Hi Ladies,
We have a very challenging almost 3 yo son. He has been even more spirited and challenging since the birth of his brother 4 months ago. It seems like we've been floundering on the discipline front.
For instance, this morning, DH brings both kids downstairs while I sleep in for another 20 minutes. DH walks to the kitchen and hears DS doing something. DS had pulled on the cord to the electric candles we have in the windows behind our couch and smashed a bulb. DH asks DS to come close to him b/c there is glass everywhere and that he needs to clean it up. DS literally walks right over and smashes another one. DH almost has a stroke. I come downstairs and bring the kids upstairs while DH cleans up.
I try to talk to DS. I tell him that daddy was concerned for his safety. I say, maybe he should stay in his room for a while and think about why he's choosing not to listen to mommy and daddy. And maybe he can help us come up with a better way for us to talk with each other.
Was this "right"?
Also, he's been very destructive with his toys and books lately. I now take things away immediately when he's been rough with them. And I remind him that he needs to be gentle with his things.
Is this "right"?
Does it ever feel right? I don't know. Nothing feels good with the way we're dealing with discipline lately. DS just doesn't listen. Maybe that's it's his age. Maybe we expect too much. But in spite of all that, how do you ever know if you're doing the right thing?
I want to use some kind of technique that works every time, that makes us all feel okay. But maybe discipline just never feels good? I don't know.
This has turned into a ramble. But if you have any insight, please pass it along.
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We have a very challenging almost 3 yo son. He has been even more spirited and challenging since the birth of his brother 4 months ago. It seems like we've been floundering on the discipline front.
For instance, this morning, DH brings both kids downstairs while I sleep in for another 20 minutes. DH walks to the kitchen and hears DS doing something. DS had pulled on the cord to the electric candles we have in the windows behind our couch and smashed a bulb. DH asks DS to come close to him b/c there is glass everywhere and that he needs to clean it up. DS literally walks right over and smashes another one. DH almost has a stroke. I come downstairs and bring the kids upstairs while DH cleans up.
I try to talk to DS. I tell him that daddy was concerned for his safety. I say, maybe he should stay in his room for a while and think about why he's choosing not to listen to mommy and daddy. And maybe he can help us come up with a better way for us to talk with each other.
Was this "right"?
Also, he's been very destructive with his toys and books lately. I now take things away immediately when he's been rough with them. And I remind him that he needs to be gentle with his things.
Is this "right"?
Does it ever feel right? I don't know. Nothing feels good with the way we're dealing with discipline lately. DS just doesn't listen. Maybe that's it's his age. Maybe we expect too much. But in spite of all that, how do you ever know if you're doing the right thing?
I want to use some kind of technique that works every time, that makes us all feel okay. But maybe discipline just never feels good? I don't know.
This has turned into a ramble. But if you have any insight, please pass it along.
