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I was heading to bed around 2am exactly when dd decided to get up and it's now 6 am and she won't sleep.<br>
I am so so so so so so so so ANGRY!!!!!!!! I absolutely feel no compassion for this child right now (and way too often these days)..she is SO much work day in and day out you'd think I could get a break at night but NO ..she's not crying, not fussing, just walking around (our house is almost TOTALLY DARK i might add. I turned off all the lights, have not been interacting with her at all, so she realizes it's night = boring which obviously is not phasing her at all)<br><br>
Honestly I dont care if she's teething or if she's bored or hungry or whatever. I just want her to go to sleep..it's a little better now but for HOURS I felt I needed to not be anywhere around her b/c I the anger was so pent up. I am so pissed off<br><br>
i absolutely HATE cosleeping with her..she moves too much, makes too much noise, I cant get any sleep AT ALL with her around. I'm just in tears right now. I can't do this. I literally am going on NO sleep right now and I <b>have</b> to leave the house with both kids in an hour and a half.<br><br>
She's not even in our bed as much anymore! she's in our room though but I want her OUT. I cant even do that either, we have only one other bedroom and dd1 is the one who wanted out of our room b/c she couldnt stand being around dd2 and i totally cant blame her.<br><br>
DH is at his wits end too so he's not able to help much.we were both tryin to get her to sleep and he has to work early.<br><br>
She is tryin to snuggle with me and I just cant do it. I want nothing to do with her. I cannot believe how angry I am, not to mention exhausted.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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she's slooowly getting tired...lying on the floor quietly with small eyes...sigh..<br>
i have to leave in an hour.
 

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I'm so sorry. I don't have much to say in terms of help, but I just wanted to say that I really feel for you. I've been through nights of being up for hours on end with frequent wakings in between. It's so so hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
It sounds like you *really really* need a little time away. As hard as it is to find the time and a babysitter you trust, it sounds like you really need it. Is there anyone you could ask to watch your girls for a few hours so you could get out/get a nap? Or maybe your husband after work/at the weekend?<br><br>
Also, if you resent co-sleeping, it's time for a change. Could your older daughter sleep with you guys and dd2 could have her own room for a while? Could you set up some sort of partition in your 2nd bedroom so the girls could each have their own space?<br><br>
I don't know, maybe you've thought of all this. I just couldn't read and not respond. You'll get through it. Take a break though...you need some - any - time away if you're feeling resentful and like you might hurt yourself or someone else.
 

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thx bananababies..<br>
of course she's the cutest thing in the world right now, all sprawled out on the floor totally zonked out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
I do need a break..but I found that once or twice in a great while is NOT what i need..I end up missing them too much..I need a regular break every DAY and it's just not happening..soon though..I have a class coming up where I'll be getting a sitter and I'll go out for coffee/hang with friends after class for a bit so my 'breaktime' is not *just* classtime..<br><br>
thank u thank u thank u for the hugs and words of advice. so greatly appreciated.
 

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oh i didnt answer ur questions..<br>
I'll talk to dd1 and see if she's up for moving into our room while dd2 uses that room (problem is when she gets up at night I have to go all the way over to that room..I do *not* do well with waking up from deep sleep..I literally feel glued to the bed due to fatigue)...<br><br>
and I cant separate the room, it's sooo tiny and dd1 doesnt want to hear dd2 at all ..she's VERY loud and dd1 is super super sensitive to all noises in general and very introverted likes her space..though at the time cosleeping seemed difficult at times, man do I appreciate having dd1 sleeping next to me...<br>
dd2 is so spirited ..even my IL's dont want to watch her much (they are older and have a hard time keeping up with her)..SIGH.. I'll get a break for a bit today since dd1 has a dentist appt <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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I dont have any great advice, but I know how you feel!!<br>
Im so sorry, its so hard to function and be kind on no sleep.<br>
I hope things are better soon and you get some well deserved rest!
 

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oh also have you ever tried Hylands calms forte for kids, or herbs for kids has a product called super calm that works pretty well too.<br>
Sometimes my dd has a really hard time sleeping and sometimes using one of these helps her relax and fall back to sleep.
 

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Awwww, mama. I've had my fair share of those crazy nights too. Right down to the hating to be a mama point. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I didn't quite catch how old/young your dd2 is, but she seems like a toddler? It really sounds like you need a change. Co-sleeping is not working if you are this miserable. Work on changing the sleeping arrangements. It gonna s*ck at first, because if she resists, you'll get less sleep than you're getting now, but hopefully it will work out better in the end. I am wondering (if this is a frequent problem) if something else isn't going on. Besides the normal teeth, growing things, if she's consistently up alot at night, something strikes me as out of sorts. Food allergies? How is her nap? Or her behavior during the day? Is she generally well rested or is she tired often? Doesshe eat well? Nurse often? I would also try to calms forte for kids if I was inthat situation again. Or maybe Rescue remedy (for both of you!) it just takes the edge off. Is she getting lots and lots of exercise during the day (not right before bedtime?) You know, all the normal questions.<br>
Lastly, what would she do if you went to bed? Or maybe fall asleep on the couch? Without trying to get her to sleep, maybe just put a blanket and pillow on the floor and lay down and get some shut eye? Would she get into stuff or would she be ok with just playing quietly? My dd would freak out if I left, but maybe your's would be ok? I know you said your dh needs to sleep too, but can he help at all? Maybe take her for a few hours so you can rest?<br>
And you are right about needing a break every day. Absolutely. How can you make that happen? Is there a teen that can be a mothers helper for an hour a day? Can your dh take over when he gets home for a while? Maybe he can give the girls a bath and you can get a break then. I'm the same way, on days where it's all me I feel absolutely batty by the end of the day. I realized that if *I* dont make a break happen, I wont ever get one. DD of course prefers me over everyone, and if I dont just arrange for time off, I'll be on the clock 24/7/365. HTH
 

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I'm sorry. I know EXACTLY how you feel.
 
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