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ugh... I'm at my wits end. DS has been waking more frequently recently, so mommy is getting less sleep. In the meantime, it seems that every time I get DS back to sleep, and close my eyes... DH is SNORING!!! Not just little breathy snores, but FEROCIOUS snoring.<br><br>
I can't stand it. I can't sleep. He sleeps so heavily that I can't even wake him without waking the baby sleeping between us.<br><br>
HELP!!
 

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This is exactly why dh sleeps in the nursery and baby sleeps with me! I don't know any other way to get around this situation.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">ugh... I'm at my wits end. DS has been waking more frequently recently, so mommy is getting less sleep. In the meantime, it seems that every time I get DS back to sleep, and close my eyes... DH is SNORING!!! Not just little breathy snores, but FEROCIOUS snoring.<br><br>
I can't stand it. I can't sleep. He sleeps so heavily that I can't even wake him without waking the baby sleeping between us.<br><br>
HELP!!</div>
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Bellababy, I can completely empathsize with your situation. I am an incredibly light sleeper and, of course, I'm married to someone who is, as you said, a "ferocious" and deep sleeper.<br><br>
There are nasal strips that you can buy, over-the-counter, that sometimes help lessen the snoring. There are other causes which may or may not be solved in order to help the problem. I know there are sleep clinics and specialists who can even help with snoring issues! Unfortunately my husband is in denial about his snoring. In any case, what has worked for us is the same thing as Heather said. DH moved into the spare room while I co-slept with DS. Some people are against this but all I can say is being one of the world's lightest sleeper married to a guy who snores like a freight train - this is the best way! Except for issues with DS's sleeping, I now sleep without hearing SNORING! But, now I'm pregnant with #2. We're going to have the two children, eventually, share a room and the 3rd bedroom will be a guest room as well as an extra bed for someone if the snoring gets out of control.<br>
I've also told DH he must wear those strips or risk being smacked, woken and told to roll-over. I really do empathsise - to lie awake all night while your partner has a wonderful deep sleep - every night - it's very annoying to say the least!
 

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how is his breathing at night? I noticed my hubby would stop breathing through the night so i urged him to go get checked at a sleep clinic and the amount of times he stopped breathing was increidible. He was diagnosed with sleep apnea and now uses a mask to help his breathing. And now no snoring!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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This was our situation until, as with pp, DH moved to the nursery and DS and I sleep in the master bedroom. There are still nights I hear him snoring, but it doesn't keep me up throughout the night like it used too. When he finally moved to the other bed, i was exhausted with ds waking 10 times a night and me not being able to fall back asleep *every* time. ds was 5 months at the time.<br><br>
I tried waking him to roll over, and eventually kicking him if i was in a position to without waking ds. never worked!<br><br>
he is kind of a denial about it too. he has tried the nose strips, but they didn't help at all. he is procrastinating on going to a sleep clinic. personally, i think if he loses some weight his snoring will at least decrease.<br><br>
he complains all the time about not sleeping in the same room as me. you would think that would be motivation to do something about it!<br><br>
is your dh willing to go to a different bed for a while?<br><br>
kris<br>
owen, 16 months<br>
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I second CanadienneMom's thoughts.<br><br>
Embarrassingly enough, <b>I</b> was the one snoring so loud that nobody could sleep. DH gently let me in on this fact<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> and also told me that it wasn't just loud, but frightening b/c I stopped breathing a lot. I went to a sleep clinic (referred by general doc), had a sleep study, found out I had severe obstructive sleep apnea and got a mask that solved the problem. It's a lot more common problem than I realized. And now that I have the mask, we all co-sleep peacefully again...no more snoring.<br><br>
Good luck...Here's wishing you future quiet nights!
 

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i have no advice but can sympathize. my dh is a really loud and persistent snorer too. but i'm glad i checked what you guys said, because now i'm thinking i should see if he stops breathing too. i thought it was a weight thing too because it's been worse lately and he's been gaining weight.
 

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My Aunt gave me some great advice. Gently squeeze his "tender bits." Not only will he stop snoring, he will wake up in a really good mood. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br><br>
This was not only a joke, but some great advice from my aunt. It works. It has now for two husbands.
 

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really??!! His 'tender bits'?? The one big one or the two little ones? I'll try anything at this point!!<br><br>
HA!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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with my luck he would realize what i was doing and then i would have to follow through, which after waking up 15 times isn't high on my priority list!
 

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My partner i seeing a ears, nose, and throat specialist, a sleep clinic, has had surgery, etc.<br><br>
Heavy snoring can be a symptom of other problems, so I would have him see a doctor.
 

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I would also advise seeing a doctor about it. Snoring is more than just annoying, if he has apnea it can contribute to other health problems and just the overall disposition.
 

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And my husband acts like we are the only family where the husband sleeps in the spare room due to his snoring while Mama and baby co-sleep in the master bedroom-! Glad to see I'm not alone! I bought the strips, he won't wear them. My dh acts like his snoring is MY problem because I am a light sleeper and can't sleep through it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I believe my dh has sleep apnea, but I don't have enough money for the co-pay to get the sleep study done. But if I do get the money, he is going to have it done if I have to drag there myself!
 

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Is it possible to get the mask thingy without doing the sleep study? I mean, really if it's apnea, you're going to want to get that treated, but the mask would at least stop the snoring while you save up for the sleep study.<br><br><span style="font-size:xx-small;">(I'm trying the bits squeezing thing, finally a reason to *hope* dh snores.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)</span>
 

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Another light sleeper with a LOUD snoring husband! For a long time DH had to sleep in the spare room so I could get some sleep. He went to a sleep study, got a mask, (the whole thing is called a CPAP) and now....ahhh...heaven! And I actually find the sound of the CPAP very soothing, like white noise. It helps me go to sleep, actually!<br><br>
To my knowledge, you cannot get the CPAP without the sleep study. The CPAP actually has to be prescribed, and I don't think any doctor's going to prescribe it without the study. However, many insurances cover sleep studies - ours did. Our insurance covers the CPAP and all the masks, too.
 
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