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Caleb woke up and came to the gate to our room, so I went into the room and lay down on the bed. I told him to lay down with me, and he said no.<br><br>
Me: Do you want to go in time out?<br><br>
No<br><br>
Then lay down<br><br>
*lays down for about 5 seconds then gets off the bed*<br><br>
What are you doing?<br><br>
Im in time out<br><br>
Youre in time out?<br><br>
Yes...<br><br>
Ok, fine then. *i get up and walk out of the room*<br><br>
*as im walking out of the room* Yes mommy, i love time out<br><br>
..... !!!<br><br>
argh.<br><br>
Keith is in there now with him.<br><br>
Mollys awake aslo.
 

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ds can't verbalize like caleb, but sometimes he likes to be left alone as well. I think its kind of nice, it shows they are noticing their need to be alone and requesting it/sometimes forcing it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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It could very well be that he's beginning to recognize his need for alone-time to regroup. This can be very positive.<br><br>
I'm going to flag a possible concern, which I don't think applies to Caleb, but in case . . . My son has PTSD, and as do many children who have lived through trauma, often sees it as his fault, because he is "bad." His school uses time-outs, and ds frequently puts himself there, which the school believes as a sign that he knows right from wrong, and is striving to behave but his impulsiveness gets in the way. His neuropsych evluator had a different opinion, which is that ds sees himself as bad, and feels that he believes that he has no right to belong or be part of the group, and excludes himself as a form of self-punishment. I was never one for time-outs myself, but I make sure never to use them at all with ds.
 

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good point iris's mom, We dont use time outs, ds just likes to go and hide by himself. I go in, pet his back and tell him mommy still loves him and when hes ready he an come get a hug and num nums. He will sometimes asked to be picked up right then, other times he stays there a few minutes.
 

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You know, I never throught of him wanting some "alone time" that seems to make sense. And as in "time out" i dont mean it in a horrible way, its just what we do when he throws a fit, we sit him down and tell him he is in time out, and he usually calms right down. It's just a way of calming him down.
 
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