He cut even though I said "no"

....SO sorry for you, mama. and so:

at the arrogance in that man's actions and demeanor.

I dont know what you can do about this; I hope some others can help. but its times like these that I believe in karma the most.

many hugs to you, mama.

Basically anything like that that is standard procedure you're not going to have any recourse against. Stinks, huh?

-Angela

i'm so sorry he did this to you! it does sound like a type of *rape* to me esp to such a private part.

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Thank you all for your replies. Yeah, I'm thinking there's probably not much I can do. I mean, even if I didn't sign consent for it and/or my "no" negated any consent...the doc could probably claim it was necessary under the circumctances. In a way I just feel lucky that I didn't end up with a c-section because I think a lot of docs would have done that. I'd been in transition for oh...5 hours by the time I got to the hospital and it was another 5 before DS was born. (36 hours of labor total! There was fresh meconium & towards the end our heart rates weren't doing well. Then we found out he'd had the cord wrapped twice around his neck and so tight they had to cut it before he could even come out all the way and that's what had caused all the problems. So, all in all it's really surprising to me that I didn't end up with a c-section. Luckilly, DS was perfectly fine within a little while after the birth and had no damage.

But it still feels so wrong. And the sad thing is, that isn't the only time a doc violated me. For my first visit of my pregnancy I went to an OB because I didn't know about my local birth center. That doc walked in the room, didn't even say a word to me, and just lifted up my gown to feel my breasts. : Then he said to lie down and he immediately shoved the thing for the ultrasound in me. No warning. I started bleeding because of it. And then he said the bleeding was probably a miscarriage! I was so pissed. I had not been bleeding before and he refused to admit that he'd made me bleed. Needless to say I never went back there and I told them why I never would.

It is awful how women are treated with no respect. I tried so hard to stay away from all of that by going to my birth center, but ended up with it anyway because of complications. I was terrified when I went to the hospital and rightly so. I feel so thankful that for most of my pregnancy and labor I was with my midwives. They always treated me with respect. Thank goodness for good midwives! I feel like I could never thank mine enough for what they did for me. And I feel like I could never punish those docs enough for what they did to me!

Happened to me, too

I don't know if there is anything you can do. Ugh. How horrible.

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It IS rape, IMO, birthrape. I'm so sorry. Doctors are allowed to do this appalling genital mutilation against women's specific wishes in the same way as women who haven't consented (and have specifically said NO) get c-secs, AROM, drugs and any other intervention. Until we stand up and say no as a concerted voice it will keep happening. No doubt this doc has done it before and could be doing it right now. I hope you can find the strength to complain and just maybe at least make him think twice about mutilating any more women. Medical authorities are not open to complaints but if enough add up over time, maybe that will change.

I'm feeling so sick right now... seriously, I'd look in to suing, but that's just me. Letters of complaint, you betcha. You said "no" - that's rape. That's malpractice. That's... that's...

I have no words. I feel an urge to castrate someone... (my DP's catch-all solution for when he hears about some sOB comitting birthrape. I have to say it's sometimes tempting.)