1. DHand I agreed..NO MORE KIDS.
Sometimes it just doesn't work the way we plan. It takes two in this department so unless someone wasn't truthful, it is no one's "fault".
2. DH and I both recently got laid off. I have some work coming up, but it will only last through the aummer, and it is hard, outdoor work.
I'm sorry about the lay offs; that must be very stressful. If you are used to hard physical labor, I don't think it is a threat to the pregnancy.
3. We are broke. I have bills paid because I am getting help. The finacial situation will improve next month for awhile thanks to the temp jobs, but what happens in October?
I don't know.
Do you still have baby clothes and other items you'd need? Could you ask for prenatal vitamins and diapers as birthday and Mother's Day gifts if your parents/siblings/ILs/etc do gifts?
4. My DH and I are having MAJOR issues. I have actually considered in a vague way what would happen if we went our seperate ways.
I think most couples who are together for a long time have very, very low points where they wonder if it is right to stay or right to go. This often passes if we wait it out.
5. No money for a midwife.
Could you barter with one? Or find a natural-minded CNM who does hospital births? Do you have insurance that would cover any type of birth?
6 My family is going to be really, really displeased. We took alot of flak for the last pregnancy..now what?
This is unfortunate, but you will find support in friends IRL and/or here.
Please, tell me it will be ok. How the heck am I going to get another carseat in the car? Please, just some supporting words will do.
It will be ok! No matter what you decide. Another car seat in the car - well, did I read dss in your sig? Does he live with you full time or part? Is he old enough to ride in the front seat if only one adult is going? How often would all five of you go somewhere together in the car? Do you have friends or relatives nearby who could shuttle one if needed? Could you trade cars with someone on the occassions you all had to go somewhere? What about actually trading cars with someone who might like a smaller, better gas mileage car for their bigger car?
Ok, those are my supporting words!