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DS is 6 and is so difficult to deal with. I know that sounds horrible. But I am at my wits end and find myself losing my temper on a regular basis. So here's the big stuff, he lies about everything, almost instinctively. He teases his little brother constantly and refuses to do anything he is asked to do. He has become so emotional lately, falling apart at the drop of a hat. I assume that it is probably related to the fact that he is always in trouble. He is mostly a sweet, sensitive boy. He is super intellegent, but tries to hide it. I just have no idea how to work through this with him, nothing seems to work.
 

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I know all too well about brillant boys who act out. I have one. He is 7 and since he could walk I have had worry in my heart for him. His behaviors were just crazy and off the wall. He was emtional beyond my understanding and still is today. He can slip into a rage and then fall in my arms into tears when he see something sad on TV. He loves to antagonize others, Making other people angry is his lifes work. Caden was dx. With PDD NOS, RO ODD and RO ADHD. Me, I think he is a genius that is overly sensitive. What worked for us is teaching him about choices. You can make the good choice and this will be the out come or you can make the bad choice and this will be your out come but its always his choice. We have different consequences for those actions.<br>
I also try to get him away from situations that bring this behavior on. Hunger is a big one for him, or if he is tired. Watch for those cues, they are a great way to beat him to the punch. HTH and GL!
 

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I can only make suggestion because we don't have discipline problems at least not as of yet. Has he always had these kinds of problems? At 6 you can explain choices and consequences. Maybe you have to find a punishment that he will hate enough to think twice at least some of the time. Do you remove privileges and on that note reward him when he is good? Could it be chemical, diet, or some underlying health issue? Does he watch a lot of T.V? On T.V. the behavior and attitudes of the characters are awful and have a strong effect on children. Especially at 6 years old. Is he around any other children who have the same behavior? There are so many issues that could affect how a child behaves and I am sure you ask yourself many of these questions. Personally I would be stressed and probably not very good at pinpointing it without help. Writting all the things down will help you make connections and remember too. I see you have a little baby too. How has that been for him? Does dad help discipline? If not maybe he needs dad or a male figure to initiate these expectations and enforce the consequence.
 

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I didn't mean to duplicate the choice recommendation. It takes me 30 min to post a reply because my babe is nursing and slapping chinese food out of my hand.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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First, thanks for your suggestions, it is hard to see things when you are in the middle of it. I have used the vocabulary, good choices/bad choices and natural consequences his whole life. I was a pre-school teacher. I can take anything away from him and he doesn't seem to care. Like when he refuses to clean his room, I took everything out of his room except his clothes, HE HELPED ME!!! He almost seemed relieved. I was homeschooling my 2 oldest at the begining of the year, but DS 1&2's bio dad insisted they attend public school, and somehow the court agreed, but that is another story. He started public school, I went ino the school after about a week to talk to his teacher and see how he was doing, the conversation lasted about 2 minutes and ended with me defending why I haven't had him tested for ADD. He is and always has had a problem staying focused...in school. He can play alone with blocks or Legos for hours. When we HSed, he seemed to be enjoying himself, he could move through things as fast or slow as he wanted.<br><br>
I feel like I am rambling, anyway, he only watches TV on the weekends and because he has a younger brother, we really do limit what he watches. But I completely agree with you on the behavior of these TV kids is ridiculous.<br><br>
I was reading what was said about sensitivity, and I will tell you about what happened once when he was 5, we were driving across country and we were going through Oklahoma City. We stopped and went through the memorial, it has this one room with all these tvs showing the news reports from around the world. I noticed he wasn't with me and I looked around and he was on the floor, curled up in a ball just sobbing. I picked him up and took him outside, but I felt so horrible, it really shook him. He drew pictures of exploding buildings for months. Same thing after 911 though. He always would draw these pictures of planes crashing into buildings.<br><br>
I will definately try to hone in on the catalysts though. Thanks for that suggestion. I will look into the diet more also.<br><br>
Have any of you guys read about the Indigo children?
 
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