JUST turned 21, but taht is a whole other story) I am scared to death hsi plan is to take teh kids from me. I dont see hwo thsi is logical as he works. And he is far from rich, cannot afford a sitter. He makes 9 bucks an hour. we are on food stamps for a reason. But he is NOT at all teh man I know and i would not put it past him. I am freakng out though cuz my kids need me so much right now. My 15 month odl is still nursing ALOT. My 5 year odl is very clingy with anxiety issues. m,y 3 year old has never been away from me more than a few hours.
What are my rights? I cannot afford a lawyer at all. What can I do? Is it gonna matter to anyone that my toddler nurses? I dont even knwo what i am asking,. I am just scared and feeling helpless and so angry at DH for doing this. He is nOT thinking of his kids at all!!!! They need to stay in thier home right now. Enough is enough!

 

[BelovedK]

Tonia, I don't know how, or when, but it will all work out. The pain fades and changes over time. I know that is probably not much help, but I just couldn't read and not respond with some truth

 

[mama_b]

I'm so sorry.

Can you get a lawyer for free from legal aid? Also, check into getting public assistance. I don't think your husband can get the kids since he abandoned you. I would ask a lawyer.

 

[freewitheft]

You definitely need legal advice for your state. In my state, the lawyer I talked to said that if I filed for divorce, since I was a SAHM with one dc under 2yo, he would have been responsible for continuing to pay all the bills until the settlement. HTH!

 

[Jilian]

Does he pay child support yet? If you are in a real bind, go to the food stamp office and apply for TANF (temporary assistance for needy families). It is temporary cash assistance. BUT, they will make you open a child support case (most states do) and they will want the money back so they will garnish your child support to get it back. But it will provide you with money for the time being. You can also apply for section 8 housing (I'm sure the food stamp office will have a contact # for you).

Your ex cannot just take the children away from you without a valid reason. Him leaving you all without any money to pay rent and you losing your home is not a valid reason - that just shows that he is a jerk. You might not want to bring up the fact that your toddler still nurses, many courts look down upon that (even though it is a GREAT thing). Get the number for legal aid in your area and see if you can get a free lawyer - I did through something called "The family law connection". Good luck mama