I'm feeling really freaked out right now, and don't know who to talk to about this or what to do. So.. Here I am.
I just came upon a pack of cigarettes in the car. My husband started smoking again, secretly and has been hiding it for weeks. Recently, I started noticing breathmints in the car all the time, and since this is unusual I asked him about them... Honestly because I thought that he was smoking marijuana. He brushed it off and made me feel like i was being paranoid. Because you know.. He would NEVER hide anything from me. He said that he got the breathmints because I hurt his feelings when i said that his breath was a little funky a few nights ago.
WELL.. fastforward to today. Cigarettes.
It's not the smoking that bothers me. Why would he feel like he had to hide something like this? I think that i'm generally laid back about most things. I try not to be some kind of evil tyrant.
I just don't understand why he would LIE to me for WEEKS!
This isn't the first time that he's lied to me. Before, It was some porno that was left in the auto-complete on our computer. So I called him up, and asked him why he was looking for porn on the computer and he denied it.. more than once.
This happened twice.
Again, while I personally feel like total crap when he wants to look at porno, it's not the porn itself that bothers me. It's the lies.
I'm feeling really betrayed right now.
I don't want to be married to someone who can't be honest with me.
Am i over-reacting? What should i do?
I just came upon a pack of cigarettes in the car. My husband started smoking again, secretly and has been hiding it for weeks. Recently, I started noticing breathmints in the car all the time, and since this is unusual I asked him about them... Honestly because I thought that he was smoking marijuana. He brushed it off and made me feel like i was being paranoid. Because you know.. He would NEVER hide anything from me. He said that he got the breathmints because I hurt his feelings when i said that his breath was a little funky a few nights ago.
WELL.. fastforward to today. Cigarettes.
It's not the smoking that bothers me. Why would he feel like he had to hide something like this? I think that i'm generally laid back about most things. I try not to be some kind of evil tyrant.
I just don't understand why he would LIE to me for WEEKS!
This isn't the first time that he's lied to me. Before, It was some porno that was left in the auto-complete on our computer. So I called him up, and asked him why he was looking for porn on the computer and he denied it.. more than once.
This happened twice.
Again, while I personally feel like total crap when he wants to look at porno, it's not the porn itself that bothers me. It's the lies.
I'm feeling really betrayed right now.
I don't want to be married to someone who can't be honest with me.
Am i over-reacting? What should i do?
