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My son is 19 months old, and I'm pregnant with #2 due in September. I wanted to nurse him until age 2 at least and then possibly tandem with the new baby.<br><br>
Unfortunately, I have a growing number of concerns--and complaints.<br><br>
For one thing, his teeth are decaying. I brush them and keep him away from sweets, but it's not helping. They are blaming night nursing, which I think is ridiculous. However, he nurses a LOT throughout the day still, so I suppose it could be reasonable that my sugary breastmilk is contributing to the problem. He needs a lot of dental work already, and I'm afraid I may be making it worse.<br><br>
Like I said, he nurses a LOT--all the time. He rarely eats any solid foods. He'll sip a little from his cup, but he barely touches solid food at all. He won't let me feed him; he tries to do it himself, but isn't too good. He snacks on little things here and there, but even stuff he used to like, he is starting to refuse. He just wants to nurse whenever he's hungry/thirsty.<br><br>
I don't mind that he nurses for comfort or to sleep, except for the whole...tooth problem. But I have an issue with the fact that...I can't just cuddle with him. If he's near me, he's nursing. Otherwise he wants nothing to do with me. It'd be nice to just sit there and hold him without nursing. Sometimes it's like I am just a buffet.<br><br>
My main problem now is that he romps all over me, all the time. He is always on me, climbing all over me, going from breast to breast. It hurts, and it really doesn't help my morning sickness in the least. I can't get my stomach to settle because he is always romping all over me. It's really uncomfortable. I also worry that if he keeps doing this he'll eventually hurt the baby by frolicking all over my abdomen the way he does.<br><br>
I don't want to wean him, but I do want to limit his breastmilk intake during the day so that he will eat more solid foods--and have less milk on his teeth. I would like to find a way to get him to fall asleep without nursing. More importantly I just can't have him climbing all over me, because he really hurts me. (And he's starting to bite when he first latches on; the first few seconds hurt now.)<br><br>
When I try to turn him away and tell him to go play, drink from his sippi, eat some grapes, he gets really mad...and my husband just tells him "Mommy doesn't want to feed you right now." And I'm like... it's not even feeding, he's doing it for comfort and control, he even has to pick which breast. Then when I ask him to take care of the baby, like try to get him to sleep so I can rest for a few minutes or hold him so my stomach can settle, he's like "Well there's nothing I can do cuz he's still nursing." So he acts like it's this bad problem that I've created and guilt trips me for extended nursing, and then turns around and guilt trips me for not nursing if I'm throwing up, exhausted, and just need a break. I get very little help.<br><br>
Does anyone have any advice for me or my husband? I love nursing but I am starting to like it less and less, and it feels like it is starting to interfere with my son's health. I've got to find a way to lessen some of these issues.
 

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hugs to you! it's not always a picnic when your preg and breastfeeding.<br><br>
i'm pretty sure breastfeeding does not cause tooth decay. it's bottle feeding and/or genes. you should search the archives here, there's been alot of threads dicussing this topic and check the kellymom links. none of my kids ever had tooth decay from breastfeeding. but, please, don't blindly believe your dentist. search, search, search.<br><br>
19 mos is still a crucial time in nursing. it will get better in a few more months, but 19 is still a high needs time. my dd (#3 child) was 18 mos when i became preg with #4 and it was still another several months before she showed a sizable interest in solids.<br><br>
they will want cuddling, just not right now.<br><br>
your ds could also be cutting 2 yr molars.<br><br>
hang in there. his neediness is not your fault. it's just part of motherhood. you are doing everything right.<br><br>
the acrobatics are not going to hurt your baby. i always thought it was neat when the baby kicked while a nursling was nursing. a nice little bump on the ear, gentle and interactive to amaze the nursling.<br><br>
they won't be nursing like this forever. and the time does go by fast...<br><br>
and i know when you aren't feeling good it does feel like forever<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 
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