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I was served today for an injunction to NOT remove my children from the state by stbx.<br><br>
I need some help. Does anyone know what Injunctive Relief is?<br><br>
Tomarrow (Thursday) I will go to the court and try to get permission to leave the state. I am going just over 100 miles away.<br><br>
The main focus of my move is to get attachment therapy for my children.<br>
I have two children with attachment disorder (all three were raised in an orphanage until I got them).<br><br>
The drive to attachment therapy is 150 miles away. I am moving just over 100 miles. From the location of my home, it is almost 50 more miles away from there for attachment therapy. They need to be seen 1 x per week. STBX wanted to drive back and forth from Memphis to Little Rock each week, but I know how he has changed his mind on so many things, that he will change his mind on this. Attachment therapy requires the mother to be there each time, even if the dad wants to be there every time. As a single parent and working, and all three kids in school next year, I can't take off from work once a week, nor can I remove the children from school once a week to take them. It is a 3 hour drive one way to the therapist from here.<br><br>
STBX talked of him getting off at 2pm on Fridays to be there with us for therapy. It would take 1 1/2 hours to get there, and at that time it would be 4:30pm. Most therapist don't even have sessions after 2pm on Fridays.<br><br>
This driving back and forth total of 3 hours drive time, and 1 hour in the therapy, it would be 4 hours out of our day each Friday. If I live in the state where this therapy is, then I only have 2 or less hours out of my day.<br><br>
I have actually asked stbx to MOVE to the state so we can all be there together.<br><br>
Anyway, today he arrived at my son's school and when I picked my son up, he was there. I almost had a heart attack. I believe he is trying to abduct my son. There are only two more days left of school, and I will not send my son. We will go to the school together tomarrow morning, and I will tell them about what is going on.<br><br>
I need some help. I can't find anyone to take my case pro-bono. If you know of a Memphis attorney, please let me know. I am so affraid that I will lose my children, not just to abduction, but also through the court to him.<br><br>
STBX is about to lose his job, due to work disciplinary issues. He only has a contract till December, when they usually give him a contract until the Spring for the following year. I am about to delete my journal. I don't think anything is on there that is a problem, but when we were in court last, he used Vegetarianism against me (and he is a HINDU!). He told the court that the children were at risk of being ill due to lack of meat and milk.<br><br>
All but Priya are on milk now, but she simply can't handle it, and it is documented in the pediatrician records.<br><br><br>
Well, if there is anything you can do to help me, please help.<br><br>
Jyotsna
 

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I have no experience or advice in this. You might want to consider x posting this in TAO since this board can be slow. You might get some more advice that way.<br><br>
Good luck- it seems to me that you are being far more reasonable and I would hope that the courts look for that.
 

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Jyotsna,<br>
I wish I had some advice for you. I will keep you in my thoughts Thursday. I hope you and he can come to an agreement that will meet the kids needs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br>
Document, document, document, if you haven't already been writing everything down, start ASAP.
 

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Here is a link that addresses the relocation. This should explain what you will need to be able to prove to the judge so you can move.<br><a href="http://www.memphisdivorce.com/relocation_law.html" target="_blank">http://www.memphisdivorce.com/relocation_law.html</a>
 

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Especially Melinda. I will call that attorney tomarrow. I hope and pray that he will take my case pro-bono. If not, I will drop some quick cash to get his help.<br><br>
I hope to go to court tomarrow if it can be arranged.<br><br>
He stole some of my important documents out of my house. I think he may try to abduct the kids. He came tonight and shined a flash light in the bedroom window and terrified the kids. I called the police. They came and looked but didnt see anything. I called them again 10 minutes after they left because he showed up on the front porch banging on the window, asking me to come out, calling on my cell phone (saved that call!).<br><br>
The police showed up about 3 minutes after he left, and asked me if they could call him on my cell phone. They reached him and told him not to come back again, and if he did, they would arrest him. He actually argued with them! They said it again, and again...finally leaving him to fate.<br><br><br>
I got a report, and will take it to court.<br><br>
Well, will report back here tomarrow.<br><br>
Jyotsna
 

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<span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';">My gracious. I hope things are going well for you. I can't even imagine dealing with such a situation. Please update us.</span>
 

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I know you all are waiting for my reply. I saw an attorney yesterday. It cost me $200. I wish I could hire her, but to do that it would cost $6000, for the retainer, and each time we would run out of money, I would have to put $2500. back in to replenish the account. My stbx is likely using savings which has kept from me to pay.<br><br>
She felt terrible for my situation, and really wanted to help, so instead of having a 1 hour appointment, she gave me 2 hours and 15 minutes, gave me names of attorney's that she knows who might be about to work for me for less. She gave me very specific things I should be doing.<br>
Monday I will go to juvenile court to get child support. She told me that I will have to bug them every single day. They delay support. They work slow.<br><br>
She said as it is, it will likely take 6 weeks to get child support.<br>
STBX canceled his credit card that I was using, so now I can't buy food, gas or anything. I am about to ask my family for help temporally. I did get a resume typed today, and will go to the temporary agency Monday and sign up, and wait for assignment to work. I need as much money as possible, as quickly as possible.<br><br>
STBX was at my son's school again this morning, but instead of finding him there, my son was with me. I knew he would try again to get my son, so I kept him out. The Principal said they were only playing games anyway.<br>
My son did go to school both of the last days, but I was with him the whole time, not allowing him to go to the bathroom by himself, and not walk in the halls.<br><br>
My son's teacher told me that she felt stbx was trying to abduct my son the frst day he came. Since he was there again today, she was worried. She will be writing a letter for me to take to the court.<br><br>
STBX was kicked out of childrens museum a couple of years ago, and they told him if he came back they would call the police and have him arrested.<br><br>
I simply can not afford to pay a retainers fee to an attorney, so I will ask my parents to help me.<br><br>
I was about to take a new job in Arkansas, but now I can't leave my state.<br><br>
Normally, the court allows an injunction to prevent the primary residential parent from moving further than 100 miles from the other parent. However, stbx got a special injunction to make me stay in TN. I can not visit my parents in MS, nor can I travel to Little Rock to get help for my attachment disordered children.<br><br>
When I told my parents, they began to cry. They are so sad, and so hurt that I can't come to their home until after this divorce.<br><br>
I believe the judge will hear me when I asked to be allowed to move with the children. I am not leaving to keep my stbx from seeing the children. I am leaving to get help for my kids and to reduce the stress in our lives. stbx always arrives at the door whenever he likes, knocks and knocks for at least 1/2 an hour or until I open it. He has stolen from me, made my child to lie about it and told him that he would be in trouble if he told me the truth.<br><br>
He has alot of instability, which affects the kids majorly.<br><br>
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It sounds like you are really on top of everything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> . Please keep us posted on your case and good luck.
 

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Gosh - I'm so sorry! Wishing you the best of luck in your case. It sounds like you should prevail - will keep fingers crossed for you!! Keep us posted.
 
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