[mommy2two babes]

Ok normally I think I have a handle on things but I am just at a complete loss.
My DD is 31 mos and she completely potty trained herself at 20 mos. She had a few months of regression after DS was born almost 8 mos ago and has been great since. the problem is whenever I tell her no she can't do something or have something she goes and pees on the couch, floor DH's bed ect. I know this is not a potty training issue or accidents because she only does it when she is mad at me. It has gotten to the point today where I feel like I am loosing it. Three times today she peed on various things, she always says" I sorry,I pee on potty next time" when I ask her what happened. Just for an example I had DS in the jolly jumper and she was swinging him I told her not to as she was going to hurt him and she went and peed on my DH's bed. Since Ds was born she really hasn't shown any sibling rivalry more mother hen. I don't know what to think or how to handle it. Please help.
TIA
Krista

 

[LilyGrace]

Hand her a towel, scrubbrush and cleaning solution (soap and water in a spray bottle works fine). Teach her how to clean up her own mess. You'll have to go over it later, but it's a bit unpleasant for them to realize they have to follow through with their own actions.

 

[Dandelionkid]

If you know it is going to happen if you deny her something can you try to ward it off by getting her to draw feelings on paper, or tear up a piece of paper or getting her to kick the couch in a funny way- distract her from the power struggle or the neg. sibling feelings. Maybe try talking to her at a non-confrontational moment " you must really feel mad at the baby sometimes- you probably wish he would just go away sometimes so you could have mommy all to yourself" Or tear up a piece of paper really aggressively while you say empathetically "you probably wish sometimes you could tear up your baby brother just like this!" Just to feel her out- it sounds like she is being passive-aggressive and maybe needs you to speak her feelings for her, validate them....Just a thought)
Christine

 

[chfriend]

What ways are acceptable in your family to express rage and frustration? Can you share those with her?

She's only two...could you try redirection instead of saying no?

"I appreciate you playing with the baby. I know you love him/her. But I'd really love it if you'd come over here and give me a hand cooking/play with this puzzle with me. The baby will be okay in the jump up without us for a few minutes."

Do you think that might work?