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According to my DD, her grandparents (my ILs) are planning to take her to Disneyland for her 5th birthday. Now, I kind of doubt that this is a done deal as they're not the kind of people who would do that without consulting me or DH, and also her birthday is a good 6 months and more away. BUT DH did float the idea past me a while ago - and I said I had no objection to them taking her on a fun fun vacation (although I would really prefer they didn't leave the country), but I really have some serious issues with Disneyland and I would not give such a trip my blessing.<br><br>
My IL's are fabulous, awesome grandparents, btw. DD is so lucky to have them in her life, and I really, really don't want this to turn into a big issue - generally we all get along really well and if I didn't feel so icked out at the idea of my beautiful girl being exposed to the rampant consumerism, history-revisionism, constant happy girl-and-boy-live-happily-ever-after endings... well, I'd be inclined to agree to it. BUT I just can't do it - princess thing aside (and that IS a big thing) I just don't like far too many of the Disney messages.<br><br>
I think, though, that if I was able to offer an alternative, something fun that would appeal to my adventurous little DD and their more pedestrian tastes, they would probably go for it. Does anyone have any ideas? (Not such a fan of the whole theme park thing - seems to me their main source of income isn't admissions and rides so much as it is merchandising and fast food...) Are there, like, ranches or something that are geared towards kids? Packaged, not-too-strenuous outdoor adventures for the preschool set? Some kind of grandparent/grandkid resorts or anything?<br><br>
(Alternately - convince me I'm wrong about Disneyland, and it isn't an orgy of fast-food-consumerist crap laced with "the heroine gets the boy" and "be good and you'll live happily ever after" with a side of "no, really, you want stuffed Mickey dolls and eighteen t-shirts with Disney princesses on them"? Is it possible my precious darling will emerge from such a place and not demand to watch every Disney princess film ever made, and with no Disney products in her suitcase?)
 

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If they really want a theme park, we liked Universal Studios in Orlando Florida. The Cat in the Hat area was really nice for our DD who was almost 3 at the time. They have one in Hollywood too, but it has different rides.<br><br>
As for leaving a place without souvenirs, we bring home at least one thing from someplace once a year. Last year it was a kangaroo with a baby joey in her pouch, the year before a stuffed triceratops. So your DD will bring home a toy or toys from wherever she goes. My DH brought home a Jurassic park hat from universal studios.
 

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What about a weekend in Vancouver? Some pretty fun stuff around there, but you have probably done a lot of it.<br>
Barkerville?<br><br>
Does it have to be at her birthday? It's in winter, right?
 

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How about Great Wolf Lodge?
 

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How about Rocking Horse Ranch? <a href="http://www.rhranch.com/" target="_blank">http://www.rhranch.com/</a> It's a great family place with horse back riding and other fun activities for all ages. We went there when dd1 was about 4 and it was great!
 

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I think it is ok for kids to dive whole heartily into fantasy and come out perfectly fine and normal. Yes, they can wallow in it for a moment and be ok in the long run.<br><br>
As for souvenirs, many people bring back something. It is ok to have "crap" occasionally.<br><br>
I agree with Great Wolf Lodge! It was awesome!<br><br>
How about Six Flags?
 

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If Southern Cali is where they are looking towards, there are a lot of other options:<br><br>
Lego Land<br>
Knotts Berry Farm<br>
Universal Studios<br>
Sea World<br><br>
I don't know of any closer to you.. Here in Utah we have an amusement park called Lagoon, and it's fun!
 

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I second Sea world, I also love the san diego zoo.<br><br>
Disney is disney, if you have aproblem with it, I would not let your DD go. We have a 1 souveneir rule, so no matter what DS wants, he knows he only gets one thing, so he usually saves what he wants until the end of the trip.
 

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I think it presents a wonderful opportunity for your dd to go to Disney without you having to set foot in the place. I think she will not emerge with a new Cinderella fixation (I think). I went at 5 or 6 and I don't recall becoming infatuated with it. I do still have my sterling silver charm bracelet with the Disney characters on it. Of course, it was different back in the 70's, not quite as many princesses.<br><br>
I do understand your concern.<br><br>
If you don't have a problem with her being taken on vacation without you, I think you should let them!
 

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Is Sea World any better in some ways? I've heard animal rights activists have a real problem with them. Something about where they get their dolphins from. And those poor whales living alone.
 

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I have heard nothing but rave reviews about this place! I think I'd really love to experience it for myself.<br><br>
Here's a link for the OP:<br><br><a href="http://www.greatwolf.com/" target="_blank">http://www.greatwolf.com/</a>
 

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The Wild Animal Park in San Diego is really cool (as is the zoo, but I like the WAP better).<br><br>
As for Disneyland, you don't really get the messages nearly as much by being there as you do by watching the movies. She'll see the <i>images</i>, but if she has no frame of reference for them because she's never watched the movies, then she won't know the stories/messages behind everything, and her grandparents will probably be saying things like "Whee, isn't this ride fun," not "Now let me see if you can recite the story of Sleeping Beauty back to me." That said, I'm sure they'll want to get her a souvenir of the trip, and it may very well be some sort of princess thing.<br><br>
I'm of the mind, though, that the values and messages you teach your kids in your home day in and day out are vastly more meaningful to them than an isolated daytrip or weekend here and there with loving, well-intentioned grandparents who may expose them to stuff you consider less-than-ideal. But if you're stridently opposed and just cannot stomach feeding the Disney machine, hopefully you guys will come up with another option that everyone will enjoy. (And for full disclosure, we have annual passes to Disneyland and go a couple of times a month, so I'm clearly not the best person to give advice to someone with your views on the subject! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br><br>
ETA: My grandmother took me to Victoria when I was a kid, and my memories of Butchart gardens and tea at the Empress Hotel are among my most precious, but you guys have probably already done all that stuff! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Legoland is fun.<br><br>
I know you don't like Disney, but I can't imagine every value you have instilled in your child being erased by a trip to a magical, make-believe place like Disneyland.
 

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There are a lot of dinosaur fossil parks - with paleontologists, footprints, etc that would be fun for a kid that age (some of the bigger ones I've heard of in Utah or Colorado). Waterparks could work, and I don't know where you'd find a cage-free 'zoo' - but something like that would be really cool too.
 

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you can fly in to madison or millwaukee and go to wisconsin dells - there is a kalahari and great wolf resorts here as well as hundreds of other attractions.
 

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I share your concerns re: Disney, OP, so I can totally relate. We have done Great Wolf Lodge with family & loved it....I would highly recommend it & it is a great special thing to do with grandparents IMO, we are planning to go with the other set of grandparents sometime this fall. Legoland would be a great choice too...I LOVED Lego as a kid & I think any kid would really love Legoland.
 

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What about Dollywood? They have lots of traditional music and crafts as well as rides and water park stuff. Here's a list of their four festivals. The Festival of Nations drum celebration is supposed to be amazing!<br><br><a href="http://www.dollywood.com/festivals.aspx" target="_blank">http://www.dollywood.com/festivals.aspx</a>
 

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Not sure if you'd like this place or not, but thought I'd mention it. We used to go every year when we took our vacation with friends on Table Rock Lake. All the kids loved it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><a href="http://www.silverdollarcity.com/" target="_blank">http://www.silverdollarcity.com/</a>
 

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I know you don't like Disney, but I can't imagine every value you have instilled in your child being erased by a trip to a magical, make-believe place like Disneyland.</div>
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Ditto. I have the same problems with Disney that you do, but I love Disneyland and they do the theme park thing very well.<br><br>
But, for a 5yo, I think Legoland is a better choice, at least it was for my kids at that age. Most of the rides at Disneyland were too scary for my kids at that age, but Legoland was great. Yes, it's commercial in the sense that they're selling Legos <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">, but it feels much different because you aren't seeing characters all over the place. I think it's a good compromise.
 

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Yellowstone?<br>
I really want to go <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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