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<p>So you all have the honor of being the first to know that I got a BFP test today! Its eating me up inside, I want to share the news with DH, but after two early miscarriages in 9/09, 10/10 I have decided to wait at least another 2 weeks before I share the news with my husband. We will probably wait until the 2nd trimester to announce to everyone else.</p>
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<p>So here is my background, I'm 31, mother of two. I have a boy, 8 who was a c-section, and a girl 7 who was a vbac. I married to my high school sweat heart (13 year anniversary 3/9/11) I'm a full time student and I just go a part time job. My plate is filling up!! Although we had been ttc in the past, after the last miscarriage we decided to take a break. I actually thought I was avoiding my ovulation time in Feb to not get pregnant. But I just have to say I can't be more happy!!!! I just can't wait to get through this trimester so I can breath a little easier.<br><br>
So I have yet to make a Dr.'s appointment and I am a little fuzzy on the dates. Maybe this has happen to someone else? <br><br>
The first day of my lmp was 1/24/11 which would make my due date 10/31/11<br>
But the only time we had sex was 02/18/11 making my due date 11/11/11<br>
Since the last miscarriage in 10/10 I had 3 normal periods, but obviously my ovulation did not occur 14 days the first day of my period but rather 24 days later. Can this be right?<br>
I was expecting my period on 2/21 and after I was one week late 2/28 I took a test that was neg. I have tested everyday since then and today I finally got a very faint line. Any input would be great!<br><br>
Congrats to all the new moms out there, I can't wait to meet you all!<br><span style="display:none;"> </span></p>
 

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<p>Congrats on your BFP!</p>
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<p>Not knowing your ovulation date, it is hard to say when your due date would be. But if you only had sex on 2/18, that narrows it down to a much smaller window. It is likely conception happened within 3 days of sex. I'm not sure about doctors in your area, but around here with VBACs moms usually have to lie to their care providers to build in extra time in case they go "overdue" so they aren't pressured into either an induction or a section. Just something to think about. I definitely would fudge your LMP date because they usually will go off LMP before they will go off your decided date of conception.</p>
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<p>I can't believe you can keep it from your DH, I'd have a hard time doing that!</p>
 

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<p>Congratulations!  You have some fortitude being able to keep that from your DH.  I don't think I could do that.  Scratch that, I know I couldn't do that. </p>
 

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<p>Ok, well I forgot to mention he is still at work and I have not had to face him yet :) He'll probably see it all over my face when he gets home. We'll see!</p>
 

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<p>I went two weeks overdue with my first, and after a week in the hospital trying everything we could to start labor (cervidil give both orally and vaginally, pitocin and even a foley catheter inserted into my cervix to manually dilate me) I finally started labor +15 days after my due date (which I knew def) After several hours his heart rate dropped and they did the c-section. My son was 10lbs 15ozs when he was born! There was no way he was coming out any other way. I went +8 days over with my second and was induced with pitocin. She was my vbac and weighed in at 8lbs 6oz. The biggest difference between then and now is my age. I was 23 and 24 when I had them. I will be 32 when #3 comes and I will not be bullied or pressured to do anything based on the convince of the doctors. I left one office I was going to who said they would not even consider a vaginal birth if I had a c-section and that was after I had already had a v-bac!!</p>
 

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<p>You had intercourse on 2/18 + 3 days for ovulation to occur which would be 2/21 (also this would give you a faint line on a pregnancy test around 11dpo on 3/3/11) making the due date more like 11/14/11. So when you go to the midwife or OB you can give a LMP date of 2/7/11 to make things simpler than trying to explain the whole dates/ovulation confusion. In my last pregnancy that argument got my due date switched four times! <span id="user_yui_3_3_0_6_129926253605135"><img alt="smile.gif" id="user_yui_3_3_0_6_129926253605134" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="width:16px;height:16px;"></span></p>
 

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<p>Yes <span><img alt="Sheepish.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="width:19px;height:19px;"></span>  I could not help it! I waited till yesterday after I took the kids to school. We are very excited and so nervous. I am loving every second of the heartburn, nauseousness, fatigue and headaches! Oh and my emotions, wow, I cried during two commercials yesterday. I wouldn't have it any other way! We agreed with my 2 previous miscarriages that we will wait until the 2nd trimester to announce to everyone.</p>
 

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<p>I'm glad you were able to tell him so you don't have to walk around with a secret for a few weeks! Are you going to wait to tell your kids?</p>
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<p>I just want to say again to be sure to ask all the right questions when you are interviewing care providers. I can only speak for the ones around here, but I am a doula and have seen (and heard) many horror stories of people not getting their vbacs because of an ob changing their game plan at the last minute. All through pregnancy they say they are ok with a vbac. One thing they like to say is they will let you have a "trial of labor" so maybe that is something to look for. If I were vbacing, I would want more than just a trial of labor, I would want someone who was behind me 100% and believed I could do it, especially since you already have. The number of sections in this country is staggering, and doesn't appear to be going down anytime soon. At the end of pregnancy, these doctors pull the "you're putting your baby at risk" card, and what emotional mother to be who is already dying to meet her baby wants to argue with that?!</p>
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<p>10 lbs 15 oz is a big baby, definitely! Way to go for growing such a healthy little guy! It is unbelievable you were in the hospital for a week trying to start labor, he sure was comfy in there huh? :)</p>
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<p>My emotions have also been all over the place. I was so irritable this morning, and weepy later. Like riding an emotional roller coaster or something. My poor children...</p>
 

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<p>I was much younger for my first two and they were both delivered by military Dr's. I was afraid to argue and afraid to ask questions. The office I will be going to this time has a mandatory 2hour prenatal informational meeting that I have to go to prior to my first appointment. I am scheduled for that in two weeks and hope to get a lot of questions answered.</p>
<p>We have had a running joke in the family that I make a cozy little home for my kiddos and they don't ever want to come out. And I am convinced that if they had weighed him before he peed all over I would have had a 11 lber!  I'm worried about this LMP vs. date of conception issue. I don't want to lie but its the difference of almost 2 weeks and I am fine waiting as long as necessary.</p>
<p>As for the kids, my daughter has asked a few times if I have a baby in by belly. She is pretty intuitive and might of caught some unintentional talk. I have said we will see, maybe someday we will have a baby! She seems content with that for now!</p>
 
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