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DH is a very attentive and loving father - he adores DS and DS adores him. He does his very best - but honestly there are many times that isn't enough or isn't what *I* feel DS needs.
I have tons of experience with kids - including teaching preschoolers and having a "knack" with those "problem kids." Gentle discipline turned quite a few kids who were labeled as problem kids or schedule to be evaluated for ADHD into happier, healthier more stable kids. Plus I have great resources like this site and some parenting books.
But DH has NO experience what-so-ever with kids. He hates reading, and sees the books I leave out for him as "homework" or "chores" - and that makes him so unreceptive to the info in them. But he is a psych guy, and understand how important gentle parenting is - he works with kids who have been severely abused and now reside in state facilities due to their mental problems resulting from the various forms of abuse.
The problem is getting DH to understand what is developmentally appropriate behavior, what are "gentle" ways to teach DS, what it means to have a high needs child, etc. DS is 14mo and very very spirited. I guess you could define him as "high needs" according to Dr Sear's definition....so he does present some challenges. LOL
DH wants to learn and wants me to tell him "better alternatives" but at the same time - sometimes he takes my suggestions as an attack on his parenting abilities....
What can I do to help DH out? Are there any books that are "good" and "easy" reads? Are there any resources out there designed for Dads? How can I encourage him, teach him better techniques, etc?
I have tons of experience with kids - including teaching preschoolers and having a "knack" with those "problem kids." Gentle discipline turned quite a few kids who were labeled as problem kids or schedule to be evaluated for ADHD into happier, healthier more stable kids. Plus I have great resources like this site and some parenting books.
But DH has NO experience what-so-ever with kids. He hates reading, and sees the books I leave out for him as "homework" or "chores" - and that makes him so unreceptive to the info in them. But he is a psych guy, and understand how important gentle parenting is - he works with kids who have been severely abused and now reside in state facilities due to their mental problems resulting from the various forms of abuse.
The problem is getting DH to understand what is developmentally appropriate behavior, what are "gentle" ways to teach DS, what it means to have a high needs child, etc. DS is 14mo and very very spirited. I guess you could define him as "high needs" according to Dr Sear's definition....so he does present some challenges. LOL
DH wants to learn and wants me to tell him "better alternatives" but at the same time - sometimes he takes my suggestions as an attack on his parenting abilities....
What can I do to help DH out? Are there any books that are "good" and "easy" reads? Are there any resources out there designed for Dads? How can I encourage him, teach him better techniques, etc?
