[3 little birds]

Hi, I am looking for pro intact book recommendation for a friend who will not look at anything on the internet. She will only do what her dr. says, I am hoping I can get her husband to read a book or booklet, cause the Dr. told her circing is the cleanest thing to do.

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Thank you!!!!

 

[Quirky]

Frankly, if she's that unwilling to research, I would go for the short and sweet - order the Mothering reprint on circumcision but don't bother buying a book, because in all likelihood she won't read it.

 

[kldliam]

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She will only do what her dr. says

GOOD GOD! That is frightening.

Let me get back to you (soon) on the book recommendations.

 

[kldliam]

Hmmmm. It occured to me that you need to make her aware that many Doctors believe that Circ is HARMFUL (the ethical ones that is). Tell her it is aways wise to get a 2nd, 3rd and 4th opinion before cutting things off that never grow back. The whole AAP thinks it to be unecessary too!

Dr. Spock is against it I believe

Dr. Fleiss (the Mothing Mag. article) is too.

http://www.luckystiff.org/files/TheCase6Page.pdf

http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcisi...lications.html

Print out these publications for her anyway. Let us know what happens.

 

[kxsiven]

Doctors Re-examine Circumcision by Thomas J., M.D. Ritter and George C. Denniston

Circumcision, The Hidden Trauma : How an American Cultural Practice Affects Infants and Ultimately Us All by Ronald Goldman

Say No to Circumcision: 40 Compelling Reasons by Thomas J., M.D. Ritter and George C. Denniston

 

[3 little birds]

Well, it is not going so well. I wrote a nice letter, and sent the Fleiss article, the its a boy pamphlet, the oklahoma blog printout and the intact care agreement.

The recipient called her sister-in-law yelling and upset about it. It ended in the sister in law hanging up and noone has spoken since. The information was not read, she was upset because I even sent it to her (despite requesting baby advice). She is being induced Friday and I feel helpless. Her sister in law says she will circ just because SIL told her not to. I was really hoping to appeal to the dad, but he isn't easily accessible and probably won't go against his wife.

I have her email and am considering sending her a video link as a last ditch effort.

Any advice?

 

[TigerTail]

I'm sorry. While this brand of child torture is still legal, you have likely run out of options.

I hope for her son's sake that the emotions of the moment ran high & she changes her mind before it occurs.

 

[Jaydens_mom]

Send her the vid... let her know that skin IS attached to the head ( that he is prying off before cutting )...let her know he wouldn't have been born with that skin attached if it wasn't like that to protect him..explain EXACTLY how that skin keeps his penis away from feces and urine and how it actually KEEPS it CLEAN instead of allowing airborn bacteria and etc at it...

Make sure she knows the baby isn't just crying because it doesnt like being held down.. and tell her that they don't use numbing agents when circ'ing either so the baby feels EVERYTHING..

Tell her it would be the equivalent to her having her clitoral hood PRYED off her clit and sliced with a scapel to remove it.

LET HER KNOW BABIES FEEL PAIN!

 

[KrystalC]

I'm so sorry she's not willing to listen to reason when it comes to her child's well-being!!! I hope she sees her little boy all content the way he is and realizes what she'd be doing to him if she has him cut!

 

[Lula's Mom]

You can send her the video (what could it hurt? she's already mad) but it sounds like she won't watch it.

I am sorry. It's good of you to try.

 

[Jaydens_mom]

try tricking her... pretend the link is for a funny vid or something and when she clicks it she will be all grossed out... maybe that will change her mind..

 

[Microsoap]

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Originally Posted by 3 little birds Hi, I am looking for pro intact book recommendation for a friend who will not look at anything on the internet. She will only do what her dr. says, I am hoping I can get her husband to read a book or booklet, cause the Dr. told her circing is the cleanest thing to do. : Thank you!!!!

I'd go the "wow, you must be from Mars or something!" route and say: If you're not willing to educate yourself for the best of your child, then I pity him!

You either go the (you look like) you-got-two-heads route or the p***ed off route. Perhaps the later would make it sink in more. If your child has a near drowning and you didn't bother using life jackets and you send your kid out swimming again sans-life jacket, wouldn't YOU be a little ticked off at that parent to go the hostile route? KWIM?