Background: My MIL is a realtor, but not just any realtor. She is one of the top realtors in her county, which is a very expensive, hot market. She has been the top realtor for about 10 years in a row. She's very good at what she does, and needless to say, makes a whole lot of money.<br><br>
I have been with dh for 15 years, and in that time my mom has gone through being totally broke, dealing with evictions, medical issues, unemployment, legal issues surrounding disability insurance, credit issues, etc. But, she is at a point now where she has her business up and running, her credit totally cleared up, and has really been doing well for the past 3 years or so.<br><br>
I've always felt that my MIL looks down on my family because we don't have a lot of money. It's been a sore spot with me for a long time, and I purposely avoid talking with my MIL about my parents because her condescending attitude really bugs me. She's not outright mean or anything, but the whole "poor her" attidue about my mom just makes me crazy.<br><br>
Anyhow. So we get notifications of new houses that go on the market through MIL's account with MLS - we get them the moment they are listed. I saw a really cute one, in an area that my mom likes, at a surprisingly low price that my mom could actually afford. So I immediately emailed MIL and asked her if she could get the name of the listing agent for me so I could contact him and find out when it was being held open.<br><br>
I get an email from MIL the next day saying she's been busy but she'll get back to me. The next day I get a phone call from her saying she's sorry she forgot, but she'll get me the info right away. (Getting the name of the agent would take her literally 10 seconds as she has it on her system, plus she has two assistants.)<br><br>
Well, a week goes by and I don't hear anything from here. My mom is asking me about it but I don't want to bug MIL. Dh goes over to visit MIL on Sat night (the following week, so it's been 10 days) and asks her about it, and she says "Oh, it went quickly." When he came home and told me that I about flipped out. OF COURSE IT WENT QUICKLY, IT WAS A GOOD ONE, WHICH IS WHY I WANTED TO SEE IT!<br><br>
I pretty much flipped out, ranting at dh about how this was just so indicative of the lack of respect that MIL has for my mom. So he calls his mom on Sunday morning and pretty much lets her have it. (He didn't know that I had been asking her about the house previously.) She keeps saying she just forgot, blah blah blah. And while that might be true, the only reason she forgot was because it wasn't important to her because it was my mom. The lady is seriously the most on it realtor I've ever known, and there is no way she just forgets this kind of stuff.<br><br>
So anyhow, I get an email from her yesterday apologizing for letting me down, and asks me to give my mom her apologies. And I don't know what to say in return. I feel like I should respond, but "Oh, that's okay" doesn't feel right. But I certainly don't want to go any further with her on this.<br><br>
Help! What would you say?
I have been with dh for 15 years, and in that time my mom has gone through being totally broke, dealing with evictions, medical issues, unemployment, legal issues surrounding disability insurance, credit issues, etc. But, she is at a point now where she has her business up and running, her credit totally cleared up, and has really been doing well for the past 3 years or so.<br><br>
I've always felt that my MIL looks down on my family because we don't have a lot of money. It's been a sore spot with me for a long time, and I purposely avoid talking with my MIL about my parents because her condescending attitude really bugs me. She's not outright mean or anything, but the whole "poor her" attidue about my mom just makes me crazy.<br><br>
Anyhow. So we get notifications of new houses that go on the market through MIL's account with MLS - we get them the moment they are listed. I saw a really cute one, in an area that my mom likes, at a surprisingly low price that my mom could actually afford. So I immediately emailed MIL and asked her if she could get the name of the listing agent for me so I could contact him and find out when it was being held open.<br><br>
I get an email from MIL the next day saying she's been busy but she'll get back to me. The next day I get a phone call from her saying she's sorry she forgot, but she'll get me the info right away. (Getting the name of the agent would take her literally 10 seconds as she has it on her system, plus she has two assistants.)<br><br>
Well, a week goes by and I don't hear anything from here. My mom is asking me about it but I don't want to bug MIL. Dh goes over to visit MIL on Sat night (the following week, so it's been 10 days) and asks her about it, and she says "Oh, it went quickly." When he came home and told me that I about flipped out. OF COURSE IT WENT QUICKLY, IT WAS A GOOD ONE, WHICH IS WHY I WANTED TO SEE IT!<br><br>
I pretty much flipped out, ranting at dh about how this was just so indicative of the lack of respect that MIL has for my mom. So he calls his mom on Sunday morning and pretty much lets her have it. (He didn't know that I had been asking her about the house previously.) She keeps saying she just forgot, blah blah blah. And while that might be true, the only reason she forgot was because it wasn't important to her because it was my mom. The lady is seriously the most on it realtor I've ever known, and there is no way she just forgets this kind of stuff.<br><br>
So anyhow, I get an email from her yesterday apologizing for letting me down, and asks me to give my mom her apologies. And I don't know what to say in return. I feel like I should respond, but "Oh, that's okay" doesn't feel right. But I certainly don't want to go any further with her on this.<br><br>
Help! What would you say?
