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My dd is two in a few days, and almost 32/33lb ish. She plays merry he!! when we are in stores, running off, pulling stuff from shelves. In the mei tai she is perfect-happy and snuggled.<br><br>
But she's getting so heavy, and I am struggling. The sling kills my shoulder, leaves my arm numb and me in pain. The mei tai is now hurting my back.<br><br>
Any suggestions for a carrier that would cope with her, and my issues, or is it time to just make her walk and behave <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I think a woven wrap is really comfortable like a Didymos. That said, sometimes when my 2 1/2 yo is up and down when we are out, I don't want to deal with a wrap. I would recommend an Ergo or a bECO. The waist belt really distributes your child's weight to your hips. I have an Ergo but never use it because my bECOs are just too darn gorgeous!
 

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I am curious though-my mei tai seems incredibly similar to the beco-am I maybe just not wearing it right? It seems all her weight is hanging from my shoulders, and none is at my hips.
 

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With a MT, you usually tie the waist straps around your waist so most of the weight is there. Also, I have found that some MT waist straps start folding over and getting thin with the weight of a heavier toddler. Since you have a MT, try tweaking it a little bit to see if helps it feel more comfortable. Make sure you bounce your toddler all the way down into the MT before tying the shoulder straps. Also, play with where you tie the waist strap. You can also tie the shoulder straps differently like making an X (twisted twice) over your child's back and coming under the legs to the front.<br><br>
With a bECO or an Ergo, the waist belt is thick and padded and worn around your hips. With these soft structured carriers, I found more of the weight goes to my hips and less on my shoulders.
 

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I think I'll try that. My mei tai is also padded-not quite so broad a strap as the beco, but not the normal mei tai style either. I think that I am carrying 90% of her weight on my shoulders, because I just tried and undid the waist belt, and there was no difference at all......
 

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I agree with the PP, a soft structured carrier would probably do a good job of distributing the weight to your hips and off your shoulders. I use a Beco with my almost 2 1/2 yr old and she likes to run away from as a big joke. She just doesn't get the danger.<br><br>
Besides Beco and Ergo, there is also Yamo, Angelpack LX and the Mei Favorite and a bunch of new ones coming on the market. Hope you find one that works for you!<br><br>
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yes, another vote for a SSC. my MT still works for my 32 lb little man, but the SSC is comfortable for longer stretches for sure. but i don't think i could deal with an unpadded shoulder unless it was a wrap-style strap or at least a really wide one like a BBO.<br><br>
if you don't want to/can't afford to buy a new carrier, though, and you think shoulder padding would help, you could buy a small amount of microfleece and some velcro/aplix and wrap the microfleece around the shoulder strap and velcro it in place. a lot of padded MT's use microfleece as the padding.<br><br>
also, some tying ideas to help the MT you have work more comfortably:<br><br>
have you tried a "lexi twist" with your straps? basically, instead of taking the straps under her bum and bringing them back around to the front, you cross them up higher on her back, and twist the straps several times before bringing them back around to the front. it gives extra support/lift to the baby's bum, which is where a lot of the pulling comes from ime.<br><br>
also, i like to tie mine MT tibetan, where you bring the straps up under the shoulder straps cross-wise and tie it at the chest.<br><br>
the combination of the lexi twist and tying tibetan gives me a *lot* more support than crossing under the bum and bringing them around in front to tie off at the waist. it does take up extra strap length, so depending on the length of your straps, you may or may not be able to do those ties, or maybe not both of them at the same time.<br><br>
here's a link to a thread at TBW with some videos for Lexi Twist: <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com/forum/showthread.php?t=33592&highlight=lexi+twist+video" target="_blank">http://www.thebabywearer.com/forum/s...xi+twist+video</a><br><br>
and pictorial instructions for Tibetan tie: <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com/articles/HowTo/MBTibetan.htm" target="_blank">http://www.thebabywearer.com/article.../MBTibetan.htm</a><br><br>
both links show the user with a wrap, but it's the same with the MT - easier, actually, since you are using straps.<br><br>
HTH!
 

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That sounds like lots of help thank you! My mei tai is already heavily padded, at both shoulders and hips. But it really does seem like I have been tying it wrong, and all her weight is on my shoulders. I am going to look at the sites you linked and see if I can try something new.<br><br>
Thank you!
 
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