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I've been carrying my ds around who is 16 mo. and about 25 lbs. I mean not a lot but have been carrying him some what throughout my entire pregnancy (I'm 15 weeks) and someone alarmed me that seperation of the placenta could happen if I continue to hold him. I'm so scared right now. Is anyone else in my boat with a toddler and multiples?? And if so, have you been holding your dc a lot? thanks. ?
 

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My twins were my first, but I held my nephew every time they came to visit (which was almost weekly). He was around 23-24 lbs at the time. I babysat him and my niece when I was around 20 wks preggo and had to carry him alot that day. Other than that, I only picked him up for short periods of time. Last time I carried him was a few days before I gave birth and everything was completely fine (I actually have the cutest picture of him in my arms literally sitting on my stomach like its a chair.. its soo cute and funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). I think that as long as you listen to your body and dont over do it, you should be fine. But as always, its good to err on the side of caution, so if you dont feel comfortable doing it, try not picking him up as much (maybe try getting down on his level more and playing with him on the floor). Congrats and good luck with your twinnies!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Well I had my placentas tear at 13 weeks but was told lifting my then 17 month old child (who weighed 18 lbs at the time) would not have caused the placentas to tear. We never did find a cause for the tear but until I had the bleeding I was never told I couldn't lift my toddler. In fact at 20 weeks when I was able to come off bed rest (went back on the next week but thats another story) I was told I could lift my toddler if I needed to.
 

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I haven't decided no lifting, but I'm being much more careful this time around. DS is getting pretty big, so it's getting harder.
 

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I still carry my 4 year old more than I would like to! She's about 30 pounds. I thought it was a myth about carrying heavy loads. Just like lifting your arms above your head would cause the baby to strangle on the umbilical cord. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:
 

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I had my twins in Dec and up until the day I delivered I would still pick up and carry my 4yr old. He was about 35lbs at the time. My doc said my weight restriction was 30lbs and to lift with my legs. My girls were born perfectly healthy.
 

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My dd is almost 3, about 28lbs and my day would be Hell if I didn't pick her up. I make her walk most of the time, but this is for my own comfort, not saftey. I have asked my dr and she has indicated that there is no problem and I am about 23 weeks. I don't want dd to think that I can't do what I use to do with her just because of the babies, I don't want her to resent them before they are even here. If your back is hurting or your tummy is having growing pains try to avoid it for your comfort, but other than that I think it is fine. For me in a month or two, it is just not going to be very possible for me to carry her much at all, but I am going to keep going like this for as long as I can.
 

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Thanks ladies! I go in this Fri. to see my dr so I will run this by her. I feel fine when holding my ds and I try not to over dot it. Thanks again for all your advice....it really helped!
 

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I'm almost 28 weeks and I hold my 17 month old (26 lbs) alot. I wear him on my back and hold him when he needs holding. He's too little to not hold him! The reason you're not supposed to lift things is that you can hurt yourself, not the babies. As you grow you'll have less and less use of your abdominal muscles and are more likely to hurt your back. Lift with your legs and don't lift anything heavier then your little one, but there isn't any reason to not hold a child. Of course if you are on bed rest or are having PTL it's a no no, but that's because it's alot of physical work to lift a toddler. Now because of size I only hold him while I'm sitting or if he's on my back.
 

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Add another Mama who lifted a toddler and turned out perfectly healthy babies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My toddler was 16.5 months when my twins were born. It's a journey, for sure!
 

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I was never told to stop lifting my dd. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I carried my DD throughout the pg. My doula was agains t it but my doc said nothing about it. Everything was fine! I also remulched the front gardens and went to the waterpark on a regular basis but that is another story....
 

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I had a toddler during my triplet pregnancy and definitely held him. Its almost impossible for a mother NOT to hold their toddler who is insisting on it?? I say try to limit it as much as possible - use step stools in/out of car, crib, high-chair, etc -- but some holding will just be unavoidable . . . IMHO
 

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My son was 18 months when I got pg with the twins. I had to carry him when it was necessary. Just try to do it as little as possible and for short periods. You gotta do what you gotta do. Try holding him while sitting when it is possible too.
 
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