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Wowie I want to shout it from the rooftops it is 9:30 and my ds just fell asleep all by himself for the first time ever!!! And he has never ever cried- not once (despite the 10 million times people from family to docs have told us to CIO. if I had a dime....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ). We imagined it would happen some day like before he went off to college when he will likely wean too lol but this is amazing. Hes just over 2. I know its not very ap to celebrate this early show of independance but sleep has been such a trial for us -- he has always been a frequent night waker and recently a sleep fighter. And I feel so good because we just followed a slow and natural proggression to arrive here, no rigid sleep training program - just following his cues and helping him learn over time to fall asleep naturally.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> Ohh.... there it is... the feeling of sadness that comes after the celebration with every small developmental advance when you realize how quickly our babies are growing up. oh well I still have his 2 am feedings <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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WOOHOO !<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
it's nice when some things finally fall into place.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Hooray!!
 

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I'm SOOO happy for you & feeling hopeful that I too will have that experience someday!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/carrot.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="carrot">
 

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Wow, so cool....I only wish I could have the same luck with ds 25mths. What gradual things did you put in place? I am interested because I would love ds to learn to fall asleep on his own but I couldn't bear him to cry ........
 

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Thanks everyone its nice to celebrate the victories. So far it's still working too so it was not just a fluke!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Rainbowmum:<br>
So.. its a long story but I'l try to condense it here alot of the final steps came from the book the Happiest toddler on the block. I highly reccomend it even though I don't agree/like everything in it (talking to your toddler like a caveman is a large part not for me) I love alot of his suggestions --there are alot of gems. Anyway it seems like alot of things took place over the last 6 mos or so. 1st I got him to start falling asleep during night nursings without being on the breast by singing a whispered song to end the nursing session. This was necessary because the tandem night nursing was driving me crazy so i needed to limit his time at least. Then at his 2nd bday we moved his twin bed from side car into his room so that his uncle could sleep on it while he was visiting - after the uncle left we tried him sleeping in his own room I stayed with him the 1st 2 nights -- we were just experimenting fully prepared to move him back but he was fine with it. (it took me longer to adjust, still adjusting actually <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> ). Then we finally committed to a bedtime routine. I never really succeeded in sticking to one before but this time i got strict. I think you have to tailor it to your kid. books wind up my ds and he seems a very spiritual sort so I added some rituals blowing out a candle etc. I do a candlelit bath to start an hour before I actually want him asleep quick and dirty, brush teeth, take him up to his bed ( i found that dressing him anywhere else winds him up) give him a massage while I whisper to him about our day and do afirmations about all of the wonderful things he did. I tell him what he did that made me happy and that I love him so much. I adore this part because it really helps me focus on the positive (this is from happiest toddler on the block). then we diaper pjs. usually he is yawning by this point and then we nurse. This is where my latest trick came in it is also from the book HTOTB. Ds used to fall asleep nursing but lately it was taking a marathon session and it was making me crazy so instead I ended it after the flow slows down with a song and then just lay down with him. then I used the HTOTB no cry method where you lay with them ( he sings I just stroke ds's hair) for a few minutes then say "Oh I forgot to brush my teeth (or some such excuse) You lay here and go to sleep I'll be right back" leave room for like 10 seconds. go back in lay down again. do this 2x more each time leaving for a little longer 30 seconds, 3 min. after the 3rd time lay with them until they fall asleep. over the next few nights repeat this each day extending the times a little likr 1 min 3 min 15 min etc. If he ever cried I would have gone right in he never did though. The idea is that eventually dc will feel comfortable alone and just fall asleep. It totally worked for us after just a few nights. Hope that is clear. Now if I could just get him sleeping through the night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
Good luck and let me know if you have questions.
 
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