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dd is 3.5 months, and we've been trying to introduce the bottle since she was 3 wks old. we've tried every bottle, and dh has been the one giving it to her most of the time (and bearing the brunt of her crying<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">). our once a week babysitter has also tried, with great success on her first attempt, and not much since.<br><br>
it's almost as though each time it's a new experience. sometimes she hates it outright, sometimes she seems as though she doesn't know how to use it, sometimes she just needs a bit of coaxing, and sometimes she just takes it.<br><br>
we've even tried to only give her bottles for 2 days straight - we called it bottle boot camp - with me pumping the whole time in an attempt to get her used to it. it seemed like it was working the first day. but the second, she ate at 7 am and then would not take the bottle until 3:30 pm. she would cry for a while b/c she was hungry, then get really pissed when we put the bottle in her mouth, and then eventually go to sleep.<br><br>
i've never known a baby that wouldn't ever, ever take the bottle (not including the babes that were never offered one!). it's really frustrating since i plan on returning to work part time next month and i'm worried about leaving her and stressing out our babysitter.<br><br>
if you mamas have any advice for me, i would love to hear it. i was thinking to try to switch her to a cup as soon as i can, but i'm not sure when that would be appropriate.....<br>
thanks!!!
 

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I'm in the same position with my 4.5 m.o. She was bottle fed when she was in intensive care but once she got onto the breast she refused to go back! I have tried various ways to let her get used to the idea of the bottle but she always makes angry faces at it. We tried a sippy cup but she didn't like that idea either. Many women in my mothers group are in the same position.
 

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My DD did this for a while, too. In the end she started reverse cycling and took very little BM during the day. At 11 months, she will now take a bottle, but she still only eats 8-10 ounces a day while I'm gone. I would continue to have DH offer the bottle, but quit trying to force it. Most likely she will adapt, even if she get most of her nourishment from you at night (or whenever you are home).<br><br>
Our rule is, if mommy is at home the baby get the booby.
 

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I am in the same boat with my 3 month old. We have tried since he was 6 wks old, and I now own one of every type of bottle known to man and nothing. We try once a day three or four times a week, but if he gets too upset I usually can't take it and put him on th boob. The only bottle he will even attempt to suck on is the adiri natural nurser, but even with that one he doesn't swallow, just lets it dribble down his chin with a smile. Although a couple of my friends claim that bottle was the only one that worked for them, so I am going to keep at it.
 

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Try a cup instead of a bottle? My girls never liked bottles, but would drink some out of a sippy cup, or even a cup w/o a lid if you really coaxed them.
 

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I've known a couple breastfed babies that will only take bottles if the milk is really, really warm--like borderline hot. Plus some extra cuddling/walking/swinging type things to sort of distract from the fact that it's not mom, but the hot milk thing seemed key. Eventually they both worked their way down to just normal warm or even cold (from the frig) milk. HTH.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The only bottle he will even attempt to suck on is the adiri natural nurser, but even with that one he doesn't swallow, just lets it dribble down his chin with a smile. Although a couple of my friends claim that bottle was the only one that worked for them, so I am going to keep at it.</div>
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we also have a "bottle museum" and i was convinced that the adiri was the magic bottle that would change dd's mind. no dice. plus, that thing has so many design flaws.<br><br>
we're using the playtex nurser now, she seems to hate it the least.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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Have you tried the infant cups? They sell tiny cups with white lids, they are meant for infants and are maybe about dixie cup sized. I tried this with my children before, and it works well assuming they don't fight you to try to grab it.<br><br>
The cups have measurements on them so you can tell how much the baby drank.<br><br>
They actually are really good at drinking from them if you follow the directions.<br><br>
Otherwise... keep trying. Sometimes they will give in eventually. Sometimes with age it gets better.<br><br>
I would also have someone try when you are not anyplace nearby, and the baby knows this. My children eventually would take a bottle...at daycare at first. They knew they would be there all day and I wouldn't be coming for a long time. But at home, even if I was at work, when my husband or mom would give a bottle, it was hard at first.
 

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When you offer the bottle, do you try holding her cheeks in a "v"? Dd is not a fan of bottles either, but if you use the hand that is offering the bottle to place her cheeks up a bit, it reminds her how to take the bottle. Even though it isn't her favorite, she will drink from it then.
 

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I had the same issues with my son when I was getting ready to back to work. I was terrified that he would starve while at daycare because he wouldn't take a bottle. We ended up with the First Years BreastFlow bottle. He would tolerate that one more then the others. We tried several times before I went back to work but he would only ever take half-an-ounce. So the first day of daycare I dropped him off and cried all day thinking he was starving. He was a little reluctant at first, but by the end of the day he had taken most of his bottles. The key was it had to be extra warm - just about hot - a lot hotter then I would ever have heated it. We also found that he would not (and really still doesn't) take a bottle at home or with me around. He will take a bottle just fine if we are out of the house, but will not at home. I think it is because my scent is in the house - even if I leave. So he figures if he can smell me, then I must be there.<br><br>
So my suggestions: take the baby out of the house and try to feed. Buy a bottle with a nipple as closely shaped as yours - if that doesn't work - buy one totally different from yours. Try both latex and silicone nipples. Try faster flowing nipples - some women have hard let downs and if you have a slow flow nipple, the baby gets frustrated that it doesn't come out as fast as mom. And lastly - heat it up A LOT.<br><br>
Good luck everyone.<br><br>
~~Gina
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i've never known a baby that wouldn't ever, ever take the bottle (not including the babes that were never offered one!).</div>
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Meet my son. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
He is 8 months old and absolutely refuses a bottle. Refuses. Throws the biggest fit you've ever seen a baby throw. Acts like you're killing him. We've desperately needed him to take a bottle several times for medical reasons (administering barium for an upper GI, administering Pedialyte when he was dehydrated but they couldn't get an IV started and he was too lethargic and O2 sat too low to nurse, extreme low supply during hospitalizations that required me having to try to give him my freezer stash). He would seriously rather starve than take a bottle. We tried 6 different types of bottles/nipples with no luck.<br><br>
So he nurses. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Luckily I have a job where he can stay in the daycare just downstairs from my office, and I get to nurse him on demand throughout the day. I don't know what I would have done all these months if I had had to go back to an actual job away from him.
 

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we don't have this problem, but I spent a lot of time at a breastfeeding support group after DS was born, and these were the suggestions given to try to get the baby to take the bottle:<br><br>
-walk around while offering the bottle<br>
-when you nurse, try having the bottle nearby... like, next to your breast, to help the baby develop a positive association<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I tried getting dd to take a bottle for a while and it just never worked. We tried everything. So we tried a cup and she did great! Now she will drink from a sippy or a regular cup and hold it herself at 7 months, so I'm actually really glad we tried a cup. I don't leave her more than maybe 2 hours in a month, but at least I don't have to worry she is starving now. Good luck!
 

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not that i've been successful at this yet, but my DD is 2 months old and we've been offering her the bottle for a few weeks now, at least once per day. boy have i wasted lots of milk in the process!<br><br>
but anyhow, i find that she's most receptive to it when we play with her on the floor near the toys that she likes to kick above her. she'll gum the nipple of the bottle and more or less play with it. she even sucks on it every once in a while. but once she gets upset at all, i stop immediately! i don't want her to hate the bottle and be afraid of it!<br><br>
she seems to like playtex nursers the best, followed by the breastflow. anything that kindof squishes into her mouth a bit, like my boob does. i'm hoping that when she really needs to take the bottle, she'll be ready!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Both my girls refused bottles, I've worked with many moms who never were able to use a bottle. Some had to get very creative when they went back to work. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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How do you heat the milk? Will it get hot enough if the milk-full bottle is in a larger cup of hot water? Or is there another method?
 
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