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this thread should have been posted here..<br><br><br>
ok...so our son will be 1 on May 11th. up until now he is still in his infant graco carrier.(he is tiny)<br>
yesterday i asked my bf (he is a firefighter..keep this in mind) for the millionth time to install the alpha omega carseat...bc ds is getting big for the carrier. so he calls his cop friend...a "carseat technician" and asked how we should install it. he said since he is almost a year to just put it forward. OK UM NO!!! HE IS ONLY 17 LBS! he was saying that he is close enough to one year and 20 lbs.<br>
i said i dont care! he is facing rear until he is 3! my bf said the cop said no way is that safe....the straps arent made for that?! wtf?! i am NOT lettting my 17 lb one year old face forward, i am sorry! i told him i have been researching and even showed him the youtube video on rear facing...after he saw that he said its bs and there is nothing backing it up..he told me he was sick of my interenet crap and that a carseat technician cop knows better than i do....help please....i know i am right...but he wont listen...<br>
we have been clashing on parenting....vax's, circ, foods, now the carseat stuff! we are seperated for now b/c of all of this...because before i found these boards i was mainstream, and didnt question anything...i thought what we were doing was how things were supposed to be done, but since finding these boards it has really opened up my eyes..and my bf just calls it interent crap...UGH this is so annnoying! what can i tell him about the carseat?
 

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I agree go to a technican yourself (another fire station) and have then install it.<br><br>
Have they changed it to 21 pounds? Strange that they would up it just one pound. Good to know.
 

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Do you still have the info that came with the carseat? I remember mine said one year and 20 lbs. Maybe you can look up carseat regulations for your state.
 

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<a href="http://www.car-safety.org/faq.html#Q6" target="_blank">http://www.car-safety.org/faq.html#Q6</a><br><br>
You are right: the minimum criteria for forward-facing are one year AND 20 pounds.<br><br>
3 pounds less than 20 is pretty significant in terms of percentages. For example - if your BF weighs 180 pounds, 15% more is 207. Ask your bf of he'd pick a fight with someone he knew outweighed him by almost 30 pounds. Yet he's asking you to treat your little baby as if HE had the same muscle mass and strength as someone 15% heavier.<br><br>
Stick to your guns!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Do you still have the info that came with the carseat? I remember mine said one year and 20 lbs. Maybe you can look up carseat regulations for your state.</div>
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our alpha omega acutally says "forward facing from 22 lbs"...and yet he is still insisting to face him forward b/c he will be a year old!
 

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<a href="http://www.car-safety.org/rearface.html" target="_blank">http://www.car-safety.org/rearface.html</a><br><br><a href="http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;109/3/550" target="_blank">http://aappolicy.aappublications.org...rics;109/3/550</a><br><br><a href="http://www.carseat.org/Resources/633.pdf" target="_blank">http://www.carseat.org/Resources/633.pdf</a><br><br>
Have him watch the car crash videos on this page<br><a href="http://www.childrestraintsafety.com/rear-facing.html" target="_blank">http://www.childrestraintsafety.com/rear-facing.html</a>
 

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There is no way you're DS is ready to FF whatsoever. RFing is sooooo much safer!!!!! Its technically "illegal" for him to FF anyways so tell your BF to stop or he can pay for the ticket <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Importance of Rear Facing- <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2DVfqFhseo" target="_blank">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2DVfqFhseo</a><br><br>
*edit* Oh and go to <a href="http://www.seatcheck.org" target="_blank">http://www.seatcheck.org</a> to find a REAL tech to install your new seat *cough* RFing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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You have already gotten lots of good references for the actual forward/backward facing arguement. But I have another question. Is there some reason that you can't install this yourself? Its not hard -- just follow the directions. If you are really unconfident, find an installation check in your area but you CAN do this (unless you have mobility issues or something). And you need to be able to do it because at some point you will need to change cars, re-install it after taking it out to clean or any number of other things. You don't need him to do it, so do it the way you know is best and go from there.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You have already gotten lots of good references for the actual forward/backward facing arguement. But I have another question. Is there some reason that you can't install this yourself? Its not hard -- just follow the directions. If you are really unconfident, find an installation check in your area but you CAN do this (unless you have mobility issues or something). And you need to be able to do it because at some point you will need to change cars, re-install it after taking it out to clean or any number of other things. You don't need him to do it, so do it the way you know is best and go from there.</div>
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the seat is in wisconsin, where he lives, and we are currently in IL. we go there occasionally to visit, and i aks if while we are there he can do it, but he never does. if i would try to do it while there, he would just take it from me and most likely install it forward facing...bc of what his cop friend is telling him. the next time i see him, i am going to ask for it. he will probably argue and start a fight telling me to put it forward facing...but i can always take it somwhere and ask for it to be installed rear.<br>
thanks ladies!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">the seat is in wisconsin, where he lives, and we are currently in IL. we go there occasionally to visit, and i aks if while we are there he can do it, but he never does. if i would try to do it while there, he would just take it from me and most likely install it forward facing...bc of what his cop friend is telling him. the next time i see him, i am going to ask for it. he will probably argue and start a fight telling me to put it forward facing...but i can always take it somwhere and ask for it to be installed rear.<br>
thanks ladies!</div>
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I didnt see you live in IL!!!!! Whoo Hoo!!! Bring the seat to me!!! I'll help ya!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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