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My 2 year old has been waking up screaming and crying every night at least once between 10 & midnight. Tonight we're up to 2 and it's not even 11 yet. Sometimes she seems definately awake, other times she's hysterical, but incoherent. The only thing that seems to sooth her is nursing, but nursing her is totally reversing the progress towards night weaning we were making. She wants to nurse every couple of hours at night again, which I could handle if I weren't nursing a 9 month old through the night too. Sometimes I can get her to go back to sleep just snuggling in, but other times she screams and wakes the baby and I end up with both of them screaming to nurse at the same time. I haven't gotten more than an hour or 2 of solid sleep in over 3 weeks which is starting to wear on me. I know that she is adjusting to a lot right now-- we recently moved, she and thebaby both have colds, I'm sure she's picking up the sress fom dh & I about jobs/ finances. I hate to hear her crying and screaming, but I don't know what to do. We all share a king sized bed. Echo (2 year old) had started asking to go to bed in her own bed, next to ours about a month go, but usually ended up in bed with us at some point during the night. Th last week or so she wants to go to sleep in our bed again. It's no problem, just more info. She's also potty learning right now--mostly her initiative, and pooped on the potty all by herself for the first time yesterday. Is it just because there's so much going on--developmentally and environmentally. Is there anything I can do to help her. Is there anything I can do to stop her from crying and screaming so hard at night? It breaks my heart<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> Sorry this is so long. I hope some of you mamascan help me.
 

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I don't think it is a night terror because they are actually not awake when they are having night terrors, so I don't think she would nurse if that was the case. My brother had night terrors and they were very scary. He would be screaming and walking around the house hysterical, but couldn't even recognize our parents. He was still actually asleep. He would eventually just get back in his bed and go back to sleep like nothing happened. Very wierd.
 

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i feel thankful for your dd that she has a caring loving mom to be there for her when she wakes up so upset.<br><br>
if nursing helps i would certainly do that and put off the night weaning thing until she gets past these night upsets.
 

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thanks for such a supportive post. Things have been better the past few nights. Still waking, but not so hysterical and settled back down easier. hopefully this trend continues.
 

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i babysat a kid with night terrors and he had one once while i was there. his parents had somehow figured out that if you offer him a marshmallow he will settle down and eat it. i know, weird but even though they arent awake , they do respond to familiar comforts sometimes, and a marshmallow was like this huge exciting treat for him. but yes it is very scary, they just scream and scream... i think my ds has something like night terrors also. he will wake up crying and freaking out and hitting me and wont respond to ANYthINg, even nursing, but only at first. at some point i can convince him to nurse. i dont know what to tell you , just <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> because i am sleep deprived also and i know how difficult that is, esp in the middle in the night .<br><br><br>
maybe you can figure out a similar thing, like get her attached to a teddy bear? i am working on that with ds right now, just hoping it will help him settle to sleep more on his own ( still up every 2 hours , likes to hold my nipple while he sleepsand it makes me insane, replacing the nipple with teddy vbear)<br><br>
that isnt backed by any research , just a thing i am trying......
 

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My step-son (who is now 9.5 yrs) had horrible night terrors, what seemed to help was to take him into the bathroom - he would pee and then he would go back to sleep fine. I don't know if his need to pee and making that mesh with the daytime potty training (he was 2-3 when they were bad) lead to the crying - or if, like eating the marshmallow, it just was somehow a comfort. Either way - it seemed to work for him.
 

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Thanks for the responses. I do think the nursing is a comfort thing like the marshmallow. Often when she first starts screaming I have to wait a little while before she can realize that I'm there at all, and if I talk at all it makes things worse. When she can recognize my touches and I lay her next to me she'll usually latch on mid scream and settle right down. if I don't give her that moment to be able to realize its me before I touch or talk to her it's worse. Last night she was yelling "but I don't want to go potty!" We have been potty learning--her initiative, and it's been going really well, except for poops, but the last few days I've been just putting her in big girl panties without asking. This morning I asked and she wanted a diaper. Maybe too much pressure. I've also noticed they are much worse if she gets over tired. She still is waking every few nights, but they aren't lasting as long andshe is sleeping better through the rest of the night. thanks for the support!
 

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we SO went through the night terrors with my now 5 1/2 year old son. He went through this when he was about 18 months, to about 24th months. We tried everything, but the only thing that worked was a suggestion from my midwife, which sounds a little bizarre. She said htat you have to break the sleep cycle that is going on, or else they will just keep having them over and over. What we did (and I know, it sounds strange) was wake him up about 1/2 hour to 45 minutes after he went to sleep, and REALLY wake him up. Turn the lights on, dance around, anything. What really worked for us was going outside & getting him to look at the moon, and reciting "goodnight moon". Once he was good and awake, everyone back to bed. After doing that for a week, he has never had another night terror.<br><br>
worth a try! good luck, I know how scary that is when they are so hysterical like that.
 
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