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O.k. Is this just nuts? I'm seeing my OB for the last time today - yaaay! I found a really great birthing center and midwife I want to go to. Anyway, I'm thinking about our last appointment, which was the first prenatal apt. He did a pelvic on me. Now usually, the doc looks at the coochie only when they really need to - to insert the speculum basically. But this guy took an early glance before he did my breast exam. Like he was checking out my coochie.<br><br>
For some reason, it's just really bothering me thinking I have to see him today. And I do have to see him since my thyroid prescription has completely run out and I need a new one written. I also have some other questions. Like I don't understand why I need to continue baby aspirin at this point and want to complain that potential birth defects were never discussed with me. I don't have to do another pelvic, but still.<br><br>
Do you think I'm being overly sensitive due to the pg hormones? I tend to pick up on little nuances sometimes that other people just dismiss. It's just creeping me out thinking about it.
 

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If all these things are bothering you, i don't think you're being too sensitive.<br><br>
But i've never figured out how to discuss with a physician legitimate grievances i have with their practice/manner. I've always just dealt by running away, which doesn't really change things (except for my own care).<br><br>
I have a friend who had some pain in early pregnancy, went to a doc, and the guy said, "OK, just go home, and you're gonna miscarry. Bye!" He gave her a booklet called "All about your miscarriage," and then she never miscarried!!! Her daughter is almost 2. And for 2 yrs we've been trying to decide what she could/should go back and say to that doc.<br><br>
My point is....if you figure out a good way to raise your concerns, please let me know!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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Some doctors are just rude and crude, thats for sure. But since I work with them on a daily basis, specifically ob/gyns, sometimes they just don't stop to tell you what they are doing.....maybe he noticed something, (ex: swelling, varicosities, hemmorhoids) and was taking a look and decided it either wasn't anything or he would look further later- wasn't there a nurse in the room, usually male doctors won't do any exams without a female present. I guess the best way I could think to handle it would be to say at the time, is something wrong? and then see what he said, I wouldn't bring it up now (thats me, i can be a wuss!) Now with that said, maybe he is just a pervert, i would lean toward him just being rude and not explaining what he was doing, but who knows- they have us in such vulnerable positions in moments like that!
 

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Just wondering, was there a nurse in the room? Usually there is supposed to be one while they are doing that kind of stuff.<br><br>
I went to a OB/Gyn once for a hymen issue once, and he totally made me unconfortable. He finished the exam and instead of letting me get dressed, he sat me up and explained the hymen surgery on a piece of paper while resting his elbow on my knee, all while I was naked from the waist down and just covered with a sheet. That experience pretty much spoiled OB's for me forever.
 

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I'm just wondering why you let him do a pelvic in the first place? We just had a long thread about how unnecessary they are in the first trimester and I would be very mad if an OB did that to me!
 

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Thats what I would do too.
 

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StarCat, good point. I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt and that's a great suggestion for the future.<br><br>
Yes, there was a nurse in the room.<br><br>
Thanks for everyone's responses! They did help me feel validated.<br><br>
I must of missed the thread about first trimester exams! Bummer. I think they're unncessary too, especially since I had just had a pap smear about two months beforehand. So it's not like they needed to do one or anything.<br><br>
Anyway, I did see him yesterday, heard the heartbeat again (whew - I get very nervous in between thinking that it's just all over), and got my prescription. I was thinking about telling him my reasons for leaving the practice (not the checking out my coochie but the fact that he doesn't do VBACs), but then it occurred to me that he doesn't even know who I am half the time. This is despite the fact that he refers women to my prenatal yoga class all the time (<a href="http:" target="_blank">http://www.yogafairy.com)</a>. One in three or four apts., recognition will cross his face and he'll tell me how great my class is - that women love it and have less backpain, etc. But then the other part of the time he barely knows who I am. So I don't even think he would notice if I disappeared.<br><br>
I also asked him if I could stop the aspirin. Now before, he said that I would have to be on it my entire pregnancy. This time he looked at my chart and said, "hmmm, there's no reason for you to be on aspirin. Why were you on it?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> And I had to remind him about the miscarriages but also explain that I never tested positive for the V Leiden factor. So he "agreed" that I can stop the aspirin. Can you believe that? It's practically malpractice. I also brought up that there are a couple of birth defects assoc. with it that were never explained to me and he swore up and down that there are not. I have the f**ing abstracts printed out!!!<br><br>
Anyway, I am going to write a letter for my chart that states why I'm leaving and cites the statistics of the risk of maternal death from planned cesareans.<br><br>
I'm just so happy to be out of there. I see the midwife in two weeks and just can't wait!
 

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If your just taking the 81mg of Aspirin there's pretty much no risk. Its the higher doses that cause problems.
 
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