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Help! I'm out of ideas. My 14mo old is a biter. She doesn't do it out of anger or mean spiritedness or anything. Generally she does it when she's tired and right now she's doing it *alot* 'cause she's getting her canines in and I think her mouth is bugging her. I understand it, but it still hurts!<br><br>
Luckily (or unluckily as it may be =) she doesn't bite other kids or adults, only me and her dad. She doesn't respond to any of my verbal rebukes. Not to a stern "no biting, Amaya", nor a hurt "that hurts mommy when you bite her please don't". I've even swated her bum and bit her in return. None of this phases her. I have teething things out and readily available so she can knaw on those, and that does help keep her teeth off me, but really I feel like I need to get it through to her that biting mommy is really not an okay outlet for her current oral fixation.<br><br>
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Our ds is doing the exact same thing. My left shoulder has bruises!! Last Saturday, I couldn't pry him off and swatted his bum as well. I felt so guilty afterwards, but I was in pain! (Of course, it didn't phase him one bit- he didn't let up.) He's getting top canines as well. Why don't they do it to daddy as much? I've noticed he usually does it when tired, hungry, or when he has to go to the bathroom...it's like he gets ravenous and can't stop and actually laughs sometimes. Wish I had advice, but just know you're not alone.
 

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must be a 14mo thing as my ds is doing it as well (he even made a huge blood blister on my chest recently..ack.) nothing has really worked for us except if I get up amd move away from him.<br><br>
off to search for those threads in GD <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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IMO, babes this young are almost too young to even discipline. I don't mean we should do nothing, but stern voices and swatting will almost definitely not help and might make the attachment you share weak.<br><br>
My suggestion is to avoid their mouths. :LOL I'm partly kidding but partly serious - this is something that will definitely pass and I think in the meantime we just have to catch them before they get us and avoid getting angry.<br><br>
(When my first baby was one, I was so amazed at the walking and new talking that I didn't really realize he was SUCH a baby still - expected too much. I don't know if that's going on with any of you mamas, but I noticed your babies are your firsts, from the sig.)<br><br>
good luck, stay unbitten!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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It's comforting to know it's a age specific thing-- meaning this too will pass on it's own!<br><br>
Side note:<br>
I was at a park today with dd when while holding her hand, she pulled my hand into her mouth to bite me. I tapped her chin and said "no biting" and she stopped. A six year old we had befriended was right there when this happened and was horrified at dd's behavior! She then proceeded to tell me that she watches the supernanny and did I know what the supernanny would have done? She would say that I should give Amaya a chart and for everyday that she was good, I should give Amaya a sticker. But everyday that Amaya bites, hits, or kicks she wouldn't get a sticker. LOL. It was precious! I told her that it was a very good idea, but that I didn't think Amaya would understand it yet.
 

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My ds was a huge fan of biting, anyone and anything. He did it when he was happy, sad, angry, excited, etc. It really started peaking around 14-18 months. He's 24 months now and it has pratically stopped all together. I would just always try to explain to him that it hurt others and I would always ask him to try to tell me with words what he was feeling instead of using his teeth to bite. Someone suggested to me that I should start biting him back, but I really didn't agree with that because I don't think that you teach them not to do something to others by doing that same thing to them. It was really tough for a few months, but we were persistent and now that he is able to communicate better, its sooooooo much better. Just hang in there and be patient. Oh, one of my favorite pieces of advice about biting came from a friend who said to me "when is the last time you saw an adult biting someone? It will stop eventually!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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yes, i know swatting doesn't work- it was a knee-jerk reaction to being in pain. he actually has let up since 2 more teeth came through.
 

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well I have never swatted ds for biting, it's really best just to get away from him usually :LOL and telling him no definitly doesn't work for us. I think sometimes he just does it automatically without thinking really, as he bites on <i>everything</i> these days it seems.
 

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never had this problem <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
good luck<br><br>
if u think her mouth is bothering her have u tryed advil or motrin?
 

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yeah, I give her ibuprofen if she seems to be really in pain. If I gave it to her when she's just distracted by her mouth, I think I'd be dosing her 24/7 for the next few months. lol! Maybe I'll try the teething tablets again. I tried them when she was teething at 6&7mo, but they didn't help at all then. Maybe now that she's a bit older it will provide psychosomatic relief if nothing else.<br><br>
You're right, makbear, it is just part of her communication. I can't wait for her to talk! I bet she can't either!
 
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