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I'm babysitting my neighbors son, and I'm fairly positive they do cio on him.....He is showing lots of signs of being tired (eye rubbing, kept laying down on floor and almost falling asleep, whining) , but I have no idea how to get him to nap lovingly! I know if I asked his mom she'd tell me to let him cry, so I can't call her about it.....it sounds silly but I'm totally clueless about this! My DD just nurses to sleep.....<br>
My DH is in there laying down with him, giving him special blankies and stuffed toys and such, but hes not sleeping.....<br>
any suggestions? thanks mamas!
 

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Have you tried saying "It's naptime!" then reading a story and tucking him with the shades down, then leaving the room? Have you asked his mom about nap routine and when he usually takes his nap? Even if they did CIO, I doubt they just lock him in a room every day and let him wail until he falls asleep every single day.<br><br>
As a toddler, my daughter went down best for naps when left by herself in a dark room after a naptime ritual that was the same every single time -- rocking, story, tuck, kiss, leave. If I stayed in there she would never ever have taken a nap. Mommy's too fun!
 

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well, the last time I watched him, he went home before taking a nap, and about 10 minutes later I heard him screaming through the walls....so I'm pretty sure they are still doing it with him, hes not "trained" yet. My DH tried to leave him in there and he just crawled off our bed after the cat lol. I think DH did finally rock him to sleep, its quiet in there now...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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how often will you be babysitting him??<br>
I'm only asking because it might be hard on the kid if his parents make him cio and you guys "love" him to sleep by holding him...meaning that holding and stuff might make it more difficult for him to sleep for his parents and create even more angst and crying etc. If he's a cio kid I'd be more inclined to snuggle and read and turn the lights out, then leave while he's awake and sleepy and tell him you'll come back to check on him in xx amount of time... and do it. If he cries when you leave then come back in a min and give snuggles to reassure but don't lie there and hold him until he falls asleep. This is of course only if you're going to regularly be putting him to sleep and i'm jsut mentioning it because changes in <i>my</i> son's bed time routine (not cio) or way of putting him to sleep really messes up his ability to fall asleep.
 

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i would just talk to the parents. maybe they aren't cio - sometimes you hear crying around my house when kids are tired - and we don't cio, but sometimes it takes a bit to figure out if what you're trying to help them get to sleep is going to work or not. i thought it was all so simple with my DS who would reliably nurse to sleep... but now he has weaned, and my DD is just learning to comfort nurse... so for the first month it was hard to get her to sleep by nursing her.<br><br>
also, his parents might know if he has a lovey, or a favorite cd he likes to fall asleep to that would make it easier for him to make that transition into sleep without his parents.<br><br>
i agree with the PP who suggested reading a book or two or three while he's drowsy and then leaving... i'd just come back if he cries and calm him down again. that shouldn't interfere much with what his parents do with him at home. also, in the advice i usually give to moms who are wanting to CIO at home because they are afraid their kids won't go to sleep at daycare... babies know the difference between caregivers... if you cause him to expect loving attention from you to help ease him into sleep, that doesn't mean he'll necessarily expect it from his parents. my DS was in daycare for a while when he was 1, and all it took to get him down there was a quick rock in a rocking chair with a blankie around him. we tried that at home and he just screamed bloody murder and we had to stop. he knew he could get nursing or walking out of us!
 

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I think you really need to find out what their routine is - at 21 months, most kids have a well-established routine, and deviating from it can freak them out. It's entirely possible that if you just pop him in the crib he'll go to sleep without crying at all, if he's used to that.<br><br>
If their routine involves CIO, then you'll need to figure out what you want to do, but first find out their routine and cross that bridge when you come to it.
 

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Yeah, I'd talk to the parents. DD sometimes cries at naptime because she is over-tired and doesn't want to take a nap. She never cries alone -- always with one of us laying next to her or rocking/walking her. He might just have a hard time settleing down.<br><br>
That said, I would never leave Anneke with someone at naptime and not tell them what the routine is! I'd mostly be afraid that they'd do CIO, though.
 
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