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Hi everyone!<br><br>
I know this is a far stretch, but I have to ask. I am having trouble with my doctor and I can't afford to hire a doula or midwife, and am kind of scared about going UC. (fyi, I am 39 weeks, and doc wants to induce or c/s if I dont go into labor on my own at 40 weeks.) You can look up my recent postings to see what my docs are doing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><br>
Does anyone know if there is a kind soul out there that might be willing to take me on? For a hospital or home birth?<br><br>
I am planning on delivering at Sparrow incase something else arises...I myself live about 40 minutes west of the hospital...<br><br>
Thanks ladies, any help or words of wisdom would be great!<br>
Beth
 

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Smile and nod, and then wait until the baby is ready. As long as you feel okay. Well, as okay as a very pregnant mom can feel. He can't force a C section or induction. If he threatens to drop you as a patient, just ask him who he is refering you to. It is an empty threat. To drop you this late would be irresponsible. You are the consumer, and have a right to informed consent.<br><br>
Don't let him bully you.<br><br>
Here is some statistical info to throw at him.<br><br>
The 'due date' is the middle of the 95% confidence band which is a month in duration. This means that all but 5% of the moms deliver in the month around the due date. 50% should deliver after the due date.<br><br>
Big babies come out easier. Having fat to cushion those bones makes them squishy, so the bones don't get caught.<br><br>
The induction drugs are not safe for your uterus. They induce harder, unnatural contractions with not enough rest in between.<br><br>
If you feel you want another birth professional, Dr. Kathy Kleinert works out of Livonia. She would require payment, but is covered for most medical insurances. A Doctor, but we think of her a a midwife in doctor's clothing.<br><br>
You can threaten him with transferring to another doctor. Most of his costs are incured during prenatal visits, most of his profits are for (ick) delivery. (I prefer to say birthing services, but he doesn't deserve a nice term.)<br><br>
Michigan is one of the worst places to give birth. Please fight for the birth you want. It's a shame we have a culture of the doctors are always all knowing gods around here.<br><br>
Hang in there. A doctor shouldn't be using scare tactics on you.<br><br>
Do you want in to the natural birth advocacy group on yahoo? I'm sure this group of midwifes and other people who feel that women should be able to use informed consent would be more help. I'm just an engineer, I learned the hard way.<br><br>
I ran 12 days past my due date with my second. 15 minutes from front door of the hospital, to birth.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Rainbow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rainbow peace"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Rainbow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rainbow peace"><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fencing.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fencing">:<br><br><br>
and lot's of happy labor dust<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust">
 

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The MMA is having a midwifery conference this weekend right near you - in Okemos... couldn't hurt to stop in and see what you can find.
 

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who is your doctor and why are you delivring at sparrow. ingham is much more vbac and natural birth friendly. i would suggest not talking to or seeing your doctor anymore and waiting until you go into labor, just show up in labor at ingham and tell them you want a vbac. or you could try to switch to meridians womens health. dr russel is very vbac supportive she had a vbac herself.
 

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Contact the center for the childbearing year in Ann Arbor. They match women with volunteer doulas. I volunteer for them and have for about a year. I would be more than happy to work with you but live too far away.
 

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Please also PM defenestrator, who is a midwife in AA. I think she knows a midwife in your area...whether or not she's able or willing to take a free case, I'm not sure, but it certainly can't hurt to try!
 

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Oh, and I second the vote that you call the Center for the Childbearing year...I, too, would help you out, but am too far away!
 

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So, reading some of your other posts, something stands out for me -- your c-section was performed for a breech preemie at 27 weeks. I am wondering if the circumstances of your surgery are part of what is making your doctor be so conservative.<br><br>
Did you have a vertical incision? Was the incision low and transverse on your uterus or higher up? Sometimes with preemies or breeches the incision is either vertical or it ends up being more in the middle of the uterus because the lower uterine segment isn't all that well developed yet.<br><br>
I guess it would be more common for someone who was concerned about these things to refuse to care for you at all, but after reading about you I am wondering if your history is a part of your doctor's discomfort in your going past your due date.<br><br>
I think, though, that if you have a sense of what the VBAC risks are for you specifically and want to change providers, it might be worth calling a few homebirth midwives and asking them about long payment plans or lower fees. The midwife the Courtenay mentioned that I know is Kate Mazzara in Howell. You can get her contact info on the directory at michiganmidwives.org. She has been flexible with people about payment in the past.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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oh yeah, i live in lansing and my doula<br>
from the childbearing year is free and she's in ann arbor her name is jaime ferguson so maybe she could doula for you for free
 

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Hey Ebony,<br>
Don't know if this is the same Jamie I recently had the pleasure to work with, but if it is you, are one lucky birthing momma. She was a doula for a mom who had a long labor with an asynclitic baby who was causing a lot of back pain.<br><br>
Jamie was great through that whole long hard thing. I bet her arms were tired afterward from rubbing mom's back and holding the warm compresses on.<br><br>
Mom had a single dose of pain med and a vaginal birth in the hospital.
 
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