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It's been a while since I've checked in. But, lately, I'm finding I'm needing some support. My ds who will be 6 in March is nursing to sleep and sometimes in the morning. The problem of course is with family. It becomes more of an issue when we travel to my parents. They live in an RV fulltime. It's small and there is NO privacy. I've asked ds to not ask to nurse in front of them because they are uncomfortable with it. He is usually fine. Except when we were there last week, he asked to nurse to sleep. Then he fell all over himself trying to cover up, which looked even worse.
"I'm sorry mommy, I forgot not to ask in front of Grammy. Grammy go to bed please." I felt so bad for him. Then my mom gave me one of those looks. The last time she was at my house, he asked in front of her and she said the standard "don't tell me he is still nursing." Then as my dh drove her to the airport she started crying to him how it was wrong and how he couldn't support this and how something must be wrong with me. He totally support me and told her that it was really not her business and that ds will stop when he is ready and that I'm really ready for him to but he isn't (true).
I guess I'm starting to feel uncomfortable and a little worried. He asked in front of a whole group if one little girl still had nannies. I said something about when she was a baby. I've talked to him about how most kids his age don't and that it is fine that he does and can chose when he wants to stop. but, sometimes I get worried even about losing him if someone causes trouble.
It's just that he seems so old to me to be nursing. I'm a LLL leader, so I have all of the info, but no one else I know is nursing an older child. I'm also afraid he will never stop. I know that is not true. But, I can't shake these uncomfortable feelings and worries now. He's an only child and will be, so I'm sure that has something to do with him nursing so long. I know there is nothing wrong with it, but I sometimes worry.
It's been a while since I've checked in. But, lately, I'm finding I'm needing some support. My ds who will be 6 in March is nursing to sleep and sometimes in the morning. The problem of course is with family. It becomes more of an issue when we travel to my parents. They live in an RV fulltime. It's small and there is NO privacy. I've asked ds to not ask to nurse in front of them because they are uncomfortable with it. He is usually fine. Except when we were there last week, he asked to nurse to sleep. Then he fell all over himself trying to cover up, which looked even worse.
"I'm sorry mommy, I forgot not to ask in front of Grammy. Grammy go to bed please." I felt so bad for him. Then my mom gave me one of those looks. The last time she was at my house, he asked in front of her and she said the standard "don't tell me he is still nursing." Then as my dh drove her to the airport she started crying to him how it was wrong and how he couldn't support this and how something must be wrong with me. He totally support me and told her that it was really not her business and that ds will stop when he is ready and that I'm really ready for him to but he isn't (true).
I guess I'm starting to feel uncomfortable and a little worried. He asked in front of a whole group if one little girl still had nannies. I said something about when she was a baby. I've talked to him about how most kids his age don't and that it is fine that he does and can chose when he wants to stop. but, sometimes I get worried even about losing him if someone causes trouble.
It's just that he seems so old to me to be nursing. I'm a LLL leader, so I have all of the info, but no one else I know is nursing an older child. I'm also afraid he will never stop. I know that is not true. But, I can't shake these uncomfortable feelings and worries now. He's an only child and will be, so I'm sure that has something to do with him nursing so long. I know there is nothing wrong with it, but I sometimes worry.