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I'm not sure what I'm looking for...support, encouragement....something!<br><br>
We've been cosleeping ever since ds was born last year...and it's been somewhat rough as both my son and my husband are rough sleepers....always tossing and turning. I've made the situation more bearable by giving them some relaxation tea at night (ds has one made for kids) and that helps some.<br><br>
Before I started working full-time ds would start out in our bed, then when he was asleep I'd put him in his crib. This would happen several times during the night. I was making some headway until I started working. We went back to full-time co-sleeping, since A) I miss being with him during the day and B) I don't have the energy to keep being up much of the night going back and forth.<br><br>
Now however, I'm STILL up much of the time. He wakes up several times a night to nurse, most of it comfort...literally around 3-4 times a night. We can no longer put him in his crib after he's asleep, he wakes up almost right away.<br><br>
I don't mind co-sleeping but him constantly waking up is driving me nuts. I am having a hard time functioning at work. He's definitely not ready to be weaned and I believe in child-led weaning anyway. I just don't know what to do. I've tried offering juice or pumped milk in a sippy when he wakes up but he won't have it...it's MOM and MOM ONLY. I can tell the difference when he's going to go back to sleep on his own and he's UP and needs me. If he needs me, he's going to do whatever it takes to wake me...noise, patting my face, whatever.<br><br>
I don't know...I just need help of some sort!
 

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That's around the age I started encouraging dd to latch on by herself so I didn't have to wake up.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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Well,I would personally not keep getting up and getting cups or anything,since that probably wakes him up even more,and is just more tiring for you . Is he waking up to nurse and staying awake,or just waking up to nurse and going back to sleep,then going right back to sleep once latched on? If he's waking up just long enough to latch on,I'd just wear easy to access shirts,or none at all if your more confy that way,and show him how to latch on himself. If he is waking up to play/stay awake/whatever,I would pretend to be asleep,and eventually the novelty should wear off.
 

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Or even if you need to help himlatch on, can't you fall back asleep while he nurses?<br>
I got lazy and only nursed on one side all night long. Weird at first but my breasts got used to it.
 

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DD is up usually 2-3 times a night, and it's exhausting. We partially co-sleep, but she sleeps much better in her crib. She starts out in her crib and comes to bed with us the first time she wakes to nurse (which means standing in her crib screaming). She sleeps with us until she starts to fuss, and I have to put her back in her crib so she can go back to sleep. Plus the constant moving around and fussing wakes me up. (DH sleeps through everything!) I fall back asleep while she nurses, but she inevitably wakes me up, so I have to get up again anyway. Last night I think she was up and nursed at least 4 times. She did stay in bed with us most of the night so I tend to lose track of how often she actually nursed. She's been teething again for the past month, and I think some are finally going to come through. I guess I don't have any real advice... just wanted to let you know you're not alone.
 

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My DD (13 months) just lifts my shirt and latches herself on. Sometimes I don't even know. (I've woke more than once wondering how she got on me... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) I wouldn't get up and get cups or get up and play or the like...just lay there & let your DC nurse. Is it hard for you to sleep while nursing? That would be a big problem for me. But I find it helps...I often say DD nurses ME to sleep! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My DD is 12 months and is pretty much doing the same. There are some nights where she wakes up 2-4 times. Then there are nights where she sleeps all night with zero interruptions. When she is fussy and needy, I just put her in bed with us and just leave my shirt lifted so that she latch on whenever she wakes up and needs comfort. It was awkward at first, but then she got use to the idea and it seems to work well. She sleeps better, I sleep better, and we all feel better in the morning. She's also teething and that adds to the drama at 3:00 in the morning with her screaming in pain, sleepiness, comfort. Don't feel mama, many of us are still up at night.
 

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Thank you for your helpful advice. No, my son is definitely going back to sleep after latching on, but the problem is that he first sits up...starts whining and flapping his arms, so I take him and latch him on (or sometimes he'll do it himself but other times he sits and flaps <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).....then as he's nursing he is wiggling around, crawling over me (while latched on), rolling around, then he detaches himself and he starts crying and flapping again so I have to relatch him if he doesn't find it himself. Holding him firmly does help but many times he complains and makes more fuss so he wiggles out of my grasp. Then about the time I get to sleep he'll do it again....which it usually 2 or so hours later. His best sleep time is right when I have to get up to get ready for work! Sometimes pretending to be asleep works, but if he really wants it he'll start patting my face and then trying to find the nipples.....so I think I'll just wear something loose and teach him how to find it himself....with hopefully a minimum of fuss.
 

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I actually ended up night-weaning dd when she was 2. Your dc might be too young to understand this, but it worked for us at 2 years old. I had to do it. I am pregnant and the nipple soreness was making night nursing painful and keeping me awake. And you know, when you're pregnant, you need LOTS of rest, especially in that first trimester. Anyway, what I did was, after she would nurse for a little while, I would tell her a story about how "nummies" like to go to sleep with Mommy and wake up in the morning with the sun. I told her to watch the windows for the sun, and that's when "nummies" would wake back up. The first week was hard, and we both lost a lot of sleep. She would wake up rooting and I would explain about "nummies" sleeping and about watching for the sun. She cried some and fussed a lot, but I was right there with her and assured her that we could cuddle as much as we wanted and that I wasn't going anywhere and everything was fine. I'd keep a straw cup by the bed with water in it in case she was actually thirsty, and it worked some of the time. Within about two week's time, she started staying asleep all night. Now she will sometimes sleep for 8 or 9 hours without waking up for water or cuddles. Then I let her nurse in the morning before we get out of bed.
 
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