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I found a midwife who will attend am hbac, but she is 4.5 hours away. She says she's OK with this because she considers me a first timer (no previous vaginal births), but I'm not sure how I feel about it.<br><br>
More later, I'm pooped and headed to bed with DD!
 

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hanny, my initial reaction is that she is too far... but that said A was born after less than 3 hours of labor and I am concerned my midwives are too far away (40-50 min no traffic).<br><br>
that said, I don't know why your first birth ended in a c-section, so I can't really give an honest opinion, kwim?
 

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i don't know....seems kinda far to me, but if the midwife is ok with it...<br><br>
are YOU ok with it? i guess my concern would be you worrying about whether you are or are not in actual labor before calling. though im sure the mw would be able to talk to you enough to get a good feel for that before she gets on the road.
 

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It would be too far for me.. I dread the 20 minute drive to the hospital I wouldn't want to know that I have to wait 4 1/2 hours for my midwife to show up.
 

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I think it's something you could do if you're comfortable with having a greater than average chance of an unassisted birth, with the midwife showing up afterwards to check everyone out, or possibly having to go to the hospital if she hasn't come and you feel like you need help. You and your partner will have to think about whether that prospect is OK with you, and if it is, it could work! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<i>I</i> might be ok with it, with a pep talk from the MW, but my DH would NOT.<br><br>
I mean, I'd wouldn't want to call her til I knew for sure that I was in labor - wouldn't it be awful for her to drive even halfway here and have to turn around! - but I'm afraid by the time I knew for sure she wouldn't make it on time.<br><br>
This is so frustrating! If she were just 2 hours away I wouldn't even be questioning it - but 4.5 hours, possibly more going thru Atlanta... I just don't know.<br><br>
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Tell us more about your first birth.Did you labor?If so, for how long?Did your water break?<br>
I think it would be fine.Just call her as soon as things get going.Our mw is 3 hours away, I'm not hbac, but I don't think it will be a problem.Labor can last a long time.Also,she may be willing to hang out for a day or two for a slower labor.I know of a mw who attended my friend who was 6 hours away and also an hbac in a hotel.It was fine.<br>
Ultimately, listen to your instincts.What thoughts do you keep comming back to?I think you know if it'll be right,it's just hard to tell sometimes.Especially if you're in a haze of stress,KWIM?<br><br>
What about a doula closer by,to give DH some peace of mind,until mw arrives.
 

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I was induced at 40w 6d because of "low fluid" (the Dr wanted to induce me the week before for no reason). Got to the hospital at 2cm, at 5:30am pit is started. Around 1 or 2 (after being told I couldn't get up and walk around or use the toilet because the doctor had put in an IUPC (without me knowing)) I got an epidural. At 4 the dr came in, told me I was 7-8 and he wanted to do a c section (NO REASON GIVEN). I said no, and he said he would give me another hour. He said she was malpositioned, so he stuck his hand up there and messed with her head. Left the room, came back in 30 seconds later claiming that we needed an emergency c section because she had decel'd. An HOUR later, at 5:24 pm, she was delivered. Some emergency. At least he made it home in time for dinner. She was "sunny side up".<br><br>
So, from 5:30am to 4pm I went from 2cm to 8cm - while laying in bed the entire time. Pretty normal, maybe kind of long, but who knows what might have happened if I had been walking, getting her in the right position, etc.<br><br>
I could call her as soon as things get going, but will I know for sure that it's real?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> about your birth story from your first birth. Sounds frustrating.<br><br>
Hmm....well, I figure if she's willing to take on clients who are as far away as you are, she's probably willing to take on the risk of getting there too early and possibly having to stay in a hotel overnight.<br><br>
I'm guessing it's her or a hospital, right? Honestly if it were me and I had the choice between a far-away midwife and a hospital for my VBAC I'd go for the midwife and take my chances. But your DH has to be on board too, that's the tricky part.<br><br>
I love the story a PP posted about a hotel HBAC! That would be kind of awesome. Big tub, unlimited hot water, and someone else gets to clean up! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Not sure if it would work for you but it's a cool idea.
 

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Hmmm...4.5 hrs away seems a bit far for my comfort level.<br>
However, my midwife (this is my 3rd time with her) is 1.5 hrs away. She has connections with other midwives within the city here that she sends over if I feel like I need someone there before she arrives. This midwife usually stays through the whole birth to help out.<br><br>
Worked great last time. The time sure flys during labor anyway.<br><br>
My last birth was an HBAC.
 

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Yes Katielady, my only other option is a hospital VBAC. Funny this midwife actually brought up the hotel thing, but DH really isn't comfy with that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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I wish she had somebody like that close to me!<br><br>
We could really use a homebirth midwife here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I wouldn't be comfortable with a midwife that was that far away. I've actually thought about the hotel thing myself, which we may have to do if construction on our basement apartment isn't finished ontime. (We're stuck in one tiny room at my parents right now, til the basement is finished).<br><br>
Like pp said, you have to decide how comfortable you are with a higher than average posibility of a UC. If you decide you're not comfortable with that, then maybe you should try to find a doc (definitely not your last one from the sound of your first birth <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> ) that will follow your wishes. I'd write a VERY strict birth plan and have a doula there to make sure it was carried out exactly.
 
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