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As we explore deeper into Gavin's palate issues, we discovered a very posterior tongue tie. The dentist thinks that it may be causing his gassiness (he breaks latch often), his trouble taking a bottle (we haven't found one yet that he can latch on to well), and that if we release it it may even help his palate form better.<br><br>
So we should clip it, right?<br><br>
But I can't do it! I keep saying that I'm researching it more, trying to make sure that the benefits really outweight the cost (especially since the only dentist that can clip this kind of tie doesn't take insurance) and the pain. But if I'm being truly honest with myself, I think it's because I just don't want to put Gavin through anything!<br><br>
Connor has been through so much, this pales in comparison, and I've been there with him for every bit of it. Every decision has been agonized over, but once we decide to do something, I am right with him, holding his hand while mean people cause necessary pain.<br><br>
But the thought of holding Gavin down while the dentist clips his tongue, for some reason I'm balking at it.<br><br>
What is going on in my head??????????
 

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Maaybe you feel like you can handle one child going through medical treatments pu emotionally you can't imagine going through it with 2. Not thst i think you can't bc I have followed your story and you are a very strong mom.<br><br>
I can tell you the longer you wait the worse it will be for him. DS got his done at 1 and had to go under for it, it was awful for him though I realize not as bad as some here have gone through. DD had hers done at 2 weeks it took ten minutes from start to finish and cost 250 roughly the same it cost for DS. It was the easiest thing for dd she cried for two secounds, nursed and we left.
 

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I know how you feel, after all Connor has been through putting another child in that place is hard. I have no trouble getting Megans procdures done if they are needed. My other kids thats a whole different story. My older DD (she just turned 5) has a cavitie on one of her teeth - it could be fixed easily in the dentists office, but there is the pull in me that just can't let me take that step. We put Megan under for far more extensive and mouth altering dental work with little question - it needed done. And yet I can't come to terms with letting my 5 year old get the filling put in (for the record it isn't bothering her at all - but it's on the eye tooth so she can see it when she looks in the mirror and knows it is there) Sarah is also a whole different demeanor then Megan - Megan is laid back, calm and hardly batts an eye when the put in an IV line or ripp off heart monitor stickys. Sarah we have to carry kicking and screaming into the dentist, has hit several doctors when they try to help her and will make ahuge fuss over a little boo boo.<br><br>
Ok enough of my story - I would have the tie clipped, he is young now, if will save you so much issue in the long run. It's hard to do but there are times when you as a parent have to bite the bullet and do what is best.
 

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Connor has put you through so much that you just expect it with him. It comes with the territory of Connor.<br><br>
But it does NOT come with the territory of Gavin. You're a complete fish out of water... which is uncomfortable.<br><br>
And I think the poster that noted the feeling that one is "untouched" by these difficult things is somewhat comforting--and this kind of feels like you don't have any of your children spared from the "mean" stuff. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Hugs to you...
 

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Every health issue I've faced with Caleb feels so much worse emotionally even though his also pale in comparison. I don't know why exactly. It's always like a drop more than my emotional bucket can handle somehow when it involves Caleb.<br><br>
I don't have advice. But I can tell you that what you're feeling doesn't surprise me and I don't think it's unusual among parents with a child with special needs.
 
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