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I just can't stand myself! Every time someone asks my boys if they are in Kindergarten, they proudly announce "Yes, at home with Mom!", and then when the asker looks at me, I shrug and surreptitiously say out the side of my mouth, "Yeah, it didn't seem like they were really ready for kindergarten - their birthdays are in June." Aaaargh! I guess I'm just so nonconfrontational, I'll say anything to get out of that awkward moment before having to answer any further questions. I'm posting this here in the hopes that I've said that for the last time. SO LAME!!!!!
 

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If you feel compelled to say something along those lines, how about "yes, and it's been so much fun!" or "yes, we thought about it a lot and decided it was the best fit for our particular family". I can get a bit caught off guard as well ... and I sometimes find myself spouting out things that I'm not sure where they came from ... like when I'm asked which primary school dd1 will attend. I've mostly encountered genuine and friendly curiousity though.
 

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What helped me was to realize that the sort of answer I chose to give needed to be more for my children's benefit than that of the acquaintance who had asked me the question. Assuming my kids were present to hear the interaction, which they almost always were. I realized that in the big picture I don't care what Patty the cashier or Mrs. Fahlmann from down the street think about our homeschooling, but I care an awful lot about what kind of awareness and feelings my kids form about our against-the-current choice. If my answer is apologetic or overly diplomatic, my kids would quickly form the impression that homeschooling was some sort of lesser choice that I felt the need to justify, or that there was something wrong with it. So instead, when I get asked, I frame up the answer I want my kids to hear, to heck with the person who asked, and I belt it out with feeling for the kids' sakes.<br><br>
"Oh yes, we're thrilled. Homeschooling is such a great adventure, and we're really looking forward to exploring all the incredible possibilities that are available to homeschoolers these days."<br><br>
Miranda
 

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Sounds to me like you don't need to say anything. The kids handled it fine!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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how about...they grow so fast it seems such a shame to send them off all day with someone who doesn't care about them as much as I do and we're having a such a blast enjoying life and learning so much. they are way ahead of where they would be in public school.
 

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Ok, stop then. You don't need to be ashamed of homeschooling. I know about when someone asks and you get that ball of fear that you may have to 'fess up' but force yourself to smile and say "yes we home school" Then quickly divert the convo away. No apologies, and no 'reasons'. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nono.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nono"> I found the more I did that the less of a ball of fear I had. I don't know how popular homeschooling is where you are, but if it's in the States it has to be more popular then here. (Theres only 4 families that I know of where I live) But if there are plenty around where you are rest in that. Then you can add "yes there are lots of homeschoolers here" it does make you feel better to know your not some lone weird duck.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">:
 

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Homeschooling is really not the big of a deal. You children seem to handle it fine and you need to do nothing the beem porudly at your lovely chidren. if you feel you must comment you can just say, matter of factly that "yep, we chose to homeschool"
 

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I agree with this completely, and with everything else that you've all said. I am hoping that my admission will help me be more mindful of the way I act around my children.<br><br>
And you're right frogguruami, the kids are handling the question just fine!<br><br>
Ironically, we're heading off to the mountains for a month, to a part of Colorado where everyone HSs their kids, so it will feel different to field the questions. In this town, the schools are considered to be excellent, so many people are very surprised that your children aren't enrolled, despite the growing popularity of HSing.<br><br>
Thanks for the support . . . .<br><br>
Sue
 

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I agree, seems the children are handling it well. I really hope that you start to feel more bold about it. You know that you're doing the best for them. Keep it up Mama.
 
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