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I am feeling really overwhelmed right now. I am in the process of clearing out stuff that my kids and I no longer use. However, during this process, I've seen how much stuff my DH's brother and parents have left in our house. We have about 10 boxes of comics, action figures. A lot of these action figures are still NIB. I am so sick of it. But it's going with us. I feel like what's the point of me getting rid of one box here and one box there when there is almost 20 boxes from them. It's so overwhelming. We can't talk to them about it. They are not around. It's sort of been thrust upon us. My BIL said that we can do whatever we want with it. I guess I can sell it on ebay but it's so overwhelming. Seriously, how can a grown man still collect figures and toys? He has more toys then my kids. Maybe this is more of a vent then anything else. I can't tell them no at this point b/c they are overly sensitive about it. It could potentially ruin the relationship. But I am so resentful of it. Tell me I'm not alone on this?? It's starting to hurt DH and mine relationship. He feels very defensive about it. And honestly I think he enjoys getting these free toys. These are expensive $30 action figures. I need to get rid of them. Anyone know of a place, besides ebay for me to do this?
 

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there are services that will take all that stuff and sell it for you. they take a cut, but it's worth it, isn't it? one of the companies that is a chain is called "we sell it" but you might have other companies locally who ebay it for you.
 

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I totally agree, have someone else sell them for you. If you can't find a service locally that would do it, I would just donate them and be done with it. It sounds like those boxes are causing more stress and bad energy than they're worth. I'm really sorry your in-laws are insensitive to the extra work and stress they're causing you. {{hugs}}
 

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Anything from Buffy or Farscape. I'll buy it if it would fit in my collection.<br><br>
When I decided to keep my action figures and comics I make sure all of them were protected. I put the comics in the appropriately sized boxes with bags and boards. Most of my figs are hanging on a wall still in box (because they are soooo much easier to dust that way.) They make me smile.<br><br>
You could ask at a local comic books store about ways to dispense with this stuff. One local chain has periodic opportunities for selling comics and related stuff face to face. You might be able to sell it on consignment at a shop.<br><br>
One behalf of geeks everywhere I feel inclined to help you get these to people who will love them. At the very least you could donate the in box figs to Toys for Tots.
 

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Craigslist.com<br><br>
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Thanks everyone for the advice. It's definitely been alittle stressful. I didn't realize how many boxes were there until we started boxing them for our impending move. While I'm purging a lot of my stuff and the kids stuff, I feel like these boxes are taking up just as much space as my whole family. DH is just so sentimental about these things. We had a huge discussion regarding the fact that he wouldn't get rid of his VHS tapes. We have a big boxful of it. Movies from the 80s and 90s. Not even original movies. These are blank tapes that him and his family recorded. I guess just thinking about moving these stuff in a few weeks makes me so stress out.
 

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LOL! You have my sympathy! the VHS tape debate is sooooo familiar! My DH is the same way, we just last year got rid of his high school algebra notebook (he is 37).<br><br>
Good luck with the move and the purge!!!
 

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oh, that complicates things. if your dh wants to keep this stuff, that is. i don't know how i missed that in your op. so do the things now belong to your dh, since they said you could get rid of it if you wanted, but your dh doesn't want to? or do they still belong to his family?<br><br>
if the stuff belongs to dh and he actually wants it, then i guess there's nothing else to do but lead by example. your box here and bag there *does* make a difference! it's one less box to unpack, one less pile of unwanted stuff in your new space.<br><br>
if he's willing to reconsider on some of it, that would be awesome. maybe there is some of it that doesn't matter as much, that he would be willing to sell in order to cover some of the cost of moving the rest of it.<br><br>
if dh considers these things to belong to his family members, and not to him, and that's why he feels he shouldn't get rid of it (not that he really wants this stuff), could you put it into storage and ask his family to either pay for the storage rental or get rid of it themselves?
 

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If they belong to your BIL, box them in a couple boxes and call UPS to come pick it up and ship it to his house and let him deal with it, if that is possible. Heck, send everything back to its rightful owners.
 

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The toys are ours per BIL. He has moved to another country and has started another collection. I think a part of DH really enjoys those toys even though no one is actually playing with it. ILs stuff have to go with us. That's their stuff.<br><br>
I've had a talk with him tonight and he has agreed to start to sell the items. We have a few weeks before the move. He has finally agreed to dispose of the videotapes. So yeah!<br><br>
Just purged a few boxes of DD and DS's baby clothes. I'm actually alittle sad. But we are definitely done and the new house really doesn't have much storage.
 

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that's huge! even though you are going to be moving your m/fil's stuff, that's great that dh is willing to let go of the videotapes and the collection from bil. it is sometimes sad to let go of our things, especially when they remind us of an important time in our lives. it really helps me to think of the items being used and enjoyed and serving another family.<br><br>
you are doing awesome! good luck with your move.
 
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