I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I do not think you are overreacting.
Perhaps he feels ashamed or weak because he tried to quite smoking and then couldn't? Is he possibly afraid of "failing" you and would rather lie than admit to something he knows will disappoint you? (I know this isn't rational but....)
I hope you are able to talk it out with him and find out why he felt the need to lie to you. I would definitely feel betrayed by the lies - way more than the other issues.
But it sounds like this could be a major issue in your marriage - I don't think I couldn't be happy in a marriage without mutual trust. Not to sound like a broken record, but perhaps some couples counseling could help? (If he's open to the idea.)
Hugs to you. Hang in there!
Perhaps he feels ashamed or weak because he tried to quite smoking and then couldn't? Is he possibly afraid of "failing" you and would rather lie than admit to something he knows will disappoint you? (I know this isn't rational but....)
I hope you are able to talk it out with him and find out why he felt the need to lie to you. I would definitely feel betrayed by the lies - way more than the other issues.
But it sounds like this could be a major issue in your marriage - I don't think I couldn't be happy in a marriage without mutual trust. Not to sound like a broken record, but perhaps some couples counseling could help? (If he's open to the idea.)
