[apmama07]

<p>Just need some experience and support again. It seems my m/c is indeed complete. I've had no more cramping and barely any spotting today. I feel good. No signs of infection whatsoever. Cervix is way high and tightly closed. I think all of the herbs I took did their job.</p>
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<p>And long story short my mean OB is trying to say she has to do an exam tomorrow to somehow get "proof" that I actually had a miscarriage?!?! She literally said to the nurse (loud enough to be heard in waiting room) "unless she's got tissue in a bottle..." in this fed up tone. So I guess can't take my word for it. I'm RH negative and she's basically holding the Rhogam over my head like a carrot to make me come in for an appointment tomorrow. I had to go in today and sit there in an office full of hugely pregnant women for half an hour just so they could draw blood to check my levels and REFUSED to give me the shot while there, even though my bleeding started on Saturday so we're getting down to the 72 hour window. I wound up in tears, it was awful. Salt in the wound.</p>
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<p>My feeling is there's no reason to do an internal - given there's no signs of infection can't she tell enough from an external palpitation and my blood work from today, or an ultrasound if she's really that "concerned"? I don't think I can handle an internal physically or certainly emotionally right now. Especially from her, she's been so awful and non-compassionate through the whole experience. I'd sooner go sit in the ER for 5 hours and have a stranger poke at me. Need you guys to either give me ammo for tomorrow or just tell me I'm being irrational! <span><img alt="mecry.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/mecry.gif"></span></p>

 

[KristaDJ]

<p>Ugh, an internal will INCREASE your risk of infection. I'd go to the ER and tell them you miscarried and see if they will give you the rhogam without a VE. I'm so sorry; that doctor sounds terrible. <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span></p>

 

[apmama07]

<p>I know, that's what I'm saying! Grrr this is just the latest in her horrible practices. I'm going to go tomorrow and refuse the internal and see if she raises a fuss. Just needed some reassurance from people who understand.</p>

 

[KristaDJ]

<p><span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"> Let us know how it goes, mama.</span></p>

 

[mom-to-jj]

<p>She sounds horrible! I really hate when doctors act like they know more about our bodies than we do. Like you wouldn't know if you had a m/c. Ugh! I would have wanted to smack her.</p>
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<p>I know I will always get a follow-up u/s, though, because I'm the weird one who had the gestational sac get stuck at the top of the cervix. So even though my body thought it had gotten rid of everything and had stopped cramping, I still had to have someone get that dumb sac out. And every time I had an u/s this time (I had four of them performed by two different OBs) it was a transvaginal u/s since they can see better that way. So you may still end up with somebody sticking something in there if you really want u/s confirmation that it's all out. <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span></p>

 

[apmama07]

<p>Sad to say I ended up caving and consenting to a quick internal just to get it all overwith and get the damned shot. We had quite an argument when I challenged the need to do an internal *right now* as opposed to next week when I'm healed and not bleeding anymore. She told me I could go get my medical care elsewhere if I wanted to since I "have a certain way you like to do things..." She's one of those doctors that can't handle the slightest challenge to her all-knowing authority which is why she'd decided at before the first appointment that she didn't like me. I'm educated and take responsibility for my own health and want to know the specifics of everything that's done to/for me. Her disgust with that was obvious all along, and I guess the reason for her callous treatment through the whole process. Or maybe she's really that awful that she treats everyone like that.</p>
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<p>Anyway at that point I just couldn't deal with anymore crap and just wanted to be home with my family recovering. I couldn't face spending the day in the ER or trying to find another provider to give it to me today, and today it had to be since we're up to 72 hours since bleeding started. So I gave in and got it overwith. It was traumatic to me, but I signed the release form to get my full records on my way out, so will never set foot there again and hopefully not even have to talk to them.</p>

 

[bcblondie]

<p>I'm SO glad you're leaving that place. I'm outraged for you! You should honestly call and complain or fill out a form or SOMETHIGN. Put on there that you could HEAR her bashtalking you over the phone. What a ^&^%$. Wow.</p>

 

[KristaDJ]

<p>I'm so sorry that she was so awful. I hope you never have another care provider that again. <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span></p>