Oh Heather, I'm so sorry to hear you're having a hard time
. I don't have any advice for your original question, but I'm with the pps -- thinking the best course of action is to try to help your baby with the colic. I know sometimes kids just have colic, and nothing helps even when the parents have tried everything
. I also remember how overwhelmingly exhausted I was ... the thought of reading books or trying to find a doctor or any kind of healer who could help me ... I just didn't have the strength. I can't imagine being in that position with a toddler to care for too
I'm sure you've already tried some things to help your baby ... do you want to run through them briefly, so you're not inundated with a bunch of suggestions to try things you already have?
In the meantime, I'll list some things that come to mind:
If you're interested in Happiest Baby on the Block, I'd suggest seeing if your library has the DVD (mine does). It's much easier and shorter than reading a book, and you can also visually see his swaddling style, etc.
Allergies, reflux, gas or some other kind of digestive upset are certainly something to consider. You could try an elimination diet; I did the Dr. Sears one
because dd was so gassy, and although it didn't help us, I lost all of my pregnancy weight
. I always try to get to the root of the problem, though, instead of just treating the symptoms, so I kept searching. DD has had digestive issues her whole life, and we've had the best success treating them with homeopathy, herbs and probiotics (all from our homeopath). I'll give some references later in case you're interested.
Another thought is birth trauma. That's what happened to us -- dd was deep suctioned due to meconium staining, and it caused an oral aversion and she cried whenever she nursed. I wrote about it in detail on my blog, which you can read here
if you want. What finally helped was chiropractic care (to this day, I still don't know what she did) and craniosacral therapy
(both of these can also help with digestive issues, too).
Have you tried any crying in arms? There's a great article in Mothering on this; you can read it here: http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...onnection.html
. It has also been discussed on these forums before; you can read some of those threads here
How NE in Ohio are you? I know Toledo, for example, is only about an hour away from here. If you're within driving distance of Metro Detroit, I can recommend some really fabulous healers in this area, and I don't think you'd have to be driving here every day for months on end (our chiro, for example, said she rarely has to see kids more than 3 times (and charges $30/session); and dd released her birth trauma in about 4-5 CST sessions (also $30/session)). My homeopath sees dd about once a month, and she's more expensive.
If you would like to look for someone close to home, here are some references for that:
You can find a craniosacral therapist through this site (click on "Find a Practitioner"): http://www.upledger.com/
When you search in your area, you'll be able to see the courses everyone has taken. At a bare minimum, the CS therapist should have CSI, CSII, SERI (somatoemotional release) and CSP (the pediatrics course). I have also learned that regardless of training, not all CS therapists are equal. If you're not happy with the one you're seeing, then find someone else.
For chiropractic, you can search this site: http://www.icpa4kids.org/
Our chiro is different from any I've ever seen before, though, and I'm sold on her approach. She practices upper cervical correction (http://www.nucca.org/
), although she also does CST and is very holistic, etc., which won't necessarily be the case with all the chiros listed on that site. And the same holds here as with the CST ... if you're not getting results, keep looking. I took dd to one chiro for a few months with little improvement before switching to the one who really helped us.
We were initially introduced to homeopathy through a holistic pediatrician (MD who was also trained in CST, acupuncture, homeopathy, etc.). I know she is a member of this site (http://www.hpakids.org/
), but I can't speak to the other practitioners who are listed there (e.g., do they have the same qualifications she does, etc.). But it would be a place to start. When she moved too far away, I started taking dd to see my homeopath (who I found through the holistic ped), and I actually like her better. Sadly, I don't know how to help you find someone like her. She is the most amazing healer I've ever met in my life, and is so much more than a homeopath (here's her website if you want to check it out: http://www.leaphealingnaturalhealth.com/
). I've asked her in the past if she knows of people in other areas doing the work she does, and sadly she does not.
If you want more info or need a shoulder to cry on, feel free to PM me. If I can help in any way, let me know. I would be more than happy to direct you to the people we see here, or even help you find someone in your area as best I can.
I hope things are better soon