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I have been struggling with my soon to be 6 yr. ds <span style="text-decoration:underline;">constant</span> bedwetting. I have tried many, many approaches in dealing with it. Stickers for dry nights, greatly reducing fluids at the end of day, making sure he goes before bedtime, using an alarm clock to wake him up in the early am hours (it seems to always happen somewhere around 4-5am), etc., etc., etc. This has been going on solid for the past year, maybe longer I cannot remember. And for some odd reason the past couple days he has urinated in his pants while outside playing. Very out of character for him. Now, I know that they grow out of it and to be patient but I must admit, I am really starting to lose patience with this. And I am finding myself getting very steamed inside. Maybe it is my preg. hormones I don't know. But I am about ready to start making him do his own laundry!!!!!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
I know this is a common problem and there must be many other mamas who can give me some input/suggestions. PLEASE!!!!
 

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Augh... we sympathize. Hopefully our dd (7 yo) won't take a year, but she's a twice a night wake-upper (us waking up and dragging her from her loft bed and putting her on the potty, dragging her back to bed--she never wakes up during this arduous process) and we're sleep deprived all over again from it.<br><br>
We're at a loss for what to do. Even worse as she has COBPD and is horribly depressed and emotional about her inability to wake up, wetting the bed, etc.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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We used one of the alarm systems with my dd when she was 6yo. It worked far beyond our expectations. She had never had a dry night in her life when we started. Within two weeks she was mostly dry every night and was completely dry within two months.<br><br>
For her, it was a very positive thing. She asked me why we hadn't done it earlier. Dr. Sears talks about them on his web site.
 

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I will have to look at his site again but I guess that I have always had it in my head that it was semi-traumatic for the child. Are they expensive?
 

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My dd didn't find it at all traumatic. Every kid is different. You can read about what Dr. Sears says at <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071200.asp" target="_blank">http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071200.asp</a> We did some of what he suggests in terms of explanation of how the brain and the bladder work, and it made sense to dd. We didn't do the drills.<br><br>
With her, she was starting to get bothered by the bedwetting. We didn't make a big deal about it, but she was starting to go on campouts with YGuides, and she was very worried about other kids finding out. She also didn't like waking up wet.<br><br>
I casually mentioned that these alarm systems existed and told her that if she ever wanted to try one she could let me know. She jumped on it immediately and bugged me every day until it arrived. She was thrilled with overcoming the bedwetting, and didn't mind using the alarm at all. She needed help waking up the few times it went off, as she's a very deep sleeper, so one of us slept on her floor for a week or so.<br><br>
This is the one we bought. <a href="http://www.bedwettingstore.com/bedwetting-malem.htm" target="_blank">http://www.bedwettingstore.com/bedwetting-malem.htm</a> It cost $80, but was well worth it.
 

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I was a bed wetter and I remember that my parents tried depends type diapers, alarm systems, nightly wakings, rewards etc. Nothing worked. From a kid point of view, I think it was better for me after my folks showed me how to use the washer and dryer so I could do my own laundry. That way I could deal with it myself and it wasn't their prob. Anyhow, I distinctly remember that the more I was talked to about bedwetting, the more I though about it, the harder I tried not to....the more I wet. The only dry nights I ever had came whe I had somehow magically gone throughout the day without my parents having said anything about wetting, and without having had it come to my own mind. without setting the alarms. If I thought about wetting before falling asleep, I was sure to wet. So about a year after I noticed this, I asked my dad to get me some books on tape, and I started listening as a fell asleep. After a couple weeks (during which turning on the tape made me think of wetting) I had no problems.
 

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My 5.5 yo ds wets almost everynight. He was dry for a little while most nights, but has again regressed. After a month or so of mostly wet nights I offered to buy him pull ups/ goodnights and he smiled with relief and is so happy to put them on. I'm letting this go right now as I feel that he <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> isn't ready. Now my ds2 that is 34 months was totally trained day / night for several months and is now refusing to potty and having accidents all the time. That to me is more frustrating for some reason. I'm not sure how to proceed with him.
 

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Hmmm....I have suggested to ds using pull ups. He got very upset by that. I appreciate your input Brandywine.
 

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my 6 year old ds also got upset at the suggestion of pullups. he saw it as punative. they made him feel bad. then i found these things called all night pants made by nicky's. i got them at <a href="http://www.babyworks.com" target="_blank">www.babyworks.com</a> they are more like undies, and he likes them. i showed him the tag with the size that says they are for 6/7 year olds, and that was good enough ffor him. they really amde a big difference in our lives!
 
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