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Hi! HELP ! I need input.<br>
Tomorrow morning I have my postpatrum physical with my fam. physician.<br>
Directly afterwards, Yonah has his 8 week checkup. So he's coming with me (of course but especially since he has his appointment)<br><br>
Since I am getting the whole postpartum thing, checking where everything is, the pap etc., what am I to do with Yonah??? Its also going to be a bit of a trauma emotionally for me. Or rather I feel the trauma already. I dont' do well with physicals, let alone it being my postpartum one when I still feel a bit uncomfortable.<br><br>
DH HAS to work tomorrow, he's taken WAY too much time lately for appointments etc,. and this one is mid morning. Theres NO way he can go.<br>
And I don't know anyone else in the city we live in really.<br><br>
I wear Yonah in a mei tai, and really feel uncomfortable with hauling out the stroller. It hasn't come out yet and we didn't want to bring it out until Yonah was MUCH older.<br>
I'll be taking transit there, so I wont have a car seat.<br>
Also, Yonah, if he's awake esp., will not deal well with not being held. He'll yell and scream...<br>
I prospect that I will then be MORE tense if I hear him crying away for me...<br><br>
ANY IDEAS??? What did any of you do????? Or do???
 

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is there anyone you can bring with you, that yonah trusts? (cool name, btw) i just brought dp along to my pp appt., but roxie pretty much slept thru the whole thing, anyway. maybe he'll sleep too, and you can get one of the nurses to hold him and it won't matter. anyway, your exam will be over in about 5 minutes, so it shouldn't be too bad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> mama! i remember those emotional pp days.
 

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my pp physical was really short too except I catted alot with my OB cause I loved her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: my dp was with me but one of the nurses who had seen us for all our prenatals was dying to hold dd. I was fine with it. Maybe there is a nurse or someone there you have met before that you'd feel comfortable with? good luck<br><br>
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The really nice nurses at my doctor's office held DD while I got my check-up. Do you think that is an option? Good luck!
 

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Last time I checked, you can request to have a nurse in supervising a physical anyway, so I bet she'd be more than happy to hold the baby while you get examined.
 

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My son is 3mo old now and when I had to go to my appt. I brought him with me, he slept the whole way there until they called me in then of course he woke up. The dr. came in and just had me lay Caeden across my stomach so he was laying down facing me, the dr. did he thing and it was over in like 5 min anyway, so it really wasn't that bad.
 

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When I had my postpartum physical I laid Harvest on my chest while they examined me. It was fine that way but we had the option of asking a nurse to hold him for a minute. The exam is so short and the nurses are usually so nice. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Are you sure you have to get all that done? All my OB did was weigh me, check blood pressure, and feel my tummy to make sure the uterus had gone back to normal size. No vaginal check or anything. I was feeding DS during the lay down tummy pushing thing so I didn't put him down. DH was with me though so if I'd needed to I could have handed him off.
 

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Yup, for my postpartum checkup I brought DS in the sling. The midwife held him while I undressed, and then I held him on my chest while she checked me. It wasn't a big deal at all!<br><br>
Try not to worry--hopefully the exam will be quick, and then it's over. Good luck!
 

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Thanks everyone, I feel better after hearing about all your PP exams. I do believe I am now overdue for a Pap, which is why I have to have one done. ( I was preg. when my year came up)<br>
But maybe I won't have to get it done tomorrow and it will otherwise be quick.<br>
I will go into the apt., with hoping that the nurse will hold Yonah OR that teh GP will allow him to stay at my chest.<br>
Thankyou. Perfect forum to pose this question, I think anyone I know from my family would tell me to haul out the stroller.
 

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I have a nice thick blanket that I bring with me to appointments. I can lie my daughter on it safely. Also, as other posters have said, and you will see as time goes by, that people LOOOOOVE holding babies, and there will most likely be someone eagerly volunteering to hold your baby.<br><br>
Congratulations!
 

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Ok, for me: it was a hideous experience. Perhaps it was because I anticipated the anxiety I don't know.<br>
But anyways, with Yonah: you all were correct, as soon as I arrived the RN offered to cuddle Yonah while I had my phsyical. Which the Dr. offered to do at a later date when she saw how I was reacting. But I just wanted to 'rip the band-aid off' and deal with how i Was feeling later.<br><br>
It wasn't a nice exam for me. And then to compund it, I called it: I could hear Yonah crying out in the lobby. My heart felt shattered.<br><br>
But then as soon as it was over, the dr. got Yonah for me and I focussed on him.<br><br>
She suggsted I get bloodwork etc done another day though, to give me a break. Whch I took her up on.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks everyone, I feel better after hearing about all your PP exams. I do believe I am now overdue for a Pap, which is why I have to have one done. ( I was preg. when my year came up)<br>
But maybe I won't have to get it done tomorrow and it will otherwise be quick.<br>
I will go into the apt., with hoping that the nurse will hold Yonah OR that teh GP will allow him to stay at my chest.<br>
Thankyou. Perfect forum to pose this question, I think anyone I know from my family would tell me to haul out the stroller.</div>
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I nursed my baby during my pap! I would say that you could also tell them that you want to wait on it, and do it at another time when you are able to bring someone with you.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ok, for me: it was a hideous experience. Perhaps it was because I anticipated the anxiety I don't know.<br>
But anyways, with Yonah: you all were correct, as soon as I arrived the RN offered to cuddle Yonah while I had my phsyical. Which the Dr. offered to do at a later date when she saw how I was reacting. But I just wanted to 'rip the band-aid off' and deal with how i Was feeling later.<br><br>
It wasn't a nice exam for me. And then to compund it, I called it: I could hear Yonah crying out in the lobby. My heart felt shattered.<br><br>
But then as soon as it was over, the dr. got Yonah for me and I focussed on him.<br><br>
She suggsted I get bloodwork etc done another day though, to give me a break. Whch I took her up on.</div>
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Ah mama! I read down further and saw this. They took him out of the room? Why couldn't he stay in there with you? Even if someone else was holding him? I am so sorry it wasn't a good experience!
 

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Most docs have a female staff member to chaperone your physical anyway. So far they've loved holding my babie for me.
 

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eep! they do a PAP at the post-partum appt?! Wow I'm so glad I didn't go<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> . I'm one of those lucky women who can feel the awful cervix scraping and I do not think I could have taken <i>that</i> after childbirth when everything is so raw and sensitive.<br><br>
For better or for worse, I tend to avoid doctors...well, other than my Rolfing specialist, who I love! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I do not think I could have taken <i>that</i> after childbirth when everything is so raw and sensitive.</div>
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So I'm not a wimp afterall. I felt a bit ridculous feeling like such a mess during and afterwards.<br>
I kept telling myself that if I pushed a 6lb80z baby out of me, with 7 people looking on (3 midwives, 1 husband, 1 nurses and 2 consulting OB's) I cuold surely handle the minor discomfort of the Pap. I bawled my face off.<br><br>
I am kind of glad that J. the nurse had Yonah with her, as I was feeling so tragic.
 

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Oh girl, good for you to get the old pap chore done. You are probably just a little more tired than your usual self from mothering your young baby. I have gone both ways for the PP checkup although I declined the pap since that is how I get an annual check up for only the co pay of a pap. I held DS for one time and the other the nurses were arguing over who got to hold the baby and the midwife held her while I got undressed. Of course my toddler was there to help out too!<br><br>
Don't feel bad about being protective about your little one and not wanting him to cry, but at least he was trying to teach a new person how to hold him right instead of laying in some stroller all alone!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">at least he was trying to teach a new person how to hold him right instead of laying in some stroller all alone!</div>
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Beautifully said....
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So I'm not a wimp afterall. I felt a bit ridculous feeling like such a mess during and afterwards.<br>
I kept telling myself that if I pushed a 6lb80z baby out of me, with 7 people looking on (3 midwives, 1 husband, 1 nurses and 2 consulting OB's) I cuold surely handle the minor discomfort of the Pap. I bawled my face off.<br><br>
I am kind of glad that J. the nurse had Yonah with her, as I was feeling so tragic.</div>
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That's how I felt too! I really hate pap smears. I do think they've been more comfortable since having kids though. But still, I approach each one with way too much anxiety - almost as much anxiety as childbirth, which is ridiculous.<br><br>
I bfed through my last pap and I think it actually helped me - I guess it is habit for me to relax while bfing, to let the milk down (plus all the prolactin!) so it helped me stay calm and still.
 

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Why did the nurse hold him in a different room? Both of my pp check ups a nurse has held the baby through. I had to have stitches checked both times. Both times in 2 different states there was a nurse in with the ob first time midwife second. The nurse was more then happy to hold baby I was getting checked out and would have never thought about taking them out of the room. The first time the nurse did ask if I would like her to hold dd while I got dressed, but that was a situation where I felt comfortable with dd being in the next room while I got dressed.
 
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