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The decision of how to handle Rh- mamas with Rh+ papas is a challenging one. I really believe that research and listening to your heart is the best solution. Make sure you do your own research, because it's important to take responsibility for your own learning. This is just the most basic and simplified research that I found and managed to hold onto after 4 years has passed since researching it.
First off, learn what RhoGam is -- RhoGam is a human blood product. It's created by sensitizing Rh- senior citizens to Rh+ blood and then harvesting their blood. There are quite a few who ethically object to this because of some rather harsh treatment these typically near or at poverty women are subjected to. Others object because as recently as in the last 5 years the UK's RhoGam supply became tainted with a blood borne disease. Recently we have had pretty safe RhoGam available in the US.
RhoGam was first introduced in the late 1960's almost as a response it would seem to the medicalized birth practices that were strongly entrenched in American life. Before RhoGam a woman could not give birth to more than one or two Rh+ babies. She would suffer miscarriages. Before medicalized birth, however this was not necessarily a problem.
As birth became strongly rooted in the hospital so did medical ideals for handling the 2nd and 3rd stages of labor. These ideals were not supported by lay midwives or historical birthing records. This includes things like clamping or cutting the cord immediately after the birth of the baby (shown to increase the likelihood of blood from the placenta crossing the barrier into the mother's system), tugging or pulling on the cord (similar increase noted), rushed 3rd stage of labor (may result in poor separation of placenta from the uterine wall, thus increasing likelihood of bloods mixing).
At first RhoGam took care of a lot of Rh sensitivity, not all, but a lot. It was given only after Rh- women gave birth. Medical technology rapidly expanded over time, but despite routinely giving RhoGam to Rh- women, Rh sensitivity was still commonly occurring. But, certainly something with the routine medicalized birth was not the culprit, nooooooo noooooo there was a problem with women's bodies becoming sensitized. So, RhoGam has most recently been recommended during the 2nd trimester to prevent possible sensitization. Even with this safety net, women who have received both shots are still being sensitized. RhoGam is not 100% effective.
I'm Rh- and I have a Rh+ partner and two Rh+ children. I am not Rh sensitized. And, I have never received RhoGam. If you asked a RhoGam exec about me, they'd probably say that I'm just very lucky, but I don't think luck has anything to do with this. I think it's more about understanding the risks of sensitization and either catching your own baby or having a care provider who is knowledgeable about proper handling of 2nd/3rd stages in preventing sensitization.
1. My babies cords are never clamped or cut until after the placenta is fully delivered.
2. There is no tugging or pulling or clamping the cord.
3. There is no pressure to deliver the placenta in some set standard of time (my son's placenta took about 45 minutes to appear after his birth & my daughter's placenta took about thirty minutes as I recall).
I should note, I'm talking about normal healthy pregnancy and labor. If I experienced trauma during pregnancy or labor that would indicate the need for RhoGam, I certainly would accept the shot.
And, so, that's what I learned and that's my story. Just information. You need to decide what feels true to your heart and what your situation calls for.