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My almost 4 year old DS NEVER stops talking! Never! He talks non-stop whenever he's awake and demands my attention the whole time. Every game he plays, every thought he has, every thing he does is talked about and narrated. I'm losing it! I really need a peaceful moment. I've told him my ears need a break and asked him to hold his words for later. Nothing has worked. I'm going nuts. I need some quiet.
 

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My aunt used to tell my cousin that she needed to have "inside her head" thoughts. It took a while, but it started working!
 

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Does he play by himself sometimes? My dd is pretty chatty, but will get very involved in (chatty) play in her own room (or whatever room). Then I move out of that room and quietly hunker down with a book <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> . This works best when she naturally becomes involved in play--not when I suggest it because I need a break. But I find that if I take advantage of the times she does play alone, and pick up my book and make the most of those breaks on her schedule, I have more reserves for her when she needs my attention later.<br><br>
My dd does not yet understand the idea of an "inside her head" thought--she often looks at me perplexed when I read and can't understand *how* I can read without talking???! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Megieblue--buy a cheap spiral notebook and tell him it's his journal. Give him times to sit and "write"--he can draw something he may have done, draw what's on his mind, draw what he had for breakfast. Tell him he can write if he wants, but he has to write--however it comes out. You will get some quiet time, he can express himself, and you will TREASURE the results.<br><br>
*You can also have him dictate to you--a line or two so you can know what his intentions were*<br><br>
My kids love their journals--this summer they each have 3: daily, nature, and reading.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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One more thing..<br>
Sometimes when I just can not attend to one more question or story or observation or argument or whatever, I just put on some music. Lively music, and then I sit on the couch and watch dd dance. Or sing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> . It is not exactly "quiet", but it is a break from conversation. At least I can think about whatever I want for a while.<br><br>
And sometimes, I just sit and let dd "read" books to me. But I don't really pay attention to what she is saying <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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I have no answers but i totally empathize.<br>
my oldest started talking when he was 7.5 months (clear as day, i am totally not kidding)<br>
partly because i talk all of the time and we went everywhere walking with him on my back or next to me on public transit. we would chat about everything on a 2 hour bus ride.<br>
when he was 1 he talked in complete 5 and 6 word sentences (my other kids didn't talk that much until they were MUCH older than that).<br>
When he was almost 3 he would wake up at night nurse and start talking; i learned to have conversations with him while we were both asleep...crazy. he is 6 now and still tlaks like that (talks for his brothers, answers for us)<br><br>
i wish you the best. i have quite literally gone almost deaf. i did not have a tv for almost 10 years but now when i watch it i HAVE to put closed-captioning on...
 

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My niece is a constant talker. And her favorite word is "Why?" Her mom and my mom will often get tired of the questions, but I try to answer them as best I can. She hates being quizzed herself, so it's rather funny. I try to at least pretend I'm listening even when I don't quite follow what she's saying. She'll often get frustrated because she'll ask for something and if we don't get it instantly she'll repeat herself ten times then go "You're not listening to me!"<br><br>
She's like a verbal mirror w/ respect to tone and attitude.
 

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My only quiet moment of the day is when my ds is on the toilet! He quietly looks at magazines. Other than that, the talking is nonstop!
 

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Fromscatteredtribe::: hey, That is sooo wild--- talking at such an early age and the waking to nurse and chatteriing! god--- that must've been annoying. btw- we have an Aidan also!<br><br>
our DD who is 3.5 is a complete chaterbox. my mom says i was like that too. sometimes it reallly really drives me nuts. I ask her to give us a break, PLEase be quiet for 2 minutes- I say. maybe i shouldnt squelch her but I just cant help it.<br>
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Its gotta be the age, mine will be 4 soon too and never stops talking! She even talks in her sleep! Drives me crazy!
 
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