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DS always had a problem with eating. He doesn't really realize when he is hungry and just starts acting up. So we have set meal times (3 meals, 1 large snack, 1 small snack). He usually prefers me feeding him, while he is playing with something else, only occasionally feeding himself. We also have a pretty limited diet (he just won't eat anything else). The past few days, however EVERY meal is a big BATTLE. I can't keep offering him other things for hours and he refuses to eat what I offer or what he himself requested. He throws food on the floor, just sits with his mouth shut, spits food out. I am at my wits end. There is nothing I can say he will eat or even likes (maybe apple, but he can't just have that all day long). I can understand that he might be teething now, but I think its not just the issue.<br>
Another part to it, is we live with my ILs. MIL is working from home 2 days/week and DP's grandma is always home. DS loves them, but I feel that they are constantly interfering and undermining me. So he might eat with grand ma, but not with me (although we use same tactics). I don't want him to feel that mama has no control.<br>
How can I make him eat? How can I stop grandma making me feel like a failure (not just with food, but taking care of kids in general ...BTW DP seems to be on her side and has little respect for me)? Any suggestions are welcome.
 

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Mama, there is more into it than just you lo not wanting to eat. I would have a serious talk with DP and grandma. I know it might not be easy, but it's the best wayt to go.<br><br>
As for your lo, I would try and talk to him about it before hand. Read books about families eating and making sure he realizes everyone has to eat. Then I would offer food, and he doesn't want to eat fine. Let him go for half and hour or and hour and offer again. Eventually he has to be hungry. However, make sure no one else is offereing food in the mean time.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Let it go. Food should never be a fight. It is your job to provide the food and his job to decide when/if/how much to eat.<br><br>
Make food available. Let him learn to listen to his own cues.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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yep, dd is growing right now. That means that she is hungry all of the time. I try to view the whole day as a meal and prepare healthy "meal-like" snacks for the day. That means that sometimes she snacks on veggies and fruit and cheese, sometimes she has treats, and it balances out.<br><br>
For us, meals are our time to sit down together and eat, but for dd they are just another one of her snacks. Sometimes I push the need to eat a bite of different things (you don't just eat bread all day), but mostly I do this by making different foods available - and just one or two foods at a time.<br><br>
Also, I am particularly sensitive to her hungry times of day, and I try to head them off. I offer snacks around 10:30. I offer food when I eat breakfast, but since she doesn't tend to eat a lot in the early morning I just offer a couple of her favourite foods and don't push too much. I've learned that is just an exercise in frustration. I might be hungry for breakfast, but that doesn't mean she is hungry.<br><br>
Sorry to hear about your struggles with your in-laws. Do some thinking about a feeding strategy, then let them know that "this is what we are doing right now." Then ensure that they follow the same strategy. I find that coming in sounding self-assured, with a plan...helps.
 

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Oh, and my dh's mom is an amazing mama of small children (and grandma of small children). Her children were also superstar sleepers, eaters, and wonderfully behaved. I'm sure that this is true.<br><br>
Sometimes this makes me feel less than adequate, so I understand where you are coming from. However, I have my own opinions about how to do things and I try to stick with them. And at the end of the day, I a<b>m mom</b>, and mom is a really, really important person no matter how imperfect she is!
 
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