Help I am so bored!

True I am not bored I am boring !!!

Well there is no real drama going on so that is a good thing.
And there has been enough of that

I just feel we are doing well, everything is even keel but...
I don't feel that I am doing 'anything', the kids are great everything there is going well, barely any colds this year...

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Thats just the thing I have an aupair, I am free to do 'things' if I could...
but I can't think of anything really....its sad! Money isn't a big issue I could find it if it were to go to something. But I can't think of anything!!!

I have all this time, and no real motivation.
I napped today, whoo, and it might feel great if I needed to, but I got a solid 8 hours last night, woke up before the baby...

And what would I do with me time? I have no one to spend me time with!
(and I am boring!)

Part of it is we are in a holding pattern...I've been trying to organize our lives to be ready to 'move'...dh gets a transfer (not looking as soon as it was last month) we were thinking of buying a house....but dh wants to get the taxes filed first....

It sounds to me like the rut you are finding yourself in right now has more to do with not doing something FOR YOU than not doing something at all. Maybe you aren't all that fond of cooking or sewing? Maybe you need to find something more exciting that you can do just yourself? My hubby is gone all the time. He works as an architectural engineer during the week, and flys at a model airplane club every weekend. But we have a pact that any weekend I pick, and anything I want to do family or alone, is mine for the asking. Maybe you need more nature, like investing in a mountain bike. Maybe you need adventure like sky diving. Maybe you need pampering like a day spa. My point is, try not limiting your "schedule" to conventional things to do, or kid friendly things to do. Trust me...I call my kiddies velcro-babies because they are attached to me in some form or another all the time. Literally. But even so, I know that my sanity depends on some degree of freedom, even if it's just knowing I could do it if I wanted to. And keep things spicy. Try not to do the same thing each week. Try making a list of all the things that interest you enough to try, and do just that. Check 'em off down the list as you do them, and grade which one's are worth doing again. After all, there are only so many ways you can rearrange the closet, or linens!!

alison playing spider solitaire...

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I am but I am a fairly good sewer/cook so its not that much of a challenge...

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hmm I guess I have been focused on achieving things... maybe that's my bad, I should focus on the intangible ...maybe a littel more prayer, etc...not goal oriented..

I do need an adventure but I just can't figure out what that is...I've become so practical! and so frustrated!! life was happier when I had less control! it doesn't help that dh is well not as available now as I am....lol nor as motivated! I was the one who used to be worn out, frazzled after all day with the kids now I have help....he's still worn out! and I can't really do his employment work for him and he's not interested in my funny dreams...
lately its become a mantra buy me that freaking house.... (*there's a house for sale I'd really like....that would cure me of my rental not enough to do!)

Maybe its spring fever!

I do think it is definately the season to be bored!! It's been raining for months here, and I'm just itching to get outdoors. I think maybe you need more challenge. Find things that almost sound silly to try. As far as motivation, I find my best motivation is my desire to be happy. I am not happy when I'm bored. When I'm not happy, no one in my home is happy. So, when I'm thinking "Oh, I just don't feel like doing anything today" (except the occasional weekend when I really just want to sit around), I remind myself of how I'm going to feel in the evening having gotten nothing accomplished. I often don't feel any better when all I did all day was housework. I have a lot of hobbies from crafts, to art, to music, to belly dancing, to building model airplanes, to outdoor activities. There really isn't anything I'm afraid to try. I regularly check my community paper to look for festivals, plays, movies, musicals, or family functions that even remotely sound fun. And of course, I'm a computer junkie. Lately, I've been thinking of taking up volunteer work. I am currently self teaching myself in herbology, homeopathy, healing through the human energy field, and midwifery. My MW said I can apprentice with them if I ever get serious, but right now I'm just learning stuff for fun. Librarys are great outings too. It sounds like you may reap much joy from doing something more hands on, spiritual, or physical. There's yoga, mediation, reiki, tarot, gardening, massage....really the list goes on and on. Focus on keeping yourself happy and fulfilled. Make it your job to do something that really makes YOU feel good, every day.

well I am figuring bored is a luxury I can only have if everything is done..
so I've been sorting my sewing stuff and tomorrow its going to be the closets, toys, kitchen I will just blitz it all....

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I was thinking I need to put more structured fun into my life (make sure my happy cd's are close at hand so I can have more music in my life) set aside time to read....oh maybe find a book I want to read that ain't practical!!

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lol sounds like me!! except I've finished most of the stuff on the master list! I need more things on my list! I guess I wasn't expecting to finish as many but my aupair is great and likes to do the same things cook sew, but now I am almost done all of my projects (except for that scrapbooking but....sigh....need to org the photos first online then print)

too bad you weren't local you sound like fun!

So glad you think I sound fun....I try to have fun with myself which makes things much easier when having fun with others. Like you, I have a lot of time on my hands. I have found that life changes make up for a lot of "down" time I used to have. I just try to keep a lot of variety in my life, which has helped to keep me from being bored, missing my dh, and it keeps the chickies enriched. Plus, when I do see dh, we always have lot's to talk about! This forum has become a wonderful resource for info, and meeting like minded mamas. So glad to chat, sorry I didn't write more last night, as I had a dvd date with my dh. Have you tried creative writing? Start with stuff you never intend on anyone to read. What about learning a new language? I woke up this morning, and decided that I am going to make a quilt. I usually do clothes, never done a quilt before, but it just sounds fun. So, I am off to the fabric store!!

You both sound like fun.

Same prob here. I do the dishes, clean the clothes and even fold them, pick up toys and dh's and my bedroom (when i get a chance) and thats the only chores i have...apt. living is pretty small and easy. I feel so useless since we are strapped for cash and can barely pay the bills and yet here I am doing nothing half the day. I just want to be able to contribute and then I could afford the projects I WANT to do.

I am prego and all of the sudden I have a million craft ideas....and i think i am watching to much trading spaces... want to make a slipcover for the couch, have a baby blanket that i am crocheting, want to start a baby quilt, want to sand the kitchen table we were given and redo it so it looks brand new. would LOVE to learn how to belly dance, want to go to the mall with friends (no friends here tho...) can't wait to move into base housing and redo the yard if we can afford it. would like to drive to san deigo and go out with a friend there ALL day and zoo's and stuff. gosh the list doesn't end its just b/c I can't find a WAH job we can't afford it!!

Ok we all get together and with your boredom, my ideas and crafts, and everyones previous experience we will have a blast!!!

if only wishes weren't gum drops (wait hows that song go....?)

wait how the heck do you sew with all those tiny pins and needles and the kids not puncture themselves till water spews out? been wanting to pull out the ole sewing machine but that makes me fearful....

I just want to say that belly dancing is WONDERFUL for pregnancy. They say it helps improve your muscle tone in the places that really count for labor. Plus, my babies loved the movement in utero, and continue to love for me to hold them and dance!! I also want to suggest establishing a designated spot for your sewing that won't be in the kids obvious grasp. I don't know how old your little one is. My eldest dd is 3yrs, and she pretty much knows what's ok or not to play with. In the begining I set up my sewing machine and accessories in the closet, and ran an extension cord to plug in only while in use. Then, when I was done I just closed the closet door. I also love those little snap tray carry alls. I originally got one to use for beading when I was making jewlery, but now I use it for all of my misc. stuff. Also, when I bought my new sewing machine last year, Target had this cool locking carry all with spool holders for your thread, and individual compartments for your needles and pins. Anything and everything is possible!!

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lol dh says I use all my 10,000 daily words on him!

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lol all the time! But then my family starts pressuring me to do it for money, not interested

I love cutting out quilting squares me and that rotary cutter...perfect match.
I did org. my sewing projects into boxes so when I feel inspired I can pull out a box they are all themed (diaper sewing, quilts etc)

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lol same here then I think I could get a job....not... then I know that'd be real boredom!

I am going to start my MBA in June...that should hopefully eat up some time and give my brain food.

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1. pull out only what you are using, figure out the min time you have and do only one part, today cut, tomorrow piece, the next day sew...
I do it in the kitchen as I can get the kids busy at the table with food, the little one in lockdown in the highchair... often I cut scraps for them to play with as they want to do what I do.

Sigh...need house!

I read recently that there are people who thrive on change/drama/transition/conflict/upset. You know what I mean? Monotony and simplicity in life are not acceptable. These are mostly just people who are not happy with status quo and are looking for the next "thing" to do. Not "thrill seekers" per se, but people who can't sit still. I can't remember where I read this article... The Nation? Atlantic Monthly? People? I work in a library, so I glance at these things and it doesn't all get absorbed.

Anyway, what I was reading is that the key to boredom is to always have small but significant changes in your life. I am TOTALLY like this and have to have these little change to keep from being bored. Sounds like you are about to make a significant life change by going back to school. For now the small significant change can be working up to going back to school. And then perhaps you can meet a new, interesting person at school that will help with those small, significant changes.

Just some thoughts.

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I've tried that route but I find that I've changed so the things I liked to do (basketball) are harder and I am getting older so I frustrate too easily as in my mind I am Jordan....where my moves are sad now!

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LOL I can understand for me I think I need a passion something in the future... something to plan for look forward to but all those options also suck... I am just in that can't be happy land. We are looking at buying a home....which would be nice but comes with a whole new set of hassles...

I guess its not that I am bored, but comitment phobic constipated. Moving is a big deal, and I hate making decisions....as then I have to take responsibilty for them We have a nice place now not perfect but nice for a SAHM we cannot afford to buy in this hood unless I go back to work - which totally depresses me.... but this house is way out there (but near my mom) and it does have nice stuff, but I fear the isolation aspects....but lol its not like I do a whole heck of a lot and ds might be starting school (haven't decided yet)

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I was so expecting to get energized by spring but I am not! All this no parkas and staying outside tuckers me right out!!!

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Okay hobby ideas pour them out!!!